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Rituals To Commemorate
Rituals are effective and meaningful when they have significance to the deceased and to the survivor. The following are merely suggestions and might be altered and enhanced to appropriately accommodate the relationship involved.
- Prepare a favorite meal of the loved one and enjoy it as he/she did.
- Prepare a favorite dessert – share with family or friends.
- Watch a movie(s) enjoyed by your loved one.
- Plant flowers, a tree or a flowering bush in…
Recommended Book by David Kessler
Visions, Trips, and Crowded Rooms: Who and What You See Before You Die
David Kessler, expert on death and grief, takes on three uniquely shared experiences that challenge our ability to explain and fully understand the mystery of our final days. The first is “visions". As the dying lose sight of this world, some people appear to be looking into the world to come.…
Typical responses associated with Grief
- Reduced concentration
- A sense of numbness
- Disrupted sleeping patterns
- Changed eating habits
- Emotional Roller coaster
Have you experienced the death of a spouse in the past five years?
Have you experienced the death of a spouse in the past five years?
Are you between the ages of 18-64? If so, researchers from the University of Illinois are interested in hearing your story. We are conducting interviews with individuals who have recently lost a spouse. Interested participants will engage in an audio-recorded interview about their experiences with loss. Interviews will take approximately 45–90 minutes and will remain confidential. Participants who are U.S. citizens,…
Healthy Self Care
Developing a healthy self-care practice is an essential part of active grieving. Self-care in all its forms - physical, spiritual, intellectual and psychological - is at the very heart of purposeful grieving. As you're committed to growing through this experience of loss - of becoming more than you were before the passing of your loved one, not less - I offer you these self-care tips and ideas:
- Surround yourself with things that help you feel…
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Healing with Pictures
I wanted to share an idea of what we can do with pictures of our loved ones. Nancy Gershman, a digital artist, creates meaningful portraits from photos, memories and stories that we think about every day. Here is a sample of her work:
DREAMSCAPE PHOTOMONTAGE: Myrtle pays homage to the memory of her twin and keeps a promise to her sister. As long as she lives she will keep her nephew - who is a trucker - safe on the road.
ORIGINAL PHOTO: 
I know Nancy's work and I’ve seen how she captures the entire essence of a person and the real truth about their character, their passions and their mission in life.
What Nancy does is digest all these photos, memories and stories until they re-emerge as a holistic portrait of the person you love. You see your father, sister, or beloved poodle, thoughtfully placed into a beautiful legacy portrait for you, but also for generations to come. The end result is that her artwork makes you smile or even laugh.
For the 30 - 60 minutes you spend with her by phone, she delivers a meaningful, heartfelt fine art photomontage in the form of an 8 x 10 print (or enlargement). She can also upload the artwork so you can make something to wear or display (photoblanket, photo-purse, photo trivet, etc.) -- however you want to keep that loved one close by.
I encourage you to view the documentary on Nancy Gershman’s work.
You can visit her website: www.artforyoursake.com/healing. She has provided us with her phone number: 773-255-4677 (EST) or you can email her: nancy@artforyoursake.com
Let me know if you have any questions.
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Online Grief Support uses the blog feature for Journal Therapy – You can choose to make it private or public. Blog posts are a great way to express yourself on your profile page. To get started, go to your profile page and locate the "Blog Posts" module in the middle column. Click the "Add a Blog Post" link. You must join the community to take advantage of Journal Therapy – It’s free.
You can add text, links, images, and files to your blog post using the blog editor toolbar. You can also select the privacy of your blog post to allow anyone in the community to view it, just your friends in the community, or just you. Go to Settings and then click on Privacy. If you need help, I'm just an email away. - Diana
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Mankind’s Fight Against Mortality
NOTE: My blogs are not posted with the intention of promoting any organization or religion. The goal of these blogs are to provide the same comfort I received for the death of a loved one. Enjoy.
Death is a fearsome enemy. We fight it with all our might. We may try to deny it when it strikes someone dear to us. Or, in the exuberance of youth,…
ContinuePosted by Mike H. on July 20, 2017 at 7:13am
Two years Andrew, and I promise you I will never let you go and I will never ever forget, I loved you then I love you now I love you always xxxx
Posted by joanne on July 18, 2017 at 5:51pm
How do we treat ourselves....?
Here is a reality check I was faced with very recently. I had to take vitamins after my doctors persistent advice and I got a few extra pounds. Nothing much but enough to bring bullying from a very unlikely source. A friend that recently separated, a guy who insisted to say every single time he saw me that I was FAT. Even though most my friends would say the complete opposite. That I look healthier. In fact was so many times I heard from the same friend (also my neighbour) that I came to the…
ContinuePosted by silvia maria on July 16, 2017 at 8:30am
cry
if i cry im worid ill cry forevr i will coz of all crap iv goin on
evn loss i hav had
mom bean ill
lif bean shit…
ContinuePosted by JO B on July 15, 2017 at 4:37pm — 2 Comments
My Mom
June.27th of this year my Mom passed away. My husband and I were in the process of moving and I was unable to get to the Care Facility to say goodbye. I was blocked in by the 26 ft. moving truck we had rented. My husband said to take a taxi, but I knew in my heart I wouldn't make it there. I blame my husband for this. The angle the moving truck had to be in, he would not have been able to park it like that again.
My so called family didn't notify me that she had passed. My husband had…
ContinuePosted by Anne B.F. on July 12, 2017 at 7:27pm
My Mom
June.27th of this year my Mom passed away. My husband and I were in the process of moving and I was unable to get to the Care Facility to say goodbye. I was blocked in by the 26 ft. moving truck we had rented. My husband said to take a taxi, but I knew in my heart I wouldn't make it there. I blame my husband for this. The angle the moving truck had to be in, he would not have been able to park it like that again.
My so called family didn't notify me that she had passed. My husband had…
ContinuePosted by Anne B.F. on July 12, 2017 at 7:27pm
Home Alone
Home for the summer. In a house that has never felt less like home. This is the first time I've really been HOME since I lost Mom. I was here at Thanksgiving, but there were so many people around that I didn't have any time to process anything. Today though it's just been me and the dog. The dog Mom said she didn't want but not so secretly adored, of course. And I hate it. Not the dog; she's lovely. But the house. The house I grew up in. The house my mom called home. The house I've always…
ContinuePosted by Bethany on July 4, 2017 at 8:03pm
Patterns of thinking...how do we change? HEALING
It´s not easy to trade old patterns for new ones. THere is something to be said about comfort zone, and how we resort to that when anything is outside what we know or we think it should go. Takes so much effort to make where we are remotelly OK, that it´s peaceful achieved only by slowing down the thinking and allowing ourselves just to be. But all in all...how do we make a shift into the new things with the calm and peace we need? HEALING takes time, and there is so much effort that will…
ContinuePosted by silvia maria on July 4, 2017 at 12:21pm
Lost
In September it will be two years since I lost my mother 9-6-15 and my husband 9-14-15 and since they left my family absolutely abandoned me no one talks to me no one seems to care if I'm OK all my friends that say they're my friends are liars they never talk to me either and it makes me start to wonder what the hell did I do so wrong that makes your family and your so-called friends just stop communicating when I ask if they're going to come visit soon they all have excuses oh I can't I'm too… Continue
Posted by Pamela philipp on July 2, 2017 at 2:41pm — 3 Comments
In a couple of weeks it will be 2 years since my world collapsed, how can it be 2 years when it feels like yesterday, nothing has changed for me in this time, I have not let go nor have I moved on, e…
In a couple of weeks it will be 2 years since my world collapsed, how can it be 2 years when it feels like yesterday, nothing has changed for me in this time, I have not let go nor have I moved on, even if I wanted to I cannot.I suppose I am a bit jealous of people who find it so easy to carry on and move forward with their lives,how do they do It? it will never be like that for me, ever.Today the ache I feel inside me is so strong I just want him to walk through the door and tell me this…
ContinuePosted by joanne on June 29, 2017 at 7:09pm — 2 Comments
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Linda Engberg commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Morgan,
You said it perfect, there is nothing worth living for without my Husband to share it with."
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Its been one year and seven months it has not changed, but it does get "softer", you'll know what I mean.
Every night I tell her I love her and I would love to hear her voice one more time.
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BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"And same here. I have bad days and tolerable days. I am having a real hard time without my Mom right now. Life just does not make sense anymore. But I keep going on through the motions of living, hoping this deep sense of loss will ease…"
KIM Montgomery replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Grief in the group Lost My Spouse..."Nancy, yes it sounds like there were a lot of similarities in our situations. I married late and so we would have celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary on August 16th of this year. Jack's birthday was 12/29/2017. Cancer took my…"
Doug replied to Cathy 's discussion My brother's death cirrhosis"Hello Nancy, I don't know how both you, and Cathy, can carry on as well as you have after losing someone you loved so much? It's unbelievable to me that your husband's doctor could be so inept as to never test his liver function,…"
Esther commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Today has been waves of numb detachment for me... I try to be positive and hopeful but sometimes we can't force it and must just tolerate the sadness"
JO B commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"sorry for evry 1 it goin thru hell i am
i feal k im livin in hell coz of all bad shit wev had coz of loss"
Michael Thompson commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Morgan, how beautifully written...And spot on!"
Joy commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Same here. As you said some days are tolerable while others are still bad. I try to keep myself distracted, but memories of my mom invade my thoughts throughout the day."
morgan commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"I have been struggling along trying to improve upon what I was left to deal with without my husbands unfailing support for four and half years. I still want to die. Everyday. And of course he would want for me to not have to suffer…"
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Just wanted to see how everyone is doing, I have bad days and tolerable days.
Its still very difficult, I miss her so much."
Nancy replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Grief in the group Lost My Spouse..."Hi Kim. We have a lot of similarities. Lost my husband to an aggressive cancer May 10th. We had his celebration of life May 19th and it was truly a celebration with music, stories, food, a bonfire. Just what he would've…"
Nancy commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"I don't think you are being an A hole. I just think maybe you've had more time to clearly think and grieve. I hope to get to the point where I can live my life without despair every waking moment as well. I appreciate…"
Michael C. Ramsey commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Not trying to be an A-hole here folks but, C'mon waiting/wanting to die? My Andrea is gone almost 3 years and she is always on my mind. I have good days and bad days BUT I try to live whatever days I have left the way she would want me to. She…"
Nancy commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"I lost my husband to cancer 7 months after he was diagnosed. We were married young and 43 years. I was his primary caregiver and he went downhill very fast and actually became total care, lost 70 pounds, became confused. I was…"
Losing Someone to Cancer
This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.See More
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