I am so sorry. Yes, it is unbearable and yet we find ourselves bearing it, though we don't want to. When you find out what this pain is like it's hard not to think there's a design fault in life. If only we could go when they go. But of course there are so many others that need us desperately. I also think that when they die, that's when our love reaches perfection... But then they're gone so we ache and ache and ache. I can say, though, with certainty that they go on. They still exist. I thought this anyway, but six weeks after my love died he sent me the most amazing, concrete, physical sign that he was there, knowing my thoughts, responding with love, with humour, with undeniable proof of his continued existence after death. Apart from that one, I have had so many signs I can't count them. That sign allowed me to believe all the others, which were always beautiful, but easy for the sceptical to doubt. I know we will be reunited after my death. But it doesn't make this grief any less sharp, strangely. With love, Alice
Hello O.L.Cato, I'm so very sorry for the heartbreak you are enduring, losing your beloved husband. I am thinking of you and wish you at least some moments of calm to help you get through this. My situation is different, but I am also struggling to get through the days without the love of my life, who died suddenly of a stroke a year ago. I hope you feel less alone in your suffering by reading what other people are going through. With love, Alice
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"You are right. I became conditioned with my mom. Every health crisis that my mom would have was traumatic for me. And then there would be that ray of light. I would have mom safe at home once again. I developed some false hope. But as time passed…"
"Baby steps is such a good metaphor — I think when we’ve been traumatized by terrible loss, many of us lose our resilience, and basically have to baby ourselves, setting very tiny goals and challenges, slowly working our way forward.…"
"Theresa, it's hard for me to be positive about anything. I always feel like something bad is right around the corner. That's because every time I thought mom was safe and had cleared another hurdle, something else would go wrong. It's…"
"It's been a little bit since I shared but it seems like I'm just stuck, out of sync with everything included myself in a way. It's been like one long endless day. I don't know how to explain it even. I'm…"
"Brett you are right that is the "dark" side, it scares me too
That is so great about the phone call from the directors at the center, that must have made you feel like a million bucks.
You are making a positive impact, I know…"
"Avi, I actually looked up the EquoVox. I couldn't find an English link for it. I'll keep looking. I'm just really curious how it works. And I want you to make your own decisions. I just want you to be happy."
"M, I'm half Catholic, and Theresa is 100% Catholic. This is a huge part of Catholicism. Ouiji boards just scare the crap out of me. I listened to a lecture series from a Vatican exorcists. There was a question and answer period. Someone asked…"
"Brett, it gives me such a lift to hear about your new gig — sounds perfect! Lucky kids too, great when they can connect with an adult who also makes them laugh.
Your comment re the spirit world app that Avi came across brought back a…"
"Avi, things like that scare the crap out of me. I mean, how do you know that you are actually communicating with your mom, and not something bad? I believe that you may open yourself to something that may attach itself to you. That's just…"
I send you my heartfelt condolences as well as a welcome to our website. It is a safe place to come and talk or vent about your loss. Talking is very helpful in sorting out how to move forward. I would like to share a paragraph from what…"
"No we should not, God is the only communicator Avi, you are right.
We should not disturb the deceased, they are in peace, it is us who are not in peace.
I still struggle everyday, I just have come to recognize that this is my new life. "
I m sure everyone on our forum had a very bad day. I just kept myself very busy all. Since I live in Florida and it is in the 70's I worked outside all day long. I feel Julian is with when I am outside. He knew I just loved the outdoors…"
Few days back I came to know an app EquoVox which can help you communicate with your loved ones who are deceased. It seems be fake to me but have seen some videos on you tube people claiming its real. Did anybody on this group…"