"Re doing things we did together I was thinking more of making piecrust with my mom, or the right way to chop vegetables, or starting plants from cuttings, not anything like vacation travel. When my husband died several people, including…"
"Brenda, I think that people look too hard to find some thing very big. That something that makes you happy could just be a doughnut. When you are taking baby steps it's just a matter of getting from the chair to the couch.
That's what I…"
"Re baby steps, one thing that has helped me is doing things that we did together, or learning to do things that she did. It might sound sad or even heartbreaking, to do those things alone, and if it feels that way it’s not the right…"
"Day by day. Minute by minute. Find something, anything that makes you happy and focus on it. For me it's my dog. When she is gone I will focus on something else. It could be anything.
If that doesn't work, do it for your mom. Carry on for…"
"it has been almost 6 years (my mom passed away on Feb 18, 2014) since my mom (56-year-old) passed way, it still feels like yesterday..I can't believe it..anyone here whos still here after all these years?"
"Brett, I am looking for the same light at the end of the tunnel. I feel the same way about my dog he is a Labrador and its so so difficult to see him limp or have a bad day, he takes meds, I just want him to be comfortable. I say to…"
"Brenda, I rely on my faith so much, but I realized a long time ago that there won't be a magic moment where an angel comes down and tells me that everything will be okay. I'm not criticizing God. I just realize that this is something that…"
"I'm having a lot of trouble getting Krissy to eat. She has diabetes and she has a very limited diet as it is. She can only eat prescription dog food. I switched to the wet version and she was eating up, and now it's the same as before. My…"
"Brett yes as horrible as it is for us both our dogs have aged almost 5 years since our moms died I’m having a really hard time with it I’m thinking that I might need counseling my boy is going to be 13 he still gets around but I know…"
"Brenda, so much of what you said is so familiar with me. I haven't been able to take a nap since my mom died four years ago. Once, while my mom was still alive and on Hospice, I laid down for a second. I fell asleep and I was having a sweet…"
"Brenda. I am terribly anxious every day. I try to have faith in God to get me through whatever I am dealing with. I have a dog who is goi g to be 13 in April and all I do is worry about him. My last dog I had my mom to lean on and…"
I am 26, a Licensed Massage Therapist and a mother to a beautiful 5 year old little girl.
About my Loss:
~I lost my uncle to pancreatic cancer on 10-18-09
~I lost my Papaw to liver cancer 10-20-08
~I lost my Nana to Lung Cancer 12-4-08
~I lost my sweet Mom 6-8-09. In 2006 we found out that she had breast cancer, she had surgery and radiation. Everything was good for awhile. Then in August of 2008 we found out that it was in her Liver, Gall Bladder, Bile Duct and Lymph Nodes in the central part of her chest. She had surgery to remove everything that could be safely removed. In Sept she got a Staph infection and we almost lost her. November, she started Chemo....She was 2 treatments away from being finished with chemo when we found out that she was in Acute Renal Failure (5-19-09), two days later we found out that her Liver had failed and that there was nothing left that they could do for her. She died June 8, 2009 at 1:10pm.
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I work up this morning...and thought "what a bummer". I really have no meaning to my life. My mother has been gone 3 weeks Monday. Cancer...that murderer of our loved ones. She was my darling mom. Without my faith..I would just kiss this thing we call life goodbye. This site and all of you have been almost my sole support. I pray a lot. I miss her. I hope you are going to have a decent day today. I will try. Mustering up the energy and desire to do something normal like go to the movies. XO Sue
I am a 26 year old dental hygiene student and mother of a little girl who is almost four. Last Dec. my Mom was diagnosed with Stage IV Ovarian Cancer. We lost her this past summer. She was only 49. I felt like I was the only young girl who lost her mom--until I joined this community. It is so hard, and I miss her so much. Sometimes I think im ok and can see a future for myself and my family, and sometimes I cant hardly get out of bed. I hope you and your family are well.
I am sorry about your mom too. I just lost my mom on Jan 22 and I am only 32 years old, young like you. We never expect to lose our moms this early in life. Its just horrible! I miss her so much and it hasn't even been a month yet. We are best friends! K
Karen I am so sorry you just lost your Mom. It's been a few years for me but I think about my Mom everyday and say hello to her. My husband had cancer 3 yrs ago and they said he was "cured". Now he is having liver problems and I'm scared the cancer may be back. We just never know what life will deal us. Hang in there and know that you are in my prayers and thoughts.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom when I was 18 years old. Then a Sister, a Brother, my Father and recently my Brother to cancer. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of them all. It has been 26 years since I lost my Mom. Take comfort in knowing that the memories you have of her or of the two of you together now will one day lead to smiles instead of tears...
I am so sorry for you. I also lost my mother on 10/16/08, father on 12/5/08 and my grandmother on 5/29/09. My mother also had bial duct cancer. It is really hard losing so many of your loved ones in a short period of time. My daughters are 24 & 19 and the family is having such a hard time with this. We miss them so much.
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