"Nicole, I'm almost 4 years out(next month). At this point the pain is generally duller. Every so often, and it doesn't have to be a birthday or anniversary, something triggers a sharper pain. My life with my husband almost seems like it…"
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Fran replied to Nicole's discussion Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . in the group Lost My Spouse...
JenShep replied to Nicole's discussion Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . in the group Lost My Spouse..."Some days, yes it does. And some days it’s worse than the day you lost him. I’m two years out."
Nicole replied to Nicole's discussion Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . in the group Lost My Spouse..."Thank you so much I would like to be able to Express myself and talk to somone who can relate thank you for your reply. "
Linda Engberg replied to Nicole's discussion Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . in the group Lost My Spouse..."Hi Nicole,
I would have to say after 5 years that the pain is easier to deal with. "
Elynn m replied to Nicole's discussion Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . in the group Lost My Spouse..."I'm so sorry for your great loss. It has been three years for me. The first year was worse. The only way it gets easier is when we start remembering the good times. The pain will get softer, but will always be…"
Monty replied to Nicole's discussion Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . in the group Lost My Spouse..."Im so sorry for the pain and suffering you and your family must be going though.
its absolutely fantastic that your doing as well as you are for your children
every one will have different triggers for the painful memories and emotions that you…"
Jim Horvath left a comment for Nicole"I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I knew what to say to you in order to ease your pain, but I don't. This forum may help you see that a lot of people go through losses and grief. I try to stay busy and try every day to write…"
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- About Me:
- I'm 27 years old I have two children my oldest is 4 and my youngest is 3 .
- About my Loss:
- I lost my husband the father of my children. We were high school sweethearts I was with him 4 years two years in high school and two after we both graduated, he asked me to marry after he got out of bootcamp he became a marine we got married in 2011 so we were married for 8 years. 2018 I lost my best friend my first everything and it hurt so much. Feb 13th 2018 I lost my best friend he went to sleep and never woke up. I found out later he had an enlarged heart and sleep apnea. I never felt so much pain and the pain still feels the same I know it will never get better when he dies he took the best parts of me and half of my heart with him. I never got to grieve right becuase I had my children who needed me and every day I wake up it's for them I'm still breathing for them and my husband and I'll keep breathing until my heart gives out .
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- At 5:52pm on September 26, 2018,
Jim Horvath said… I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I knew what to say to you in order to ease your pain, but I don't. This forum may help you see that a lot of people go through losses and grief. I try to stay busy and try every day to write something down that was positive. It doesn't fix anything or make the loss and heartache go away, but my hope is that someday I (and you) will adjust to this new life we have without our best friend and love.
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joe kelly replied to Jade Rogers's discussion Hi!"Dear Jade,
I wish I had some advice for you because when I sign in, I notice that you often sign in I guess to check if anything new has been posted. Being lonely after losing your Love after so many years together is a major part of all who…"
Virginia G replied to Pamela philipp's discussion Defeated"I feel the same. The website doesn’t help because we aren’t talking and around people in person. That isn’t even enough when people are willing to talk and most don’t have time for me."
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"You are right. I became conditioned with my mom. Every health crisis that my mom would have was traumatic for me. And then there would be that ray of light. I would have mom safe at home once again. I developed some false hope. But as time passed…"
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Baby steps is such a good metaphor — I think when we’ve been traumatized by terrible loss, many of us lose our resilience, and basically have to baby ourselves, setting very tiny goals and challenges, slowly working our way forward.…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Theresa, it's hard for me to be positive about anything. I always feel like something bad is right around the corner. That's because every time I thought mom was safe and had cleared another hurdle, something else would go wrong. It's…"
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."It's been a little bit since I shared but it seems like I'm just stuck, out of sync with everything included myself in a way. It's been like one long endless day. I don't know how to explain it even. I'm…"
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Monty,
For some of us, we will always remain out of sync with the rest of world.
We, like myself. live in our own universe."
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Brett you are right that is the "dark" side, it scares me too
That is so great about the phone call from the directors at the center, that must have made you feel like a million bucks.
You are making a positive impact, I know…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Avi, I actually looked up the EquoVox. I couldn't find an English link for it. I'll keep looking. I'm just really curious how it works. And I want you to make your own decisions. I just want you to be happy."
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"M, I'm half Catholic, and Theresa is 100% Catholic. This is a huge part of Catholicism. Ouiji boards just scare the crap out of me. I listened to a lecture series from a Vatican exorcists. There was a question and answer period. Someone asked…"
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Brett, it gives me such a lift to hear about your new gig — sounds perfect! Lucky kids too, great when they can connect with an adult who also makes them laugh.
Your comment re the spirit world app that Avi came across brought back a…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Avi, things like that scare the crap out of me. I mean, how do you know that you are actually communicating with your mom, and not something bad? I believe that you may open yourself to something that may attach itself to you. That's just…"
Brenda Ann left a comment for Lisa"Dear Lisa,
I send you my heartfelt condolences as well as a welcome to our website. It is a safe place to come and talk or vent about your loss. Talking is very helpful in sorting out how to move forward. I would like to share a paragraph from what…"
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"No we should not, God is the only communicator Avi, you are right.
We should not disturb the deceased, they are in peace, it is us who are not in peace.
I still struggle everyday, I just have come to recognize that this is my new life. "
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Monty,
I m sure everyone on our forum had a very bad day. I just kept myself very busy all. Since I live in Florida and it is in the 70's I worked outside all day long. I feel Julian is with when I am outside. He knew I just loved the outdoors…"
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi Friends,
Few days back I came to know an app EquoVox which can help you communicate with your loved ones who are deceased. It seems be fake to me but have seen some videos on you tube people claiming its real. Did anybody on this group…"
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