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Repost: Is It Wrong to Grieve?

Is It Wrong to Grieve?

Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that. “There is no such thing as ‘getting over’ grief,” writes Dr. Alan Wolfelt in his book Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart. However, he adds: “Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften.”…

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Added by Mike H. on August 18, 2017 at 7:09am — No Comments

I lost My Mom

I lost my Mom on July 25th of this year(2017) 6 years after my Dad. I don't understand why I cant cry, I mean I know its a complicated process when things don't go as planned. My Mom spent some much time in and out of the hospital the last 15 years; every time was "the time" but then she would rally and be shopping days later. I admit I thought she would live forever, or at least longer than me so I never really saw this day coming. Still I…

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Added by Angela on August 14, 2017 at 10:05am — 5 Comments

guilt

now guilt is in me 

fealin bad ovr bad thns lst 5 yrs or so nw moms dem/azl now guilt is beatin me up in sid is coz ovr loss of dad why u i cud not stp it frm hapinin u cud say 

Added by JO B on August 13, 2017 at 3:37pm — No Comments

Don't worry!

Since my mom died in May, I haven't been to church except maybe two weeks after she died and then the pain of her death was still so fresh (it still is, as it'll be 3 months since she died next Thursday), I couldn't stay for the whole service. I packed up my things and left. I felt completely alone, yet I did not want to be around anyone. I felt that if I stayed I would've just started bawling and wouldn't be able to stop.

Today, was the first time I've been to church in months and…

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Added by Joy on August 13, 2017 at 2:06pm — 1 Comment

Drowning...

I can't do this anymore. I don't know what's wrong with me. But I feel like I'm lost. Like I'm drowning again. I thought things were getting better, that I was finally learning to handle my emotions, that I was coping. But now I'm right back where I was a year ago. I just want to curl up in a corner somewhere and cry myself to sleep. Over and over again. Nothing's changed, nothing's happened. And that's the worst part, knowing that it's coming from within. That I'm doing this to myself. I just… Continue

Added by Bethany on August 13, 2017 at 11:37am — 2 Comments

And So it Begins.

My heart is hurting so badly right now. I feel blindsided, although I know I should not have been, I should have seen it coming. But I was trying so hard, for one because my husband would want me to and for another I felt it was the right thing to do.

My husband and I have not had anything to do with his…

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Added by Jennifer on August 12, 2017 at 7:45pm — 1 Comment

BE CAREFUL.FAKE CONTACTS IN HERE.

I HAD SOMEONE TRYING TO CONTACT ME FROM GHANA.HER NAME IS KATE KWAME. I SAW HER ONLINE LAST NIGHT.I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS. I AM GRIEVEING FOR MY WIFE AND THESE PEOPLE DO THIS. 

Added by MIchael Ortiz on August 12, 2017 at 4:13pm — 4 Comments

ANOTHER LONG NIGHT.

Since my wife past I cannot sleep. I lay in bed like she is still next to me. I miss her kiss goodnight and the one before she left for work.  I am broken inside and have no clue in how to repair me. As I wrote before I do this alone. Yes I am angry at people. I would never make false promises because I am a man of my word. She made me so happy. I wish I dream about her so I could see her. So many people fail me. So I guess I know there true colors. Its really sucks to find out this way…

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Added by MIchael Ortiz on August 12, 2017 at 3:23am — No Comments

My life has change and I cannot just smash my way out of pain.

I lost my wife Jodi on June 16th. At the time it was like any night but change quickly. Before I knew it I was back home alone cleaning up stuff left by the EMT`S. It then hit me. I was like this is a dream but my heart knew.I did not know I could cry like that. Then it began the start  answers that I could not be given truly and people just asking how over and over. I could not hear there words and did not know what to do next.I knew my wife wishes because we talk about it here and there.…

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Added by MIchael Ortiz on August 11, 2017 at 3:40am — No Comments

The Loss of my Husband.

My husband died last month; 26 days ago and it feels like yesterday. He had been steadily been getting sicker the last 2 years. Every doctor said the same thing, his lungs were getting worse. He had microscopic holes which made it so he did not make/retain as much oxygen as his body needed. Which meant his entire body was slowly dying of oxygen deprivation. We tried everything. He was on pure oxygen 24/7 and a host of other machines and medicines. In May he had surgery on his heart, the…

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Added by Jennifer on August 10, 2017 at 4:00pm — 3 Comments

Two in one day

I had some warning with Moms death but not with my first and oldest dog. He died in Mom,s arms four hours before she left this world. I knew he would be dying as he was old but didn't expect him to die the same day as Mom. He was his usual self in the morning and when I went to feed him two hours later he was unresponsive.it was Mom wish to die at home with her two "boys" next to her, and that is exactly what she had. The youngest dog gave her the farewell kiss as well as to his brother. There… Continue

Added by Marianne Lennon on August 10, 2017 at 10:38am — No Comments

Anonymous

I have only been on this site for a few days. And I realize that I am an anonymous person to all of you. You are to me as well. Over time I hope to get to know many of you better, to find out your stories, who you lost, and why you loved them so much.

I don't want to be just a random name, or that kid who misses his mama. I want you to know who I am. The first and most important thing to know is that no one calls me Brett. My nickname is "Oatmeal." I have been called Oatmeal…

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Added by Brett Bowman on August 1, 2017 at 12:18pm — 5 Comments

CAN DEATH BE CONQUERED?

CAN DEATH BE CONQUERED?

Why do we rebel against death? The Bible explains the reason. Regarding our Creator, it says: “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has even put eternity in their [mankind’s] heart.” (Ecclesiastes 3:11) We…

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Added by Mike H. on July 31, 2017 at 6:47am — No Comments

Losing your spouse

I'm not sure if I'm posting this correctly since this is my first time. I joined this group today. I've been looking for a site and I found this one and read many posts and felt connected. My husband Steven passed away a almost a year ago on August 12, 2016. My first year without him is upon me in a few weeks and I feel as though it was yesterday.The day he died I went along with him. Physically I exist but emotionally and spiritually I am dead.I have no desire for anything no joy no happiness.… Continue

Added by Cynthia on July 30, 2017 at 12:41pm — 5 Comments

A void

I lost my dad 5 years ago to colon cancer. He did chemo radiation several surgeries and fought it for 4.5 years. He was the strongest person I know. I left college to come and help my mom take care of him and my family. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him or miss him. I will never forget the pain he had to endure or the look on his face when he told me he knew he was dying. It is pure torture watching someone u love someone who has always taken care of u to be in that much pain and… Continue

Added by Alicia on July 28, 2017 at 11:41pm — No Comments

Losing a loved one has forced me to reconsider some of my religious beliefs. I grew up in the Catholic Church. I attended Sunday School, and sometimes Mass. I stopped just shortly before my confirmat…

Losing a loved one has forced me to reconsider some of my religious beliefs. I grew up in the Catholic Church. I attended Sunday School, and sometimes Mass. I stopped just shortly before my confirmation. I was about 13 years old, I had developed severe depression, and I didn't agree with the politics of the Catholic church. I looked at the bible very literally, and I didn't understand how it fit in with today's society. I was more interested in science, and I didn't see how God could exist.…

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Added by Liz on July 27, 2017 at 11:51pm — 2 Comments

How Far is Heaven?

I'm a mamas boy. There was a time when I was embarrassed to say that. Not anymore. I would scream it from the mountain tops, especially if I thought that my mom could hear me. I was her caretaker. I couldn't stand the idea of my mom spending her last days (years) in assisted living. I wanted her to die in her own home, and I wanted to give something back to the woman who not only gave me life, but also loved me unconditionally until her last day on earth. She died on Christmas Eve, 2015. And…

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Added by Brett Bowman on July 27, 2017 at 10:30am — 10 Comments

Mankind’s Fight Against Mortality

NOTE: My blogs are not posted with the intention of promoting any organization or religion. The goal of these blogs are to provide the same comfort I received for the death of a loved one. Enjoy.

Death is a fearsome enemy. We fight it with all our might. We may try to deny it when it strikes someone dear to us. Or, in the exuberance of youth,…

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Added by Mike H. on July 20, 2017 at 7:13am — No Comments

How do we treat ourselves....?

Here is a reality check I was faced with very recently. I had to take vitamins after my doctors persistent advice and I got a few extra pounds. Nothing much but enough to bring bullying from a very unlikely source. A friend that recently separated, a guy who insisted to say every single time he saw me that I was FAT. Even though most my friends would say the complete opposite. That I look healthier. In fact was so many times I heard from the same friend (also my neighbour) that I came to the…

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Added by silvia maria on July 16, 2017 at 8:30am — No Comments

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Repost: Is It Wrong to Grieve?

Is It Wrong to Grieve?Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that. “There is no such thing as ‘getting over’ grief,” writes Dr. Alan Wolfelt in his book Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart. However, he adds: “Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften.”As an example, consider how the patriarch Abraham reacted when his wife died. The Bible says that “Abraham began…See More
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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They don't understand.

How do you deal with well meaning family/friends who just don't understand what you're going through? 2 of my sisters-in-law still have their husbands.  One does not have a good marriage, she talks about her husband dying flippantly she says things like "I know if _____ died I would use the insurance money to go on that vacation he never wants to go on."  Then in the next breath "Are you still going on your cruise next year?  I could take (my husband's) place if you want so you're not alone."…See More
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"Apparently, I have found the anger that my counselor and everyone else has been saying I was going to feel.  To this point, all I have felt is sad or numb.  Well, the last 2 days I have not been able to stand to see happy families.…"
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Diane commented on Angela's blog post I lost My Mom
"My mom had renal failure , she passed away December 2015. I still miss her everyday of my breathing, during this time I had broken my right wrist on a Friday Dec. 11 2015 my mom died on the 17. The pain was in so many directions, leaving the…"
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