"Don’t think my remaining family, or most of my acquaintances would agree that my approach is healthy, or even acceptable, but it feels right to me. I find that in some ways I’m getting less responsive to what people want of me,…"
"Seems different for me — on my mother’s birthday, and on Mother’s Day, I do something to celebrate how beautiful and wonderful she was, last year with special meals and toasts to her memory as well as doing certain things, cooking…"
"Jayne, if there is an advantage to this, maybe we are fortunate that we can get it over with in one day. I wouldn't necessarily call that a good thing, but I really dread any landmark dates concerning my mom."
"Avi, yes. People were posting pictures of their mothers, or they would post a picture with their mom, celebrating the day. It was also my mom's birthday. There is really nothing we can do but miss them. It's sad that a day that used to be…"
"Oatmeal!! Sorry that Krissy passed...I know you loved that dog. I hope you finally found a job you can stand. I know things will come together for you as long as you keep hitting the gym.....oh I can get it back lol"
"I just remember, when my mom was sick but not yet dying, we would be sitting in our sun room, talking or watching TV. Our two little dogs would be there wagging their little tails. I started to realize that I would see all three of them die. But…"
"The news of passing of your dog is sad Brett because last 2 years your dog has been in our discussion and I feel connected to her.
I can understand that having a motivation to live is very imp. Currently my 1.5 years daughter is my motivation…"
"SelV, some of the things that you described are frightening. I have a very similar feeling about life. My precious little dog died a couple of weeks ago. She was my mom's dog as well, and she was the best thing I had going for me. Her…"
"Re doing things we did together I was thinking more of making piecrust with my mom, or the right way to chop vegetables, or starting plants from cuttings, not anything like vacation travel. When my husband died several people, including…"
I am 26, a Licensed Massage Therapist and a mother to a beautiful 5 year old little girl.
About my Loss:
~I lost my uncle to pancreatic cancer on 10-18-09
~I lost my Papaw to liver cancer 10-20-08
~I lost my Nana to Lung Cancer 12-4-08
~I lost my sweet Mom 6-8-09. In 2006 we found out that she had breast cancer, she had surgery and radiation. Everything was good for awhile. Then in August of 2008 we found out that it was in her Liver, Gall Bladder, Bile Duct and Lymph Nodes in the central part of her chest. She had surgery to remove everything that could be safely removed. In Sept she got a Staph infection and we almost lost her. November, she started Chemo....She was 2 treatments away from being finished with chemo when we found out that she was in Acute Renal Failure (5-19-09), two days later we found out that her Liver had failed and that there was nothing left that they could do for her. She died June 8, 2009 at 1:10pm.
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I work up this morning...and thought "what a bummer". I really have no meaning to my life. My mother has been gone 3 weeks Monday. Cancer...that murderer of our loved ones. She was my darling mom. Without my faith..I would just kiss this thing we call life goodbye. This site and all of you have been almost my sole support. I pray a lot. I miss her. I hope you are going to have a decent day today. I will try. Mustering up the energy and desire to do something normal like go to the movies. XO Sue
I am a 26 year old dental hygiene student and mother of a little girl who is almost four. Last Dec. my Mom was diagnosed with Stage IV Ovarian Cancer. We lost her this past summer. She was only 49. I felt like I was the only young girl who lost her mom--until I joined this community. It is so hard, and I miss her so much. Sometimes I think im ok and can see a future for myself and my family, and sometimes I cant hardly get out of bed. I hope you and your family are well.
I am sorry about your mom too. I just lost my mom on Jan 22 and I am only 32 years old, young like you. We never expect to lose our moms this early in life. Its just horrible! I miss her so much and it hasn't even been a month yet. We are best friends! K
Karen I am so sorry you just lost your Mom. It's been a few years for me but I think about my Mom everyday and say hello to her. My husband had cancer 3 yrs ago and they said he was "cured". Now he is having liver problems and I'm scared the cancer may be back. We just never know what life will deal us. Hang in there and know that you are in my prayers and thoughts.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom when I was 18 years old. Then a Sister, a Brother, my Father and recently my Brother to cancer. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of them all. It has been 26 years since I lost my Mom. Take comfort in knowing that the memories you have of her or of the two of you together now will one day lead to smiles instead of tears...
I am so sorry for you. I also lost my mother on 10/16/08, father on 12/5/08 and my grandmother on 5/29/09. My mother also had bial duct cancer. It is really hard losing so many of your loved ones in a short period of time. My daughters are 24 & 19 and the family is having such a hard time with this. We miss them so much.
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