Linda Engberg
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Has anyone on the site use alcoholic to cope with Grief.
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I would like to know if I am the only one on this site who uses alcoholic to cope with spouse's death.Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Linda Engberg Feb 23, 2018.

Christmas mean nothing to me.
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This will be my 5th Christmas without my beloved husband Julian, the pain in my heart will never let me enjoy life again.Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 23, 2017.

Holidays Again
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Well, here goes year 5 without my Husband, I can't stand this time of year it means nothing to me.Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by bluebird Dec 2, 2017.

Holidays Again
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It is that time of year again that we all wish we could sleep through. It has been 5 years without my Husband I was always told things get better with time. Each year that goes by it is worse. Just…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Linda Engberg Nov 22, 2017.

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Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I will never move on."
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Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Joe, You are right that very few people know how we really feel. Unless they had a wonderful marriage that we had with our spouses. Most people in life do not get to enjoy what we had with our spouses and it really makes it hard to find a group…"
Jun 24
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hello Group, Haven't been on in awhile since losing my fur-baby soulmate Babie J. Dealing with her death has been just as devasating as losing my Dear Husband. A year after he died I rescued my 9 year Babie J. She was an emotional service dog…"
Jun 23
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you Bluebird for your beautiful post and I am so sorry for the loss of your own fur-babies. My Babie J saved my life after my Husband died and now I have nothing, so I am more than ready to  join them both. I keep praying to God to take…"
May 20
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Dear Morgan, Thank you so much for your kind words. Losing Babie J was the last thing I had to love and she saved my life when Julian died. She was a 9 year rescue and it was pure unconditional love when our eyes met. Now that I have no one in my…"
May 17
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thanks Joe, I am beyond words,"
May 13
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hello Friends, Monday I lost my Sweet Babie J. Now I don't have anything to live. I will do everything in power to end my life. I just wanted to thank you for support. God Bless You All."
May 13
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Trina and Bluebird, Nice to see you both online. For me personally the virus doesn't bother me. I already died the day my Husband, Julian died.  There is no such thing as a new normal for me. Take Care. "
Apr 25
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Trina, Your post mirrors my very thoughts on this this virus. I pray that God will take me in place of any of my family. "
Apr 17
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Trina, I live in Northern Florida so really the virus threat has not affected my way of living. My life is no different than before the virus and if I do get it, I will will be able to be with my Wonderful Husband Julian. I am concerned for family…"
Apr 16
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hello Anna, Loved your post, thanks for sharing. I have refused to accept the death of my Husband, because he is not dead, he lives in a much better world than I do. When we took our weeding vows, we left out to death do us part, because death will…"
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Anna Chris replied to Linda Engberg's discussion Ending my Life
"Dear Linda I wanted to let you know about the Miracles that I have been experiencing for the last 8 months, which are the biggest Miracles we can experience. From that experience I have gained knowing that there is no death, that we are living in a…"
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"Joe, I was thinking the same thing take me and protect my family. I am hoping like you."
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At 4:09pm on March 1, 2020, Martee said…

I want to go so badly to!

Would be sweet relief, no matter what! Living like this not a life anyone would choose.

Some get it, others feel like this just an adjustment period things get better! I say noooooo hell noooo, half my soul was ripped away. Physically I am tired and no interest in anything or anyone. 

At 3:18pm on April 10, 2018, DeeDee said…

Thanks Linda for your kind words. God bless you xo 

Dee-Dee 

At 7:34am on January 28, 2018, Marjorie Willcox said…

Hello Linda I don't know if I've done the right thing buying a puppy she isn't house trained yet. I think you've got a dog. Does it help? I thought it would help the loneliness but in a way your more tied.I can't believe I have to live the rest of my life without my husband 

Marjorie

At 1:15am on January 27, 2018, morgan said…

Majorie,  Anywhere beyond about six months to two years depending on who you ask or what you read and still experiencing grief from the loss of your spouse is supposedly experiencing "complicated grief".  Like Linda and Bluebird and few of us who are still aging here on this site I too just passed the five year mark and yes, if thats what they want to call it, I too have complicated grief.  But I look at it in a different way.  

There are many things I could say but I'll be brief because its late here and I am tired.  You don't really get over it, you just endure it better.  Thats it.  Endurance.  Time will have sway with you and will change the ways you grieve but after five years I still have breakdowns regularly and I now know that they will never stop.  I don't pay a psychotherapist but I have one friend who I call my therapist.  MY husband actually asked him to watch over me if something happened to him as my husband was a diabetic and was getting sicker.  It was almost like he knew.  Our friend has kept that promise.  He lives 3000 miles away but we talk pretty much every day sometimes a couple times and he allows me to cry.  He knew my husband well and knew the love we had would never die and he understands I"ll never get over it.  I just turned 66 and I am ready to die.  I am not sure whether I will be able to do it to myself as the pain for the last couple months again has been like the first year but I can only take each day and lots of times just each hour at a time.  I've learned to expect nothing from myself as far as remembering the kind of person I was before.  That has all changed.  

So much else left when my husband did too.  So much of who I was because it was always in relationship to who WE were.  I would never change what I had with him but it is a good thing I didnt know what the pain would be like now.  He never would have been able to stand it and I am not sure how long I will but for now I still breathe.  Just know there are many many others out here that feel the same way just like there are many others who get over the loss and somehow make a different kind of life.  Me, I can't unhook.  I'm with him through and into death and yet still trying to live.  Its a bitch.  Not sure how or when my own time will come but I am more than ready.  
Take care the best you can.  Morgan

At 9:53am on January 26, 2018, Marjorie Willcox said…

Thankyou for your reply Linda. I wake up each morning and it's as though Paul's Death has just happened.  I will never feel right again

At 12:36pm on January 25, 2018, Marjorie Willcox said…

Linda Thankyou so much for replying re complicate grief. I feel just the same my husband and I were one person ( his words) and I know I will never get over losing him. I just wondered how a psychotherapist can help because it says online that it can and you say you feel better every year. Linda I just don't know how long we can go on with the pain.

At 2:28am on January 25, 2018, Marjorie Willcox said…

Linda how did you find a psychotherapist to help you with your complicate grief

? What do they do? in your reply to Maxy you said it will last till you die!

I am really struggling after losing my husband 17 months ago

Marjorie 

At 7:22am on January 24, 2018, Marjorie Willcox said…

Linda have you got complicated grief. Does it last forever. 

marjorie

At 11:08am on January 22, 2018, Marjorie Willcox said…

Linda am I right in thinking you have complicated grief ? I feel sure that I have too.

Marjorie

At 3:22pm on August 31, 2017, Joy said…

Linda, I didn't lose a spouse, but I wanted to say how sorry I am for the loss of your husband. You two were (let me correct that) are a very lovely couple and I know you'll be glad to see him again. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I see your posts periodically and my heart goes out to you.

 
 
 

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