Recently widowed fifth generation Japanese American funeral director, LOS Angeles native
About my Loss:
My beloved wife died unexpectedly from what I now understand was an accidental overdose of pain and anxiety/ depression medications.
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I am a funeral director- not sure that it counts but I have close to ten years of experience in that realm. previously. I was a unit manger for a family practice Urgent Care clinic and was also a former paralegal/ workers comp hearing rep
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Thank you so much for accepting my request. Im so sorry about the loss of your wife. I hope you are doing ok Ok I left a comment somewhere asking you a question although I don't know where it went I don't see it. I just joined this site and have no idea what im doing or where im supposed to be posting..so no telling where my a question is but if you don't see it please let me know and ill repost it. thank you very much
Tank you for your truly understood words. It is the words of those who have experienced the sudden loss of a truly beloved spouse that resonate with me. I am in the darkness you write about, and the pain is agonizing. I cannot sleep until my body reaches the utmost exhaustion, and I awake realizing he is gone. unexpected moments can trigger my uncontrollable tears, while other times, I am a rock. I am sorry to hear about your loss and how you must have, and continue to, grieve her loss.
it's now been just over a month. The holidays are coming and so are anniversaries and birthdays. They now hold little meaning, if any.
How do you face these days that are meant to celebrate one another?
"Avi, I feel like you are going through a rough time right now. You're not alone. One of the great things about a site like this is that you are a world away but I know who you are and I know that you are missing your mom just as much as I am.…"
"My mom worried about every detail of my life. There are some who would say that is intrusive. I felt that she was just being a mom. I miss that so much. I had the flu last year. I was laying in that bed and all I could hear was silence. My mom would…"
"Good morning Adams. It is 9:40 AM in India and I am at my job and trying to concentrate hard as my Mom always wanted.
I have almost stopped complaining of anything in life now as I have already lost my most precious gift. Now what ever I have…"
"Avi, the fact that you were close enough with your mother to share your negative feelings about your job shows real intimacy, which I think is what loving mothers treasure above all else. So hard accepting that we will not hear that beloved…"
"Even my mother always used to say that live your life fully but I was always complaining on some matters. She used to worry about me the most as I was not stable in my job and used to talk about quitting it often. She always used to say, love your…"
"Alice, I regret not getting it together to write on Dec 2nd as I recall that was your anniversary of your husbands death date. I have just been swimming upstream through the rapids. Each year during the "seasonal"…"
"You know what when my mom could not be resuscitated, her eyes were wide open and looking toward the right towards me as I walked in, she saw me I know it. I shut her eyes. I wanted the hospital staff to leave me alone. They were…"
"SelV, your mom would have had it no other way. She saw you take your first breath. You saw her take her last. I experienced that as well. If I had my way, I would have gone before my mom. Is that selfish of me? Yes. I don't care. Losing mom was…"
"Dear all...the thought "What if I had died due to unforeseen circumstances and my elderly widowed mother had to grief my death?" crossed my mind many times. Knowing my mother, her world (of me and her) would have collapsed and she would…"
"I think you're right, Theresa. We are a sad bunch. I think our moms would be touched that we love them so much, but they would probably also want us to be happy and move on. I just don't think that's possible, nor do I believe that my…"
"So I have been really busy at work and with moving, but of course at night when I get in bed I cry and cry.
I finally have come to realize this will be the new normal I guess, I do not think I will every stop missing my mom ever..."
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