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"No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear."
— C. S. LEWIS
hello i am 30 years old and just have resentley lost my spouse/love of life/king two mounths agoo all of a sudden he was only 23 years old about a mounth before he passed we took a break for a reason i not wont to say but he did something now 12 hours before he dise he is on his hands and nees begging me back i say no and walk away for him to die i ooved him with everything i have and miss him so much and just dont now what to do i have peopletelling me they understand but i dont think they…Continue
Added by heathert on July 3, 2019 at 11:34pm — No Comments
Hi everyone, I am new to the group, but not to loss. Thanks for adding me.
I wanted to share an essay I wrote, "Welcome to the Freak Show: Becoming an Orphan in My 20s", that is in the New York Times today. Even though all of our experiences with grief are unique, I hope it resonates in some way.
I guess there isn't much to say anymore. I miss him so much. He was like my brother and it feels weird and wrong and different. It's weird to think a year ago we were laughing and were so close. Its weird to think that someone who was once so beautiful and full of life is now rotting six feet underground in a wooden box. I'm not sure of my religious beliefs but I think I hope he's either moved onto the next life or has his own personal heaven with everyone he loved. I hope he has his…Continue
Today is different for me and yet it isn’t. During the night when I woke, I could feel sadness though it didn’t seem to be a focused sadness. It was just there. And then I ended up having what I think was something like a panic attack. We were prescribed a very weak dose of an antianxiety med by our doctor so I took one of those and was able to sleep at last!
But in a way, I just put off what I was feeling and so today is again a sad day. My…Continue
Added by Charles Alexander on May 13, 2019 at 11:47am — No Comments
This is the second thing I wrote in my journal a few days ago.
On this day that would have been our sons birthday, I find that I cannot celebrate his life quite yet because I’m still grieving him. It’s only been twelve days since he left us and at times it still feels like he’s here.
A brief flash in the corner of the eye that looks like him. The simple glance to his bedroom door…Continue
Added by Charles Alexander on May 12, 2019 at 10:29pm — No Comments
This is an entry that I wrote in my personal journal. I'm adding them to begin my blog.
Our son chose suicide in the early morning hours on Friday, April fifth of this year (2019). As is always the case in these situations, my wife and I have many questions. Many of those questions will never be answered, simply because Phil isn’t here to answer them. Of the others, I’m sure we’ll eventually figure out the answers.…Continue
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wen bad pepllee do bad stuff lk kill rapee molestr peppllee go free not be punchessd ty do not
i get mad wen i hear kids died
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Added by dream moon JO B on April 12, 2019 at 5:32pm — No Comments
31 days and counting. Can't say his name without crying, can't talk about the death without crying, can't think about him without crying, can't write this without crying. I want it to stop.
Recent postings on “I miss my mom” brought back memories of moments with my mom when I would get very anxious and frustrated, when I would raise my voice and so on. My mom was very forgiving of me, and very understanding — she got how worried I was about her, especially but not exclusively during latter years of complex health issues, and she appreciated that I was trying my best to help. She was grateful to me, and expressed gratitude, which was sometimes uncomfortable, but I was also so…Continue
It's been almost 3 and a half years since I lost the love of my life. In that time, I moved my parents in with me, because I owed them so much. Last year, my 91 year old Pops told me"happy birthday" 6 days before my birthday and the day the docs were sending him to the nursing home.....the last thing he said to me. Now, my mom is terrified that she is going to die in the heart surgery that she has scheduled for Friday. Hey, I'm terrified as well. I did karaoke as a side line, because I…Continue
Added by Kathleen Jordan on March 12, 2019 at 1:40am — No Comments
There are many mentions of guilt on this site, and it often seems to be assumed that all bereaved people suffer from guilt. As far as I can tell that isn’t true for me, unless I am in very deep denial. On the other hand, I feel a lot of shame about being bereaved, being alone, being tearful, distraught, unproductive, etc. At the same time it seems ridiculous to be ashamed because someone beloved has died, and I haven’t seen other people reflect this feeling, so thought it was just my…Continue
Added by M Adams on March 4, 2019 at 2:30pm — No Comments
I haven't posted here in awhile. The crushing grief that overwhelmed me for so long after my mom died has lifted into more of a grief fog. But some issues within my family have arisen over the past few days, and I'm having a really hard time. And my question is: Why the hell is everyone in such a hurry to "move on?" What is so terrible about being sad, about missing someone? Why is it "normal" to go on with your life like nothing happened, to forget about the past and keep moving forward?…Continue
still feal it
i am not
Added by dream moon JO B on March 2, 2019 at 6:06pm — No Comments
Some have inquired about the twitter box option at the top of the "Latest Activity" section. Apparently, it was an automatic update by Ning. Your privacy is still safe. It's an option for those who connect their personal account here and sync it with their personal twitter account.
If they choose to do so, they are able to share their OWN personal update on twitter by selecting that box before they share their personal update (and nobody else's) here. I hope this clears up any…Continue
Added by Ninja on February 13, 2019 at 4:30pm — No Comments
In the midst of what feels like unsurvivable loss, how do we moor ourselves to the fact that even the most beautiful, most singularly gratifying things in life are merely on loan from the universe, granted us for the time being? Two millennia ago, the great Stoic philosopher Epictetus (c. 55–135 AD) argued that the antidote to this gutting grief is found not in hedging ourselves against prospective loss through artificial self-protections but, when loss…Continue
Added by M Adams on February 3, 2019 at 8:06pm — No Comments
"Blessed is he, who has learned to bear what he cannot change, and to give up with dignity, what he cannot save." Friedrich Schiller
Added by M Adams on February 1, 2019 at 12:00am — No Comments