"Amy,
I am so sorry for your loss. The journey of caregiving is extremely difficult. The loss of our especially loved dear ones is unspeakable.
There are so many different ideas about what happens to us when we die. Religion teaches many different…"
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- About Me:
- Widowed recently
- About my Loss:
- Married for many years. Loss was a shock. He was my other half. I can't believe he is gone. John passed out and died in emergency two hours later. Cardiac arrest. He never regained consciousness, he never knew he was dying and I thank God for that blessing.
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Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I just feel like I am in a fog. I have a little dog that is at least ten years old. She adored my Mom & she has really grieved for her. I know how you feel about your dog. I worry about her. She is all I have. …"
"Me too Brett, I sit here an look at my 12 year old Labrador and I know he is on borrowed time, and my heart breaks, losing him will be something that I am not looking forward to.
As you said Brett, we have the live our lives until we are called…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Yes, I was looking at something that popped up on my Yahoo news feed. It was an article naming 106 celebrities who have passed away in 2019. So many names and faces that I remembered. Now they are gone, and they aren't coming back. Their time…"
"Brett so true she was my security blanket
I feel like I have no one to lean on that understood me like her
You know what keeps coming in my mind. How true it is and scary that everything has a beginning and an end."
"I hear it all the time you don’t know how lucky you were that your mother wasn’t sick and you didn’t have to take care of her I say to them lucky I was lucky that my mother died and I was not right by her side to tell her I love…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"M, the problem is that our security blankets were ripped away.
Like you, sometimes I am glad to be sad. I feel like I am closer to my mom when I am crying. At least, her memory is fresher with me when I am in that zone.
I feel like the hard reality…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Theresa, millions, billions of people have lost their moms. Sometimes someone will tell me that they have lost their mom, too, but they were able to deal with it, and they wonder why I haven't dealt with it as well. This may sound like an…"
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Me too ...I was sitting marking a paper yesterday and suddenly realized that I can’t see or talk to my mother about this or anything else and the tears came. But I’m glad to think of her, in a way I can be glad to be sad sometimes.…"
"I sometimes will just be sitting down and I start to cry because I keep thinking I miss my mom so much my whole world is just not the same I think that I’ve become a different person it will be four years and I still cry
I can’t put into…"
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Definitely a colder world now. I like the image of the security blanket — like, as we go forward, we will always keep it but eventually may be able to wash it, fold it nicely, and put it in some place of honour close at hand but without…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"The world just became a colder place when my mom died. I just remember feeling like all was right with the world when my mom was in the next room. "
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"It is such a traumatic event, especially when you have had a wonderful Mom. It is so hard knowing she is gone. Knowing this is permanent. There is no one that can fill the void she left. My brother was close to Mom, but he…"
Amy replied to Amy's discussion How do I get unstuck?"I am not a believer and nor was he. We covered the bases just incase though. We were both raised Catholic. That is all besides the point though. "
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"While I never forget that my mom is gone, for some reason it just hits me over the head sometimes. Just out of the blue I'll be like, "Mom is gone." It's horrible. It's ever present. And the thing is that it is always with…"
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"My Mom also. I could always talk to her about anything & knew she was someone I could totally trust. I am constantly thinking of something I want to share with her & then I remember she is gone. I loved spending time with…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"There is no doubt that it is anxiety. In fact, I think we are experiencing fight or flight. Since birth my mom had been my security blanket."
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"It is still numbing to think my Mom is gone & I can't talk to her or see her again. I lost part of me when she passed. Someone said the restless feelings I have are really anxiety. Daily crying is part of my life. …"
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Thank you Oleta for taking the time to bring me the most comfort I have had since my John's passing.You obviously are a special and kind person.
I recently became a grandmother, it brings bittersweet thoughts, when I think why didn't John get to enjoy them? The little boy is named Johnny, oh how that would have thrilled my husband. Do you have grandchildren?
Please take comfort in the fact of the happiness that you shared with your John. You will get to the ashes when it's time, for now, know that he is with you. You are in my prayers Stay Strong!
Oleta
Your response to me might be the kindest thing that anyone has ever done for me in life. I had read that this was not a painful death, but for you to reiterate it meant so much to me. On that horrible day, I had come home from work, and my John was already gone. It will always haunt me that I wasn't there to help him.
God Bless, and I will keep you in my prayers. Please reach out if you want to talk.
Oleta, My heart goes out to you. I also lost my beloved John to cardiac arrest. It haunts me that I wasn't home with him, Could I have helped him?
Did he know what was happening to him? I hate the unanswered questions.
I miss him so much, I ache for him. I wish we could just have normal back again.
Be Strong
Fran