"Bluebell eventually the morning anxiousness does calm down, it took a while for me
I have been really busy at work doing overtime, it distracts me but exhausts me.
When I get in my car to go home I say ma I'm so tired.."
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Healing with Pictures
I wanted to share an idea of what we can do with pictures of our loved ones. Nancy Gershman, a digital artist, creates meaningful portraits from photos, memories and stories that we think about every day. Here is a sample of her work:
DREAMSCAPE PHOTOMONTAGE: Myrtle pays homage to the memory of her twin and keeps a promise to her sister. As long as she lives she will keep her nephew - who is a trucker - safe on the road.
ORIGINAL PHOTO: 
I know Nancy's work and I’ve seen how she captures the entire essence of a person and the real truth about their character, their passions and their mission in life.
What Nancy does is digest all these photos, memories and stories until they re-emerge as a holistic portrait of the person you love. You see your father, sister, or beloved poodle, thoughtfully placed into a beautiful legacy portrait for you, but also for generations to come. The end result is that her artwork makes you smile or even laugh.
For the 30 - 60 minutes you spend with her by phone, she delivers a meaningful, heartfelt fine art photomontage in the form of an 8 x 10 print (or enlargement). She can also upload the artwork so you can make something to wear or display (photoblanket, photo-purse, photo trivet, etc.) -- however you want to keep that loved one close by.
I encourage you to view the documentary on Nancy Gershman’s work.
You can visit her website: www.artforyoursake.com/healing. She has provided us with her phone number: 773-255-4677 (EST) or you can email her: nancy@artforyoursake.com
Let me know if you have any questions.
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Online Grief Support uses the blog feature for Journal Therapy – You can choose to make it private or public. Blog posts are a great way to express yourself on your profile page. To get started, go to your profile page and locate the "Blog Posts" module in the middle column. Click the "Add a Blog Post" link. You must join the community to take advantage of Journal Therapy – It’s free.
You can add text, links, images, and files to your blog post using the blog editor toolbar. You can also select the privacy of your blog post to allow anyone in the community to view it, just your friends in the community, or just you. Go to Settings and then click on Privacy. If you need help, I'm just an email away. - Diana
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Health in context of grief
Safe to assume the deffenses go down with the spirits. But in all fairness I´ve been sick for a while since I had the back surgeries, and it´s sometimes hard to separe effects from feeling ups and downs to the food and habits healthy and unhealthy. Added to that the idea that I will be ok and doctors don´t seem to do much more for me these days. Neverhteless, some times I go to fix one thing and the medication side effects harm in some ways or the pain meds have caused me to faint and break…
ContinuePosted by silvia maria on September 17, 2017 at 8:00am
Brain cancer is the worst
Posted by Anonymity be my name on September 16, 2017 at 12:07pm
How to avoid old patterns of being frozen in time in the NON ACTION
As i am moving on to making my way back to work these days, seems I have to avoid the MENTAL state whereas the mind goes into some FROZEN state whereas I am unabe to move on in a healthy manner. See once we decided to leave that state of mind whereas the self pitty pot is full and the gun of frustration pointed at self, justified hurting or not that keeps me back to a state of NON ACTION or POOR REACTION, where self blame mixes with the stan still place....well, times changed. I realize I…
ContinuePosted by silvia maria on September 9, 2017 at 3:30am
Does religion help?
I consider myself spiritual and not much in favour of organized religion. But lately I thought that could perhaps help to bring some peace or have some positive impact, So for the last weeks I have been going once a week to this evangelic church witch I quite enjoy the visits. In the beggining was some help to put more peace in my heart and feel better. And that had a positive impact however I needed that new boost the next week or things would feel heavier somehow. Some weekes later I…
ContinuePosted by silvia maria on September 8, 2017 at 5:30pm — 2 Comments
Introduction
Hi Everyone,
My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called my "little brother" was on his bicycle in Back Bay Boston around 2am when a drunk driver rear ended him, sent him airborne, and then dragged him down the street while trying to flee. My friend died a day later. He was only 29. Rick was a kind, smart, funny man. He made people…
ContinuePosted by Carlyn Jorgensen on August 28, 2017 at 12:42pm — 1 Comment
Lost
My boyfriend passed away three weeks ago from an overdose. He was sober for 15 months, this was his first relapse. A few days after he passed away I found out I am pregnant. I'm only 21. This is the hardest thing I have ever been through. The steps moving forward seem so difficult. I'm supposed to student teach in a few days and everyone says it's the best choice for my baby's future. Without a doubt I want Wanda best for my baby, but mentally I'm not stable or okay to do much of anything.
Posted by Beckie Preston on August 26, 2017 at 5:09pm
Felling so down
Hi my name is Ann. I lost my husband December 18,2016. He had lung cancer. I have two boys ages 21and 18. They both live with me. I have been through so much. I had breast cancer during the first year of my husbands cancer. I did chemo had surgery and in a year was cancer free. Then right after that I had infected kidney stones had two operations for that but they found kidney cancer. They removed part of kidney. I had the best support group through all of this my friends and church family. I… Continue
Posted by Ann myers on August 24, 2017 at 3:08am — 1 Comment
Why I cannot be allowed to grieve,
I have been threw much and people who I thought be there all have gone but a few how are you doing. Its like they do not want a answer. Its me I am always so strong is there excuse. I am alone and her mostly side of the family is gone and only been 2 months. Yet was told I made my wife so happy from what she came from her last marriage. They never saw her so happy. I am so angry at issues that are going on and there petty and one is wrong. I sleep more and I just miss her. I have lost my…
ContinuePosted by MIchael Ortiz on August 24, 2017 at 1:29am — 1 Comment
Lost my Son -only child in March of this year
Hello -My name is Karen. I lost my only son at 22 years of age in a car accident in March of this year. I am doing "okay" considering. I have strong bouts of intense grief on and off and of course I miss and long for him daily. It really just SUCKS! I have surrounded my self with a support group and a Psychotherapist. I have also started to explore my Spirituality and looking for unanswered to questions to my existence and purpose. I welcome anyone that would like to share their…
ContinuePosted by Karen Wilson on August 21, 2017 at 9:01am — 4 Comments
Repost: Is It Wrong to Grieve?
Is It Wrong to Grieve?
Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that. “There is no such thing as ‘getting over’ grief,” writes Dr. Alan Wolfelt in his book Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart. However, he adds: “Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften.”…
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Brett Bowman replied to Crystal K's discussion Its hard accepting my mother's death in the group I miss my Mom!"Crystal, the guilt you are feeling is very normal. Grief can be a very mean thing. We who are grieving will find some way to torture ourselves.
My story is very much like yours. I was my mom's caretaker for a lot of years. For the last four…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"That guilt is completely natural. You don't want to let go of your mom. There's a part of me that feels like the day I stop grieving will be the day I truly say goodbye to her. "
Meghan Doyle posted a discussionCaregiver to my grandpa. Could hospice affected his passing?
My grandfather passed Friday, September 8th at 12:21am.He suffered from stage 4 lung cancer. He was diagnosed last August and refused chemo and radiation. My grandmother is 82 and has trouble caring for herself. She has a HHA come twice a week, so they wouldn't let my grandfather come home without someone there to care for him. My grandfather and I have always been very close as I spent the summers with my grandparents since they lived 3 hours away. I lost contact with them for awhile because…See More
Joy left a comment for Crystal K"Crystal, like you, I talk to my mom daily. Whether she can hear me is unknown. I do believe God hears me, so I ask him to tell my mom how much I love her, miss her and wish I could see her to give her a hug. I'd give up everything I own to see…"
Theresa replied to Crystal K's discussion Its hard accepting my mother's death in the group I miss my Mom!"Crystal, yes I do.
My mom went to the hospital on a Saturday morning because her stomach was bothering her, she called me I said ok mom do you want me to take you, she said no the dr said go in the ambulance, I was like ok I guess that will move…"
Crystal K replied to Crystal K's discussion Its hard accepting my mother's death in the group I miss my Mom!"Hi Joy, I am on the same boat as you. I try talking to her everyday, hoping that she hears me and wishing she can talk back. I didn't know that losing her would feel this painful. I completely understand what you meant about…"
Joy replied to Crystal K's discussion Its hard accepting my mother's death in the group I miss my Mom!"Crystal, I also feel like I failed my mom re: her care. I tried my best but I believe I could've done so much more for her and I cannot make things right so as you say there is a lot of regret which kills me as well. I want to beg my mom…"
Joy replied to Crystal K's discussion Its hard accepting my mother's death in the group I miss my Mom!"Hi Crystal, first I'd like to say how sorry I am in losing your mom. I lost my mom four months ago and the pain is still very fresh. Second, I could've written practically everything you wrote re: the guilt you feel over your mom's…"
Crystal K added a discussion to the group I miss my Mom!
Its hard accepting my mother's death
I lost my mom back in July of this year. It has been so hard trying to move on. I know it has only been a few months, everyone keeps saying that the pain is still fresh and that it'll get better in time. However, it feels like I've lost any sense of joy since the day she died. I recently started a new job and I do go out with friends and family, but inside I feel like a zombie. Cold and emotionless.I was her caregiver the last three years, my two sisters live in another country so it…See More
Crystal K joined Karen's groupI miss my Mom!
If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Another okay morning. Having a little anxiety and sadness, but it is not overwhelming. I should be grateful, but instead there is a sense of guilt.
Bluebell"
Gabby Freeland posted a discussionI gave up before everyone else did
I feel horrible admitting this. But I think I gave up on my mum surviving before everyone else did. She had the same tjing Steven hawking had, she passed away on the 12th of July this year, a few months before that I remember thinking "why does she have to keep suffering" and, idk, I just sort of gave up.I thought I'd cry a lot more and be a lot sadder than I am. Now I mostly just feel relieved and I can't seem to sake it. I do have days where I feel sad, but its more of a shallow sadness.…See More
Luisa Salter replied to Paul Kealy's discussion A very special tribute to a mothers love in the group I miss my Mom!"Beautiful, thanks so much Paul."
Millison Reid posted a status"its been a rough couple of days I miss my Clarissa and Kadence so bad"
BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"My Mom is surrounded by cats. She loved them so much.
Bluebell"
BLUEBELL replied to Paul Kealy's discussion A very special tribute to a mothers love in the group I miss my Mom!"Beautiful
Bluebell"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Amen. And what would heaven be without our furry little friends? They sure know how to love, too."
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