Losing a Sister

For anyone woman who has lost a sister.

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I lost my Sister less than 3 weeks ago in accident. It has been really hard. She was my only sibling. I feel guilty for feeling like she abandoned me. I've been putting all of my energy into my…Continue

Started by Missy N. Sep 19, 2013.

Grieving hard seven months later. 15 Replies

7 months ago I lost my baby sister to an accidental over dose..... I found out she passed when I was 5 months pregnant..... The coroner called me and told me and I hit me knees and started to have…Continue

Started by Ashlee Lopez-Garcia. Last reply by Mimi Giovanni Oct 17, 2012.

Delayed grief 2 Replies

My sister was murdered 30th October 1996, she was strangled, stabbed 45 times, and her house was set on fire, to destroy any evidence. It remains unsolved, though at the time, i was a suspect, due to…Continue

Started by Wendy Caudle. Last reply by Wendy Caudle Oct 4, 2012.


I lost my only sister just over a month ago. I don't know how to explain it. Even though I am younger than she was, I loved her like she was my baby sister. It's odd I know, but somewhere in my heart…Continue

Started by Wendy. Last reply by Wendy Sep 18, 2012.

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Comment by Kim on July 31, 2014 at 12:01am

I don't know how to express this so that it is meaningful and respectful but after reading several posts I want to say I am jealous of what you all have lost.  and I'm suggesting that you try to avoid taking for granted that you ever had it in the first place.  there were no guarantees, every day you get with someone you love and loves you back is a gift.  everyone assumes it's a given to quarrel but underneath it all, to be tight with your family. but it's not a given. my younger sister never considered my feelings or needs, she couldn't, she was too broken to. we have had a one way relationship for all of her life where she has caused me more emotional and financial pain than anything else on this earth could have. But I still feel the grief of her pain.  So even though I never received anything but torture from her, I still have the pain associated with her suffering. So that is why I hope you recognize that even if your sisters were your worst nightmare you would probably still be in so much pain. So the fact that they were your closest friend, etc, is something to be celebrated completely aside from your grief.  At least she gave you those memories, albeit cut short.

Comment by Kendra on June 3, 2014 at 4:56pm

I recently lost my baby sister. June 7th will make a month. She was only 22. My entire world ha been torn apart.  

Comment by Yetzy L. Diaz on March 4, 2014 at 6:02pm

It's been almost two years since my only sister is gone and the pain is still the same. 

Comment by Danielle McEwe on March 3, 2014 at 12:52pm

I lost my little sister. Andraya was a beautiful gift from god. We adopted her into our family whenshe was only 3 days old, and at the age of 8, it was like I got my very own living doll. Growing up, because of our age difference, we did not always see eye to eye (literally and figuratively) but I loved her with every fiber of my body because she was such a specail and unique girl. She had a rough go through her teenage years, but for the last few years, she was coming into her own, building houses with my father. When she was 16, she met a boy. He was a few years older than herself, but when we saw them together for the first time, my parents and I knew that she was done, that she had found the one that she was going to be with for the rest of her life. She was becoming a beautful and compassionate young woman and we were starting to get to know one another more. The best day of my life was on August 3, 2013 when I was my sister's maid of honour at her wedding to her long term beau. Then...a short 19 days later, my little sister was killed in a head on collision. She was only 21 years old. The other driver was 17 and was texting and driving. She got away with it with no reprocussions. Meanwhile, I have lost my gift from god, and I am so incredibly sad. I am trying to come to terms with the foreverness of the situation....that I will never see her smile in person again, and I will never hear her laugh, and I will never feel her arm around me again as I did on her wedding day when she hugged me for the photos. My heart is broken and although I have been having a lot of good days, today I feel broken and unable to cope. I am sitting at work fighting back the tears and wondering why....why her? Why did god have to take back his gift so soon? Why was she not able to live a long and happy life? I know I will never get the answers to my questions, and even if I did, it would not bring her back. I just feel so broken today.

Comment by bobbie on October 7, 2013 at 3:37pm
I lost my sister almost a year ago this week.and i still keep thinking i need to call and tell her what's going on with my husbands cancer.we used to talk all the time.
Comment by kylie anne on November 1, 2012 at 12:36am

Hi everyone, its been 13 months since i last seen my sister i hate saying she died or passed away..i hate even thinking about pain has not gone away it is always there & i have come to realise it will always be with me i lost a person i loved so why would i not want to feel that..this group has helped me say what i feel as i can't tell my family & friends its good to know i am not alone in how i feel .i hope everyone is doing the best that they can as that is all you can do in these moments of grief..xx

Comment by nadia on October 3, 2012 at 1:30am

Some many moments I am like I have to call her and let her know about sg that happen in my day when it sticks me that I cannot do this... I have kept her phone and look at her Skype account... I cannot believe she is not here with me... sometimes I think it may be hard for people to understand my pain... having a family of my own DOES NOT MEAN I CAN MOVE ON... She is my family the person I few up with and knows me better than anyone else... so sorry we are all here.... hugs

Comment by Yetzy L. Diaz on October 2, 2012 at 10:37pm

I know what you feel Nadia.  Sometimes I pick up the phone to say oh I need to tell my sister the news, then i fall back into reality and realize she is gone.

Comment by nadia on October 2, 2012 at 9:50pm

hello back.. I am back here lurking just wanted to offer a hug to all... I miss my sister every day ... I still more than 15 months now cannot comprehend why she is not here... finding hard to have a life without her at most of times.. I know the feeling you are describing the pain is still here and will never go away... I though I share with you that there are times i feel she is looking after me and is sending me signs... too many odd things happening but most of all I had a baby girl that was due right on her birthday and ended up getting born a week after on easter sundays she was a week overdue.. I named her after my little sister... she is my gift from my wonderful sister to keep me going as I was so ready to pack it in...I am still in agony I cannot share this with her as I know she always wanted a baby girl .. My sister was the greatest auntie and would have loved my little girl.. I feel it is not coincidence.. we were talking about it then next day she was gone and now I have a baby...there are moments of some rays of happiness but the waves of pain always come back.  I miss her so much... she was my besets friend... to my mind I still think maybe she is on long holiday and always get shocked when I realized I can no longer call her...I et flashbacks all the time... I want her back desperately... You know the feelings .....

Comment by Fae McBride on October 2, 2012 at 5:43pm

Just wanted to say hey, I'm new. I just lost my little sister 18 days ago within 24 hours. We still don't even know why, it was blood clots like doctors had never seen in a 15 year old. I'm so angry and confused. I can hardly even read this stuff in this group but I need ideas on how to grieve because I feel myself bottling it up. I don't want to go to the cemetery, I don't want to think or talk about it. It's like I don't believe it. I'm also 12 weeks pregnant, I see I'm not alone with this situation. I had joined these mommy/pregnancy forums and see everyone so excited, happy, and bubbly preparing for their babies. I am just not in that state of mind right now, not anymore.


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