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Orphaned Adults

This group is for adults who have lost both parents and are struggling with coming to terms with this impact, which is harder then you realize till it happens to you.

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No way back to the past...

I am an only child...I lost my dad at 2 & my mom at 27, which I had just given birth to her first grandbaby 22 days before she passed away. Trying to be a parent, with no one around to say "did I…Continue

Started by Sarah Slagle Nov 9, 2012.

Orphaned adults - too young for the 'middle aged' literature, too old for the child/adolescent ... Any for young adults?

Hello, my name is Catherine. I'm 30 a year old and an 'orphaned adult'. I am the eldest of 3 children. Our father died suddenly at 45, when were aged 19, 17 and 13 (respectively). We lost our mother…Continue

Started by Catherine Robson May 21, 2012.

Longing for belonging 3 Replies

I don't feel like I belong to anyone, and there is nobody else who will love me unconditionally like my parents did.  I feel so alone.  I am only 26 and have my whole life ahead of me.  I have some…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Brenda Ann Jan 13, 2012.

Both at the same time??? I just dont understand... 1 Reply

Hey everyone all most 2 months ago now on July 13th 2011 I lost both my Mother (Donna) and Father (Bruce) in a tragic Semi-truck accident. My parents had been team over the road drivers for almost…Continue

Started by Amber Nichole Scarborough McGhee. Last reply by Ruth Oct 10, 2011.

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Comment by Joe von Anjou on July 21, 2020 at 4:39pm

My name is Joe. My mother died last April after a years-long battle with vascular dementia. I am now the last of my family.

It was not supposed to be like this. I had a younger brother, who was exceptional in all regards. He was killed in a car accident decades ago.

I am an adult orphan. It is not the loneliness that gets to me. I accept that loneliness and the pain as just punishment for still being alive when my mother and brother are not.

No, what gets to me is that I failed my mother and brother after everything they did for me. They certainly deserved better. Now, they are reunited and happy. But I wish I could have stopped them from dying.

Comment by Jason M. on June 14, 2020 at 5:30pm
Is this group even active? 2012 seems to be the last message. I will be very disappointed if this group is no longer, especially with 71 members.
Comment by Brette Stinson on June 30, 2012 at 12:33am

How do I go forward??

Like each and every last one of you in this group, I ask myself why me and why did GOD take both of my parents and leave me to be alone. I never knew or heard of an adult orphaned until I lost my only friend and woman of my life........My Mother. I wake up a many day and ask myself what is my purpose is there is no one here to see my accomplishments, my hard times, my gratitude towards them or all in all my life. How do I go forward..............

Comment by Susan F. on May 1, 2012 at 2:46pm
Is anybody out there?
Comment by Susan F. on April 30, 2012 at 9:42am

Sorry I went on so long in my last post.  The pain is just so raw.  I stopped by Starbucks yesterday and without thinking picked one up for mom too.

Comment by Susan F. on April 27, 2012 at 11:26am

I lost my mother in February of last year (2011) and then lost my father seven months later in September, and I was their primary caretaker for the previous two years.  I knew the previous Thanksgiving (2010) that I would lose them both within 3-6 months.  My mother was 86 and my father was 83.  I feel so fortunate to have had them both for so long, and losing parents at that age is the normal cycle of life, isn't it?    In December 2010 he doctors predicted that mom had 6-9 months. She died 3 months later.  My father had lung cancer and was given 3 months at Thanksgiving 2010.  He made it 10 months.  When mom died I felt a great deal of relief for her because her quality of life had decline to the point that she wanted it all to be over.  I missed her but I didn't grieve at all.  I cried the day she died and at her funeral, but that was about all.  I thought that was because I had grieved so much throughout the last year as she was declining and would forget who I was.  Dad's quality of life didn't seem to change at all.  The cancer was too far along for chemo or radiation so he didn't have to deal with the effects of those.  He used pain patches that kept most of the pain in check and pain pills for break-through pain.  He was able to eat and take care of himself until 2 weeks before he died.  I retired after mom died and was able to spend all of my time with him for the last 5 months.  We were always extremely close and got even closer during those last 5 months.  As most of us do I believed I was prepared, but when he died I immediately sank into depression and grief that was so intense I couldn't function.  That's when grief for my mother came out also.  It's been 7 months and the hole in my heart and my life haven't seem to even begin to heal.  I'm the Exector of their estate and cleaning out their house felt like I taking apart their lives piece by piece.  It has taken me seven months so far and I haven't even started the work on their house that has to be done before I can put it on the market to sell.  If it hadn't been for my husband I wouldn't be as far along as I am now.  We moved the furniture out last week and I laid on the floor after everybody else had left and sobbed for hours.  I see my therapist twice a week which help some for a day or so and then I'm right back where I was.  I feel so alone with no one to love me the way they did.  I don't know how to do this and get past some of the pain and heartache.

Comment by Gianna N. Piovanetti Ortiz on April 18, 2012 at 9:18pm

I was blessed to have my grandparents to raise me, but as they grew older, my grandma passed away...I stayed with my grandfather while I was studying my master's degree. Later on, my biological father died leaving me with so many questions unanswered, I had only met him twice in my life. That same year, two of the people who went with me to my biological father's wake died, my mother's cousin, who was very close to me, and my grandfather. My life started to fall apart. Months later I joined a mental institution because I knew I needed the help but before I could use what I had learned my biological mother dies just when she had moved in with me...she told me she was never going to leave me although we didn't get along for most of my life, but when my grandfather, her father, died we grew close and I understood her depressions. It's been about six months and I have been struggling. I joined this group to know if there are people out there who understand what I'm going through...the feeling of loneliness, emptiness...

Comment by Kandi Broussard on November 23, 2011 at 1:16pm

Thomas, this is my 2nd holiday season without my parents and it might be a little bit easier than the first but it is still very scary and painful.  I'm sorry... I would love to tell you that it is easier but it still hurts more than I can bear.  Yesterday, I was washing clothes and the smell of Downy made me burst into tears.  Normally, today I would be preparing stuff to take to my mom's for Thanksgiving but I don't get to do that now.  I just don't think it's ever gonna be easy--- ya know?

Comment by Sarah on November 23, 2011 at 1:14pm

Dear Thomas,

I wish there were a good answer to your question about when this gets easier. Dec. 5 will be 31 years since I lost my Mom, (I was 11) and I just lost my Pop on Oct. 5 of this year. Honestly, it is hard to tell the difference some days and on others I do pretty well. This will be the first Thanksgiving that I do not see anyone I am related to. I'll have my moments and will pull through, just as I know you will.

You are in my thoughts as are all in this group, especially this holiday season!

Sarah

Comment by barb blake on November 23, 2011 at 1:09pm

Hi Thomas:

 

I understand

I was looking at the Xmas cards

addressed to both parents

and oh my, it is painful

 

sending a big hug down there to you

people..

 

Im not in US

 

take care

 

we will get through

Im going to church service

 

 

Sedona :)

 

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