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Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 5 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Wendy Apr 7.

My Love 1 Reply

On November 6 of this year, I lost my husband in a tragic automobile accident. We live in Georgia and the accident was in Montana making it more difficult. I am completely lost as we were best…Continue

Started by Kathy West. Last reply by Anna Chris Apr 7.

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Comment by Tildyc on March 23, 2015 at 5:51pm
Yup- I have to be careful around my phone. It has plenty of pictures and videos and voice recordings and messages and texts of a happier time. And I used to feel loved and secure and was outgoing and friendly. Truly happy.

Now I'm just the opposite of all of that. I spend a lot of time crying and pleading for Mark to come home. Which I realize is completely ridiculous because, he's-never-coming-back, for goodness sake. It's just so painfully hard to accept. The future looks empty and bleak and lonely. And It blows me away how- in one freakin moment- how you can go from a solid, happy and an amazing life to this lost, foreign and empty plain of existence.

So, in my humble opinion John T- we will forever be changed and can never be the same again. And I hate it. It's BS.
Comment by Jason on March 23, 2015 at 5:15pm
So today I was going through my phone, I found a bunch of photos i'd sent to amanda, we were in a long distance relationship so we used what'sapp to stay in touch. Anyways these pictures were from december, before I went out to spend christmas with her and her family. It was really weird how different I looked in those pictures. I was so happy, I had such a glow and glint in my eye it was strange to see. I look and feel so different now. I feel so much older like i've aged years in the past few months. I'd give anything to go back to those days
Comment by Tildyc on March 22, 2015 at 10:46pm
Going have to file an extension myself. No way I could handle it right now. Il

And I know what you folks are talking about when the little stuff can cause so much sadness. I cooked spaghetti tonight. 1st anything I've cooked since the day Mark died. It was always his thing- cooking. He always made dinner. And just being in the kitchen and using his pots, pans and utensils made me so sad. I cried through the whole prep of dinner. Then when it was all done and on my plate I couldn't eat it. It's going to end up in the garbage.
Comment by Donna M Dowling-Hall on March 22, 2015 at 10:31pm

John T.  If you can, check your tax returns from the last year or two to see if you paid taxes on April 15th.  If that is the case, you can make a payment with the extension and lessen any balance that may be due.  Also after you file, you can call in or write in and ask for any penalty charge be abated based on your circumstances. 

Comment by Tildyc on March 22, 2015 at 9:52pm
Oh ya.... Taxes.... Forgot about that.
:/
Comment by morgan on March 22, 2015 at 9:49pm

JohnT,

Just FYI, I have filed an extension for three years running.  I just cant get my act together by 4/15 and I used to take care of them when my husband was alive.  

I have at times ball parked my tax due and you may end up with interest but its worth the extra if only to give yourself time to deal with some of the other more pressing issues like an inability to function.   Take it a step at a time.  Don't try to do it all at once.  I know how those notes she made are going to strike a chord in you so when it gets to be too much put it down.  Pace it between now and October.  The IRS doesn't have much room for how hard it is for us to do but take advantage of the extension.  As time passes you will be able to get through the necessary paperwork but only a little at a time.  Please take care.

Comment by Donna M Dowling-Hall on March 22, 2015 at 12:25pm

John T,  People file extensions to file all the time.  Just because you file late isn't an automatic red flag.  Filing the extension will give you until 10/15/2015 and you can file the extension through one of the online filing programs Like taxact or turbotax.

Comment by Leesa Lynch on March 22, 2015 at 7:51am

I miss my husband Matt every day im depressed sad angry and mad he was my soulmate my other half and now im only half alive i feel like there a big piece of me gone and i cant do any thing to change it 

Comment by Jon-Paul Ackerman on March 22, 2015 at 1:15am

Today I spent time at the church where we got married and had her funeral, and where mine will be held... There was no service, just spent time there. It was nice... familiar...

Comment by Tildyc on March 21, 2015 at 8:22pm
I hear you John T. I do not know what to say. Except that I know how you're feeling. Not much comfort I know. But I do.
 

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