You made my year, with your lovely words! Thank you:-). From my experience so far the parents make up a huge component of any child's success. It is apparent that you fought long and hard to give your son everything he needs and the…"
I totally agree with you about the weather making a difference in how we feel. Sunshine seems to uplift me. I was counting down the days for daylight savings time to begin this year as that extra hour of light meant so much to me now.
I hope you're having a peaceful day. Things sound super tough at your job. I'm sorry you have this added burden on top of enduring the loss of your sweet mom. I don't know what kind of work you do, but I hope you can find a…"
I think you're very brave to return to work so soon. I would have similar concerns as you yours. I can tell that you truly care for your patients and their families. Will they let you return on a part time basis until you can see how…"
"Bluebell, being a hospice nurse has to be tough
I think you are right because of your own experience you will be stronger than you think.
I am off today and I am going to run errands it helps to occupy my mind, but not completely.
"I have been blessed with a very understanding set of people at work. They have told me to take my time coming back to work and have ask if there is anything they can do to help, just ask. They knew how much my life was centered on taking care of my…"
It is the same for me in terms of my job. I'm a special education assistant and have worked with kids for over 20 years with varying special needs. The last 5 years I have specialized in working with children with autism. I started…"
I feel the same way and the weather here has been the same I'm in Pennsylvania
You were not rambling It just lets me know I'm not alone
Are used to always look forward to summer to go to the pool see my friends now I feel like I…"
I understand what you are talking about. I work in a very large school and have been there for 3 years and no one acknowledged or asked about how my mom was doing (I had to take some days off in the last month of the last school year to…"
"No Bluebell, any death is difficult for all of us right now.
Sometimes though I feel numb towards others that have lost a loved one
I have people come in to my place of employment all the time (jewelry store) that have lost parents and they seem so…"
"My best friends parrot died yesterday and it is hitting me very hard. I am not dealing with it well right now. Lots of tears and sadness. Will this never stop? I do not think it is all about the parrot. It is tied in with my Mom's death…"
"Nancy yes I do and I am glad that I found this site, because I know that I am not alone.
Bluebell, Nancy is right it will be a tough few months, sometimes when I am driving, I say mom I miss you so much
Rhonda glad to see you are back, ,may I ask…"
I'm so sorry. You work full time outside the home, right? I had missed/forgotten about that. It's probably hard to find time for extra activities with your busy schedule. I send positive thoughts and prayers. We were brought…"
I am 26, a Licensed Massage Therapist and a mother to a beautiful 5 year old little girl.
About my Loss:
~I lost my uncle to pancreatic cancer on 10-18-09
~I lost my Papaw to liver cancer 10-20-08
~I lost my Nana to Lung Cancer 12-4-08
~I lost my sweet Mom 6-8-09. In 2006 we found out that she had breast cancer, she had surgery and radiation. Everything was good for awhile. Then in August of 2008 we found out that it was in her Liver, Gall Bladder, Bile Duct and Lymph Nodes in the central part of her chest. She had surgery to remove everything that could be safely removed. In Sept she got a Staph infection and we almost lost her. November, she started Chemo....She was 2 treatments away from being finished with chemo when we found out that she was in Acute Renal Failure (5-19-09), two days later we found out that her Liver had failed and that there was nothing left that they could do for her. She died June 8, 2009 at 1:10pm.
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I work up this morning...and thought "what a bummer". I really have no meaning to my life. My mother has been gone 3 weeks Monday. Cancer...that murderer of our loved ones. She was my darling mom. Without my faith..I would just kiss this thing we call life goodbye. This site and all of you have been almost my sole support. I pray a lot. I miss her. I hope you are going to have a decent day today. I will try. Mustering up the energy and desire to do something normal like go to the movies. XO Sue
I am a 26 year old dental hygiene student and mother of a little girl who is almost four. Last Dec. my Mom was diagnosed with Stage IV Ovarian Cancer. We lost her this past summer. She was only 49. I felt like I was the only young girl who lost her mom--until I joined this community. It is so hard, and I miss her so much. Sometimes I think im ok and can see a future for myself and my family, and sometimes I cant hardly get out of bed. I hope you and your family are well.
I am sorry about your mom too. I just lost my mom on Jan 22 and I am only 32 years old, young like you. We never expect to lose our moms this early in life. Its just horrible! I miss her so much and it hasn't even been a month yet. We are best friends! K
Karen I am so sorry you just lost your Mom. It's been a few years for me but I think about my Mom everyday and say hello to her. My husband had cancer 3 yrs ago and they said he was "cured". Now he is having liver problems and I'm scared the cancer may be back. We just never know what life will deal us. Hang in there and know that you are in my prayers and thoughts.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom when I was 18 years old. Then a Sister, a Brother, my Father and recently my Brother to cancer. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of them all. It has been 26 years since I lost my Mom. Take comfort in knowing that the memories you have of her or of the two of you together now will one day lead to smiles instead of tears...
I am so sorry for you. I also lost my mother on 10/16/08, father on 12/5/08 and my grandmother on 5/29/09. My mother also had bial duct cancer. It is really hard losing so many of your loved ones in a short period of time. My daughters are 24 & 19 and the family is having such a hard time with this. We miss them so much.
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