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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend .
I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him and my kids asking or saying daddy when they hear the doorbell kills me but i have to make it every day for them they keep me breathing. I know the pain never goes away but does it ever get easier to deal with?
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Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on -
Hi Nicole,
I would have to say after 5 years that the pain is easier to deal with.
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Permalink Reply by JenShep on -
Some days, yes it does. And some days it’s worse than the day you lost him. I’m two years out.
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Permalink Reply by Fran on -
Nicole, I'm almost 4 years out(next month). At this point the pain is generally duller. Every so often, and it doesn't have to be a birthday or anniversary, something triggers a sharper pain. My life with my husband almost seems like it was another lifetime or a twin of me lived it. Time moves on and we get swept along with it.
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