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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by BLUEBELL 2 hours ago

Thank you Nancy for commenting and your reassurance.

To Misty and Olive-Hello. I wish we were not a part of group. But we are. For myself, it is not taking away the pain of her loss, but it is helping me feel not so alone. I have family, but it hard to talk to them openly. Because I am the baby of the family, they want to take care of me. I do not want to be taken care of. I just want for us to share our grief and support each other.

Comment by Misty 2 hours ago
I lost my Mom 2 years ago April 12, 2015. December 4 of 2014 I lost my brother who was only 2 years younger than me. Last week I had 2 breast biopsys and I really needed my Mom. I keep thinking it will get easier until something happens. I didn't know what to tell my Dad. I'm thankful my results were great no cancer but I wanted to share my anxiety and then relief with my Mom. I don't think it ever gets easier.
Comment by Olive 3 hours ago

Hi all, I posted awhile back.  I lost my dear mom on December 23 and the pain I feel is sometimes excruciating.  She was my best friend and a beautiful, generous, thoughtful mom.  I miss her so very much.  Does this ever get easier?

Comment by Nancy Dynes 3 hours ago
Bluebell,
From what I understand it is absolutely normal. Two years later I still cry daily. The numbness protects your wounded heart and soul for short periods (in my experience).
Comment by BLUEBELL 3 hours ago

My Mom passed away on Valentines Day. I have been crying daily except for today. Right now I feel numb and tired. Is this normal?

Bluebell

Comment by Nancy Dynes 4 hours ago
Has anyone found particular activities that are therapeutic or bring you joy during your grief? I'm an artist, so even though I may be crying as I create, I find this outlet a true blessing. I also started feeding birds in my back garden, just outside my studio windows. I don't know why, but watching the beautiful, gentle songbirds (and even the squirrels) really lifts my spirits in a way nothing else does.
Comment by Nancy Dynes 4 hours ago
Theresa,
It will be two years in April since my mom went to heaven. I miss her just as much as the day she passed away. At times it feels almost unacceptable that she is isn't coming back. At this point I can do everything I need to do to get through the day, though I still cry privately about once a day. I can be with my family, go out with friends, travel, laugh, etc... However, I don't look forward to things in the same way I used to and beneath everything is always this permanent underlying sadness. I often bring my mom up in conversation, recalling happy times spent with her or talking about how wonderful she was. I've never seen any of my friends doing this in regards to their parents who have passed on, so I thought there must be something wrong with me. My counselor says this a method of keeping her memory alive and is a healthy way to grieve. She also told me that people like us (the ones who grieve so deeply we seek out resources like this group) were blessed with a very special, close relationship with our mothers that not everyone has. So in a way, our grief is a manifestation of the blessing we had with them when they were alive. I think about my mom throughout every single day. How can we not? How can we ever stop missing our beloved mothers who hold a space in our heart nobody else can fill? I suppose I don't want to stop missing my mom or feeling that familiar pain when I wake up each and realize all over again that she's moved on. To not feel it would be like she was truly gone in every sense of the word. I never want her to be gone. If people don't want to hear me talk about her, well, that's just too bad. I don't know if any of this makes any sense or is helpful at all, but I have similar feelings and your post stood out to me. Prayers going up for you!
Comment by Danny on Friday

Theresa the pain may lessen but do work on the continuing bond with the parent, talk to your Mom and then you will feel better. Friends are not the right people.

Comment by Danny on Friday

Casey i remember you. I dont talk about it with many people. Do my own grief work and talk to those who have actually been through a shock etc. Be well

Comment by Theresa on Thursday

Hi everyone, for me it is one year and two months

I am just as sad

I miss my mom so much, someone please tell me does the pain lessen in time.

Some days are so bad, I feel like the anxiety will never stop, I try to think of good times, but I seem to revert to my mom is not here anymore.

It is difficult when you have no one to talk to, my friends are tired of hearing it.

I pray that my heart will heal

 

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Olive commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Hi all, I posted awhile back.  I lost my dear mom on December 23 and the pain I feel is sometimes excruciating.  She was my best friend and a beautiful, generous, thoughtful mom.  I miss her so very much.  Does this ever get…"
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Losing my mom at my age

I lost my mom January 18th 2017. She was only 46 years old. She was sick all last year. She has been hospitalized multiple times. She was on home oxygen all the time. I seen all her pain and hurt. She woke up and couldn't breath. So i would have to call the paramedics for her. I did everything with and for her. I am only 24 years old and she was helping me raise my daughter since i found out i was pregnant. My daughter is now five years old. My mom and daughter were best friends. They were so…See More
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Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
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Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
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