"I am so sorry for your loss. I want to say 'Happy Anniversary' to you, but I went through that one too and somehow that sentiment doesn't seem appropriate. I chose to do nothing on our wedding anniversary hoping that it would pass…"
"You are not alone, just the 'drug' of choice. I eat to ease the pain, but it doesn't ease it at all. It keeps my mind occupied for a little while, but then the guilt sets in. After enduring the second Thanksgiving without my husband…"
"You are not a sad sack, just honest. This is the second for me too - my husband died on November 14, 2015. The first Thanksgiving and Christmas were somewhat of a blurr, I really don't remember much of either. Believe it or not, my 17 year old…"
"That design is beautiful! I wear mine and my husband's on a chain around my neck because I like them to be touching each other. I also wear a three-band (costume jewelry) ring on my left hand to symbolize our family unit ...Me, My Husband and…"
"I am so sorry for your loss Kimberly. It really does feel like the twilight zone at time, even almost 11 months later. I have always considered myself a strong person, but the loss of my husband has knocked me to my knees. Although I do not have any…"
"I had my husband in my life for 'only' 21 years, married for 18. It is (unbelievably) coming up on the one year mark. We have a very active son that just turned 17 last month so I am somewhat forced to be in the world. I will be forever…"
"I wish I had words of wisdom to help ease the pain, but ...I don't. I can tell you what not to do, as I sadly found out. My husband died 10 months ago. Our Anniversary was six months after he died. I thought, I am just going to treat it like…"
"Dear Denise. I am so sorry for your loss. My husband Ed died 8 months ago and I am only now getting relief from the overwhelming anger I felt - although it still rears it ugly head at such unexpected times. We have one son and he is 16. In the first…"
"While I wish none of us were in this group, I am learning so much about grief; I find Hope in hearing everyone's journey. The most important thing I have learned so far is that grief is so personal, no right or wrong way. I want to share…"
"Dear Jill, I know your pain. My husband died on November 14, 2015. Our circumstances were different, we knew he was ill but I know I would have never been ready to say goodbye. My road has been bumpy to say the least - a lot of anger in the early…"
"I started to compose a blow by blow sequence of events of my loves illness and passing but it became too painful and couldn't continue. Here we share how we are feeling grieving our lost Loves. In reality, most of my underlying…"
I totally understand; I detest being around happy families, and especially happy couples. It's not that I want anything bad to happen to them, I definitely do not. It's just that they have what my beloved and I should still have,…"
"usually I find your comments really clear, Linda, so I don’t think it’s not being good with words, more that it’s hard to express these things in words. Actually I couldn’t follow what Joe said either, but it’s…"
"Hello M Adams
Joe explained in his post of how I feel. I am not good with words on explaining things but Joe you said it perfectly. I just want to thank everyone here for sharing their thoughts, as we are all in the same boat together."
"Speaking for myself, I identify with Linda. My Love left our world and I know it, and accept that she crossed over into another realm of existence and can't come back. I want her back and I live in HELL every day without her. …"
"Linda, not sure what you mean here when you say you can accept the loss of your husband but not being able to change it is your whole problem — do you mean not being able to change the fact of the loss, or not being able to change the way it…"
Like you mentioned in your post, there is no normal in my life. I just take each day as it comes and just wait for death. I can accept that Julian is gone but not being able to change it is my whole problem."
"Hi Haven't been writing recently as have had so much to organize in my life I just haven't had a moment and when I do I am so tired. So grateful to everyone else who continues to write though. I look here daily to read.…"
"They told me that Mom had a heart attack. It happened on the weekend. I had made her breakfast & she seemed fine. I am thankful she was at home & that I was with her, but it hurts so much knowing she is gone. I just…"
"I was with my mom when she passed and it was not sudden. I may have thought I was prepared. I wasn't. I tried to say and do all of the right things. Still, after her last breath, it was as though I hadn't prepared at all. I knew what to…"
"Thanks so much! It helps having others that understand. Some of my family is supportive & that helps. It helps just having someone listen that truly understands. I have one sibling, but he was never as close to my…"
"It's important to have people in your life who understand, even if they are on a message board like this, because sometimes you have to look far and wide to find someone to walk with you.
Sometimes I will call my mom's sister. She will…"
"Thank you, some days are better than others. I feel so for you. My Mom was the center of my world also. I lived with her & took care of her. I am so thankful that I could be there for her, but now I miss her so…"
"Three months is not very long. It is still very fresh for you. There will be a lot of triggers. Sometimes they will hit you out of the blue. Other times you know that one is coming, like if you have to drive by a familiar place. It's important…"