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Having a glass of wine for my mom tonight and trying to wrap my head around the fact that she's been gone for a year. A whole year. A year without daily emails just so I'd wake up to an email every morning. A year without daily Skype chats just to catch up even though nothing much ever changed. A year without an e-card for every random holiday. A year without hearing about the dumb things my dad was or wasn't doing. A year without my best friend. A year without my mom.

Added by Bethany on June 19, 2017 at 3:45pm — No Comments

National TV show wants to help unsolved cold cases

I am the producer of a nationally televised crime docu-series. I am currently developing a new series focusing on unsolved cold cases, where the perpetrator is known but remains uncharged, many times because they are already in prison for life for another crime. That should not deter anyone else from getting justice. We will bring in outside, independent cold case detectives to rework cases to see if we can help. The series will underscore the hope, strength and tenacity of the…

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Added by gregory harvey on June 19, 2017 at 12:54pm — No Comments

Mourning by Definition

Mourning

The outward expression of grief over a death or some other calamity. In Bible times, it was customary to mourn for a period of time. In addition to weeping loudly, mourners wore special clothes, put ashes on their head, ripped their garments, and beat their chest. Professional mourners were sometimes invited to funerals.—…

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Added by Mike H. on June 19, 2017 at 7:12am — No Comments

61 tips on the experience of Grief and how to help people through it

This is the book - you can save in pdf format

The first 3

1. Grief is the normal and natural reaction to a significant emotional loss of any kind.

2. Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of, or change in, a familiar pattern of behavior.

3. Grief is the feeling of reaching out for someone who has always been…

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Added by Nora on June 18, 2017 at 9:49am — No Comments

Just now joining to see what it's about.

Hi someone said I should consider joining a grief support group. Still a little hesitant to go to actual meetings so decided maybe online is a good idea.  I lost my husband suddenly last year in an accident. I am a survivor but its been a tough year for sure.

It's been a year but there are some days that it feels like it was just yesterday.

Added by Constance May on June 17, 2017 at 8:00pm — No Comments

Just now joining to see what it's about.

Hi someone said I should consider joining a grief support group. Still a little hesitant to go to actual meetings so decided maybe online is a good idea.  I lost my husband suddenly last year in an accident. I am a survivor but its been a tough year for sure.

It's been a year but there are some days that it feels like it was just yesterday.

Added by Constance May on June 17, 2017 at 8:00pm — No Comments

Lessons of a Late Friend - inspire3.com

I knew he didn't have long to live.



I was sitting next to him on a cold bench at Brighton beach, staring out at the ocean.







"I want to tell you some crap," he said. "Pass it on."



And then he began telling me the things he'd learned in his short time on this planet. The kind of things we all need reminding of from time to time, but we oh-so-easily forget.



He…

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Added by Nora on June 17, 2017 at 1:43pm — 3 Comments

From the Heart

I think being alone and being lonely are two different things. I find that when I am “being alone,” I am watching television at weird hours, thinking it is normal for a single person to think about such things as family pictures on the wall; wondering what happened to the little kids in those pictures, and thinking aloud that they all made it. Being alone and making a meal require little effort. I simply choose between an avocado or peanut butter. Neither one is necessarily a…

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Added by Mike on June 17, 2017 at 12:04pm — 1 Comment

how does it feel to be no longer a caretaker?

Ok so after so much debate around the mother issue since her caretakin was taken over by my elder sister in a very aggressive move...here we are now. I refuse to visit because meeting the conditions to visit are pathetic to say the least. I am suppose to go to a clinic and don´t correct any negligence I see after registrering and sending to police. Holy crap, hell no. Then sister was suppose to change place but never did. THen she was suppose to arrange mother to visit here and also never…

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Added by silvia maria on June 17, 2017 at 10:17am — No Comments

If Tomorrow Starts Without Me

YouTube Video - Still hurts and I dont believe in Jesus but feels like my Steve is talking to me......

"IF TOMORROW STARTS WITHOUT ME"



When tomorrow starts without me 

and I'm not here to see... 

If the sun should rise and find your 

eyes filled with tears for me, 



I wish so much you wouldn't…

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Added by Nora on June 16, 2017 at 7:30pm — 1 Comment

Rituals To Commemorate

Rituals are effective and meaningful when they have significance to the deceased and to the survivor. The following are merely suggestions and might be altered and enhanced to appropriately accommodate the relationship involved.

  • Prepare a favorite meal of the loved one and enjoy it as he/she did.
  • Prepare a favorite dessert – share with family or friends.
  • Watch a movie(s) enjoyed by your loved one.
  • Plant flowers, a tree or a flowering bush in…
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Added by Diana, Grief Counselor on June 16, 2017 at 2:46pm — No Comments

Comforting Those Who Mourn

Have you ever felt helpless when someone near to you was grieving over the loss of a loved one? Sometimes we may feel unsure of what to say or do—so we wind up saying and doing nothing. But there are practical, helpful things that we can do.

Often, all that is needed is your presence along with a simple expression, such as “I am so sorry.” In many cultures, giving…

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Added by Mike H. on June 16, 2017 at 7:25am — No Comments

The Guide - Great Online Book for Grieving

The Guide

And this is just one of its chapters - Number VIII

 Sad, Mad and Dangerous to Know

One thing that you will almost certainly find is that you need help to sleep. I found it impossible to sleep in the first couple of…

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Added by Nora on June 15, 2017 at 6:46am — No Comments

How you can help - Letter to My Friend

This is the Link     "How You Can Help Me"

Please talk about my loved one, even though he is gone. It is more comforting to cry than to pretend that he never existed. I need to talk about him, and I need to do it over and over.
Be…
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Added by Nora on June 15, 2017 at 5:30am — No Comments

Yesterday

Yesterday afternoon, my dad passed away on his birthday. I am just going through the motions and hope someone can guide me? Today has just been a blur of feeling nothing just here I remember it all I gave my dad some morphine he took a breath and died since 2001 I've been by his side on & off and it's…

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Added by Anna Molina on June 9, 2017 at 4:59pm — 2 Comments

taking responsibility vs NO GUILT

It´s funny how life is. When we deal with pressures it´s all bad news. It´s the rebel that gets quiet or puts up a fight....we give back in more than anyone deserves any good or crap. Because that energy is needed to go forward, and sometimes it´s an inside the mind process. In everyone´s lives come a time to separate self from everybody else. And although relationships are welcome they tend to freeze in whatever they know of us. And came to expect so little and most times we are down we…

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Added by silvia maria on June 9, 2017 at 3:31pm — No Comments

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Added by joanne on June 9, 2017 at 1:33pm — 2 Comments

From the Heart

What is a perfect love? Is there such a thing? Does it require anything special to hold on to it? What does it feel like, and can that feeling be maintained for a lifetime? Of course, I do not have the answers, but as usual, I have my opinions. I think there are so many kinds of love that a perfect love to me is one that I needed at a particular point in life.

For instance, having been married for so long, Barb’s love for me was perfect. It provided a base, security, a great family,…

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Added by Mike on June 8, 2017 at 12:49pm — No Comments

Fear of Death - How Can You Overcome It?

We rightly fear death as an enemy and take reasonable steps to protect our life. (1 Corinthians 15:26) However, an irrational fear of death based on falsehood or superstition makes people “subject to…

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Added by Mike H. on June 8, 2017 at 6:05am — No Comments

When a Loved One is Terminally Ill

DOREEN was shocked when her husband, Wesley, only 54 years of age, was diagnosed with an acutely aggressive brain tumor. * Doctors gave him only a few months to live. “I couldn’t believe what I was hearing,” she…

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Added by Mike H. on June 6, 2017 at 6:46am — No Comments

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KIM Montgomery replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
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"I try not come on here in the early morning as I start work early so I can go home early.  That was my routine.  We would get up in the morning, have a cup of coffee and I would go off to work.  I looked forward to going home a little…"
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Lost with out him replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
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One down...

Having a glass of wine for my mom tonight and trying to wrap my head around the fact that she's been gone for a year. A whole year. A year without daily emails just so I'd wake up to an email every morning. A year without daily Skype chats just to catch up even though nothing much ever changed. A year without an e-card for every random holiday. A year without hearing about the dumb things my dad was or wasn't doing. A year without my best friend. A year without my mom.See More
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National TV show wants to help unsolved cold cases

I am the producer of a nationally televised crime docu-series. I am currently developing a new series focusing on unsolved cold cases, where the perpetrator is known but remains uncharged, many times because they are already in prison for life for another crime. That should not deter anyone else from getting justice. We will bring in outside, independent cold case detectives to rework cases to see if we can help. The series will underscore the hope, strength and tenacity of the families and…See More
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morgan replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
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KIM Montgomery replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you all for the kind support here.  It does help.  I too feel lost at time.  This morning I was up at 3:30 watching TV; my alarm goes off at 4:45, no sense in trying to go back to sleep.  Like some one else said on here, my…"
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Jackie cooke replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Kim, your not alone, as Nora's says every word you say matches how I feel. I have lost my best friend, soul mate, partner, my lover. Now I'm alone with my dog and cat. OVer 70 people and the funeral but none of them ring or call. People…"
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Nora replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Kim, If I could I would just copy each word of yours and paste it here. I am exactly in the same boat. I know how you fell and what is going on with you. I will have 3 months tomorrow and today is 13 weeks since my Steve just gone, disappeared into…"
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Missing my Best Friend

Again, I am missing my best friend tomorrow will be 7 weeks.  I went back to work last week and it helped some.   Getting into a routine helped.  The issue I have is when I get home he is not there.  That was our time together. Yesterday being father's day the adult kids were lost as was I. My son lives close by and my daughter is 300 miles away.  I was alone without the kids, just my 2 little dogs.  I am so thankful for them.They say go back to work it will help, they say it has been 6 weeks…See More
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Mourning by Definition

MourningThe outward expression of grief over a death or some other calamity. In Bible times, it was customary to mourn for a period of time. In addition to weeping loudly, mourners wore special clothes, put ashes on their head, ripped their garments, and beat their chest. Professional mourners were sometimes invited to funerals.—Ge 23:2;…See More
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