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New to this...but wanted to reach out...


I am new to, well, all of this, blog writing and connecting online in this way...but I hope to make connections with others that may be feeling loss in a way that is interrupting their ability to find peace and happiness.

I have had more loss in the last two years than I have had in my life to this point at the age of 50.  Two very close friends passed away quite suddenly.  They were my age and nowhere near ready to leave, any more than I am.  They were…


Added by Heather Brooks on December 11, 2017 at 9:25pm — No Comments


I joined today to connect with people who may be feeling the same way I am..guilt, lost, alone, scared, angry, and moments of joy when I think about our life together.

I recently lost my husband of 26 years,  He was the first and last man I dated and had a relationship with.  He was my best friend, my rock, my love and connection to life.  He showed me how to be strong and independent, but i am not sure I can be without him most of the time.

Joining him is not an option!! I…


Added by Aaron Hoenig on December 5, 2017 at 4:55pm — No Comments

My life has become a scary nightmare again

In general, I think I have been managing better in the latter half of this, my third year since my beloved died. How I describe it to anyone who will listen is that the first year was a crazy nightmare, in the second I forced myself to get out and try to create a new life, and in the third, I’ve been able to build on that new life — even though it’s mostly just a matter of going through the motions. I don’t actually WANT to be doing any of it. I feel like someone who has been kidnapped and…


Added by Alice Thompson on December 4, 2017 at 5:06pm — 3 Comments


Today marks 1 month since you left us, and things haven't got any easier!!! It still hurts everyday knowing that my love/best friend is gone...

Added by Raven Richardson on November 28, 2017 at 2:55pm — 2 Comments



My name is David.

I'm new to this community. I joined because I am grieving over the recent loss of my partner of 35 years. I need acceptance and support.

Added by David Heggi on November 26, 2017 at 9:49am — 7 Comments

1st Year twice

Last year thanksgiving i lost my husband of 10 years.. Like 10 years, its my whole young adult life. Never in a million years did i think that I would of become a widow..its still weird writri g it let alone being it. Our daughter is 4 and she ask for him everyday. 2mrw will be hard and im trying to drown myself in work. I just dont know

Added by Tina C Mauro on November 22, 2017 at 6:15am — No Comments

How writing helped me to heal

Hi - I’m a widow living in the UK. I lost my beloved husband to cancer nearly nine years ago but it still feels painful to think about him. After he died my world fell apart. We never had children together so the bond between us was very strong. One day, when I was feeling particularly low, I decided to write about it and somehow this helped me. I kept writing and eventually the idea of writing a book came to me. Eventually I self-published my first novel which follows the journey of a grieving… Continue

Added by Sam Hayward on November 9, 2017 at 3:59pm — 2 Comments

Today would have been my husband’s birthday.

He died 10 weeks ago. He would have been 27. We met in middle school and dated for years before getting married in July. We never even got to celebrate a month of marriage. Three weeks after the wedding we were in a car accident on our honeymoon and he died instantly. I’m still recovering from my injuries and every single day I wonder why I’m still here. In so many ways he was a better person than I am. He was only 26, he never got to work a job he was passionate about, he never got to be a… Continue

Added by Niomi Johnson on November 9, 2017 at 7:17am — 1 Comment


It has been 8 months since I have talked to my person. I have 1 year and 5 months to go until I can talk to her again. I miss her everyday. I am terrified that she will forget me until then. I do not know what to do if she forgets me. I talked to her everyday for over a year, she was there and she saved my life. I miss her so much.

Added by Katie Jones on November 4, 2017 at 2:33pm — No Comments

I miss my mother

It has been almost 5 months since my mother has pasted. I miss her so much!!! I cry everyday! My mother died very suddenly, I did not get to say goodbye. I had been laid off from my job, due to cutbacks on a Friday in the beginning of summer. The Monday after my mother and I were going to a pool that I had just joined, having a nice day planned because all I did was work being a single mother. When we got to the pool we ran into some friends. My mother went into the pool to float on a noodle. I… Continue

Added by Jennifer L Day on November 4, 2017 at 2:21pm — No Comments

Does Counselling Really Help?

I’ve not been on here for a while, it’s been so hard just trying to get through the days; keeping myself busy, trying desperately hard not to think about things and often failing miserably. I’m so tired of feeling so shitty all the time. I had my first session with a counsellor today, after feeling initially nervous and not wanting to say much everything came out and I cried like a baby. I feel absolutely drained now and very emotional. So my question is this, does counselling really help or… Continue

Added by Louise on October 16, 2017 at 9:30am — No Comments

Letter to My Nancy #602 one of my daily letters to my lady

I began writing one of these each day, beginning December 2015 to ease my grief and start each day with some hope and joy. The hope and joy would last for awhile and then I would be back in the throes of deep, dark misery. I recommend these emails that are never sent as excellent therapy. I have written 602 of them in the 2 and  a half years since I lost my Nancy. Here is today's letter to Nancy. 

Letter to My Nancy …


Added by Mel Royer on October 15, 2017 at 2:42pm — No Comments

Lost Long-time Companion to Cirrhosis

My beloved was an incredibly talented, warm joyful soul. He suffered from alcoholism and I wasn't able to help him. He had wanted to marry me but I didn't think I could handle the drinking and what it was doing to him. After five years, I insisted he move out. We always remained close and by the time we realized he was sick we had become the dearest of companions. At that. point I told him he needed to come back and he did, briefly.He went on with a planned trip to visit his father out of state… Continue

Added by Patricia Kaschalk on October 12, 2017 at 1:00pm — 1 Comment

Grief Share Support Group

I attended the first in 13 sessions tonight with a group of people from all walks of life. The meeting was very therapeutic. Of course when they had us introduce ourselves and talk about our losses, I broke down when I talked about losing my mom three days after Mother's Day. But it felt good to be part of a group where others understand your feelings and the trauma that you experienced. There were quite a few tears shed among the group but I'm happy that I was able to find a group close to…


Added by Joy on October 11, 2017 at 8:35pm — 3 Comments


It's been 2 years since I lost my mother and my husband and I am still lost and still very much alone in my grief I haven't been on this site in a while I've been trying to get by every day it's not working too well I'm struggling really really hard my family is still not around I guess they think I am OK that I'm doing fine little do theyknow that I'm not they are coming to my house this Saturday for a cook out because it's something my mother wanted me to do that's the only reason I agreed to… Continue

Added by Pamela philipp on September 25, 2017 at 9:20am — 3 Comments

Health in context of grief

Safe to assume the deffenses go down with the spirits. But in all fairness I´ve been sick for a while since I had the back surgeries, and it´s sometimes hard to separe effects from feeling ups and downs to the food and habits healthy and unhealthy. Added to that the idea that I will be ok and doctors don´t seem to  do much more for me these days. Neverhteless, some times I go to fix one thing and the medication side effects harm in some ways or the pain meds have caused me to faint and break…


Added by silvia maria on September 17, 2017 at 8:00am — No Comments

Brain cancer is the worst

Added by Anonymity be my name on September 16, 2017 at 12:07pm — No Comments

How to avoid old patterns of being frozen in time in the NON ACTION

As i am moving on to making my way back to work these days, seems I have to avoid the MENTAL state whereas the mind goes into some FROZEN state whereas I am unabe to move on in a healthy manner. See once we decided to leave that state of mind whereas the self pitty pot is full and the gun of frustration pointed at self, justified hurting or not that keeps me back to a state of NON ACTION or POOR REACTION, where self blame mixes with the stan still place....well, times changed. I realize I…


Added by silvia maria on September 9, 2017 at 3:30am — No Comments

Does religion help?

I consider myself spiritual and not much in favour of organized religion. But lately I thought that could perhaps help to bring some peace or have some positive impact, So for the last  weeks I have been going once a week to this evangelic church witch I quite enjoy the visits. In the beggining was some help to put more peace in my heart and feel better. And that had a positive impact however I needed that new boost the next week or things would feel heavier somehow. Some weekes later I…


Added by silvia maria on September 8, 2017 at 5:30pm — 2 Comments


Hi Everyone,

My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called my "little brother" was on his bicycle in Back Bay Boston around 2am when a drunk driver rear ended him, sent him airborne, and then dragged him down the street while trying to flee. My friend died a day later. He was only 29. Rick was a kind, smart, funny man. He made people…


Added by Carlyn Jorgensen on August 28, 2017 at 12:42pm — 2 Comments

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