"I just want to sleep and not wake up it gets worse everyday 263 days treated like a leper by so called friends and like an idiot by some of my children and their wives, now at a point where i really dont care anymore "
"Feeling really down, each days getting worse 7 months since i lost the love of my life , i just clicked on and read your post Diane this was a song Russ and i used to play it is a sign from him that i clicked on and saw it, we are not…"
"Today is my first birthday without my husband 205 days ago he was taken from me 48 years of wonderful marriage, so called friends of 35 years have ignored me and ran inside when they see me and they have been saying they dont know what they have…"
"Every year i put decorations all over the house at christmas, Russ cooked dinner and all the family came over, i cant face it this year he played Father Christmas for 25 years and a lady i know was upset when i said i would not be doing it…"
"After 6 months one of my so called friends husband who lives 2 doors away knocked on my door and asked if i would go to their home on friday for a drink, he said and i quote Russ has been dead now 2 years you should be going out! I have known…"
"We have been friends with our neighbours for 35 years been on holidays every year had dinner parties bbq mostly at our house, been on weekend aways, my husband even helped one of them in financial difficulty, now they run if they see me, one day…"
"Denise, I too have had friends and neighbors RUN from me. When I go out to get the mail, if there is a neighbor standing there they turn around and go inside. I wonder if they think "widowhood" is catchy? I have one…"
"Oleta I totally agree with you, what is wrong with people calling you?? Out of all the family and friends who said, " I will call" or those who say "Call me if you need anything" only two cousins and one friend actually follow…"
"Im sorry for your loss, know what your going through, but good god what an a hole! Obviously they dont have any brain cells, my hubbie often stopped for a pint on his way home, he would pick our son up on the way it was their time together…"
"Same thing here. Not only the same but a FRIEND of my husband's asking me how much $$$ John left me, were my home and cars paid for? He wanted to know HOW MUCH I HAVE. I wanted to tell him to kiss my behind. My husband…"
"My husband was killed on his motor bike on his way home from work 9 months ago. He had stopped at a 'watering hole' for a drink before heading home. I had a "close" friend email me several weeks after his death to tell me it was…"
"5 months for me Ruthie, every day gets worse i have walked out of a so called friends house because they said at least you got to have a holiday together before he died, and then her husband raised his glass and said to our so called "friends…"
"I do not think anyone knows what H_LL it is like until they go through it and only if they Love that person as much as you did your husband. This is worse than any physical pain. I am glad you got to experience that kind of intense…"
I am so sorry for your loss, Pamela. I too lost my Nancy last April 29th. She died in my arms. Her heart just stopped beating. As I approach the first year without her, I realize how much I was defined by her. Now that she's gone,I truly feel as though I am half a person. I pray that you will find some comfort in the wonderful memories those 48 years brought to you. Everyone here knows how you are feeling and are always ready to help when asked. In this earliest stage of your grief, take care of yourself, eat when you can and distract yourself with activities or just get out of the house. But cry when you need to and let the grief run it's course. You'll always have the love of that special person you lost but it will still hurt. Eventually, I am told, it will ease and you will integrate the ups and downs of that emotional roller coaster into your daily life. After nearly a year, I do have moments of peace and calm and I take those moments to remember the best times I had with my dear soulmate. God Bless you and may you experience "the peace that passeth all understanding" as you grieve your deep loss.
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"I started to compose a blow by blow sequence of events of my loves illness and passing but it became too painful and couldn't continue. Here we share how we are feeling grieving our lost Loves. In reality, most of my underlying…"
I totally understand; I detest being around happy families, and especially happy couples. It's not that I want anything bad to happen to them, I definitely do not. It's just that they have what my beloved and I should still have,…"
"usually I find your comments really clear, Linda, so I don’t think it’s not being good with words, more that it’s hard to express these things in words. Actually I couldn’t follow what Joe said either, but it’s…"
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Joe explained in his post of how I feel. I am not good with words on explaining things but Joe you said it perfectly. I just want to thank everyone here for sharing their thoughts, as we are all in the same boat together."
"Speaking for myself, I identify with Linda. My Love left our world and I know it, and accept that she crossed over into another realm of existence and can't come back. I want her back and I live in HELL every day without her. …"
"Linda, not sure what you mean here when you say you can accept the loss of your husband but not being able to change it is your whole problem — do you mean not being able to change the fact of the loss, or not being able to change the way it…"
Like you mentioned in your post, there is no normal in my life. I just take each day as it comes and just wait for death. I can accept that Julian is gone but not being able to change it is my whole problem."
"Hi Haven't been writing recently as have had so much to organize in my life I just haven't had a moment and when I do I am so tired. So grateful to everyone else who continues to write though. I look here daily to read.…"
"They told me that Mom had a heart attack. It happened on the weekend. I had made her breakfast & she seemed fine. I am thankful she was at home & that I was with her, but it hurts so much knowing she is gone. I just…"
"I was with my mom when she passed and it was not sudden. I may have thought I was prepared. I wasn't. I tried to say and do all of the right things. Still, after her last breath, it was as though I hadn't prepared at all. I knew what to…"
"Thanks so much! It helps having others that understand. Some of my family is supportive & that helps. It helps just having someone listen that truly understands. I have one sibling, but he was never as close to my…"
"It's important to have people in your life who understand, even if they are on a message board like this, because sometimes you have to look far and wide to find someone to walk with you.
Sometimes I will call my mom's sister. She will…"
"Thank you, some days are better than others. I feel so for you. My Mom was the center of my world also. I lived with her & took care of her. I am so thankful that I could be there for her, but now I miss her so…"
"Three months is not very long. It is still very fresh for you. There will be a lot of triggers. Sometimes they will hit you out of the blue. Other times you know that one is coming, like if you have to drive by a familiar place. It's important…"