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- About Me:
- Widowed recently
- About my Loss:
- Married for many years. Loss was a shock. He was my other half. I can't believe he is gone. John passed out and died in emergency two hours later. Cardiac arrest. He never regained consciousness, he never knew he was dying and I thank God for that blessing.
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Nancy commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Lovely pictures everyone. Thank you for sharing. I am in the same boat. I just exist. "
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."I,m grateful that I found this site. It's sort of like besides my family, you all are the only friends I have left. I do have a couple that are long distance, but don't get to see them very often. All my so called local…"
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Here's one of our permanent bed with names blocked out."
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Linda,
We went on that same excursion off a cruise in 2003. Here is a pic that was taken on the ship when we renewed our vows at a ceremony performed by the Captain."
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Morgan & Joe,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You put into words the horror I go through everyday. Going on year 7 without my Husband Julian. He was my whole life and I want to be with him but I can't. If I didn't believe in God I…"
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Joe, 49 years is a long time. Long enough to embed yourself in each other and there is nothing that will soothe the tearing apart of that union. I knew my husband for 55 (since 2nd grade) and we were together for 35. Long…"
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Morgan, Monday will be a very tough day for both of us. It's one year for me which seems like one long day, and six for you, which scares the hell out of me thinking about how long do I have to be here before I go to her. It seems like one long…"
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Lets be honest. Death sucks. As I read the posts on here and I see how we struggle when we lose someone to death it boggles the mind how any of us keep moving. I keep saying to myself there is something I can do to make myself feel better and it…"
Kelly Lieberman posted a status"Can't sleep. Typical, my daughter goes back to college in the morning and I am having a hard time with that."
mindy replied to mindy's discussion Feeling pretty well depressed"I guess I'm doing ok I was in the middle of a family fued Christmas day night so I been keeping to myself I check out that site but don't have the money to pay for it I'm disabled"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I agree with all of that. I didn't expect a reward. My mom was reward enough, but I am not the same person that I once was. And I thought that some kind of balance would occur. I can't explain that really. It's been defeating. As soon…"
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"After my husband’s death, and now after losing my mother, I also found myself somehow imagining that, not so much that something good would happen, more that some kind of reward would come to me, something to balance off the pain and…"
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Well, Brett, one day we all shall see, I have many many questions, but no one to answer them.
My heart still aches everyday, I still cry, but no one understands why, they have no clue...."
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"There's something that has been on my mind lately and this is the best place to mention it. As much as I feared and dreaded my mom's death, I sort of felt like something good would happen, maybe not right away, but eventually. Like Karma…"
Margaret Whitehouse commented on mary snell's group hi"I know how you feel. I lost my mom Jan 6, 2019 and it is so raw and all I do is cry. I was in the room when she passed and had been all day. My regret is I wasn't holding her hand when she took her last breath. She had dementia and I saw her 3…"
Brenda Ann replied to mindy's discussion Feeling pretty well depressed"Mindy,
I am not a doctor but I am a student of the Bible. It seems that you are suffering from anxiety over your past. Humans including ourselves seem to filter the good things we have done and focus on the "bad". But God is the opposite.…"
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Thank you Oleta for taking the time to bring me the most comfort I have had since my John's passing.You obviously are a special and kind person.
I recently became a grandmother, it brings bittersweet thoughts, when I think why didn't John get to enjoy them? The little boy is named Johnny, oh how that would have thrilled my husband. Do you have grandchildren?
Please take comfort in the fact of the happiness that you shared with your John. You will get to the ashes when it's time, for now, know that he is with you. You are in my prayers Stay Strong!
Oleta
Your response to me might be the kindest thing that anyone has ever done for me in life. I had read that this was not a painful death, but for you to reiterate it meant so much to me. On that horrible day, I had come home from work, and my John was already gone. It will always haunt me that I wasn't there to help him.
God Bless, and I will keep you in my prayers. Please reach out if you want to talk.
Oleta, My heart goes out to you. I also lost my beloved John to cardiac arrest. It haunts me that I wasn't home with him, Could I have helped him?
Did he know what was happening to him? I hate the unanswered questions.
I miss him so much, I ache for him. I wish we could just have normal back again.
Be Strong
Fran