Recently widowed fifth generation Japanese American funeral director, LOS Angeles native
About my Loss:
My beloved wife died unexpectedly from what I now understand was an accidental overdose of pain and anxiety/ depression medications.
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I am a funeral director- not sure that it counts but I have close to ten years of experience in that realm. previously. I was a unit manger for a family practice Urgent Care clinic and was also a former paralegal/ workers comp hearing rep
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Thank you so much for accepting my request. Im so sorry about the loss of your wife. I hope you are doing ok Ok I left a comment somewhere asking you a question although I don't know where it went I don't see it. I just joined this site and have no idea what im doing or where im supposed to be posting..so no telling where my a question is but if you don't see it please let me know and ill repost it. thank you very much
Tank you for your truly understood words. It is the words of those who have experienced the sudden loss of a truly beloved spouse that resonate with me. I am in the darkness you write about, and the pain is agonizing. I cannot sleep until my body reaches the utmost exhaustion, and I awake realizing he is gone. unexpected moments can trigger my uncontrollable tears, while other times, I am a rock. I am sorry to hear about your loss and how you must have, and continue to, grieve her loss.
it's now been just over a month. The holidays are coming and so are anniversaries and birthdays. They now hold little meaning, if any.
How do you face these days that are meant to celebrate one another?
"I started to compose a blow by blow sequence of events of my loves illness and passing but it became too painful and couldn't continue. Here we share how we are feeling grieving our lost Loves. In reality, most of my underlying…"
I totally understand; I detest being around happy families, and especially happy couples. It's not that I want anything bad to happen to them, I definitely do not. It's just that they have what my beloved and I should still have,…"
"usually I find your comments really clear, Linda, so I don’t think it’s not being good with words, more that it’s hard to express these things in words. Actually I couldn’t follow what Joe said either, but it’s…"
"Hello M Adams
Joe explained in his post of how I feel. I am not good with words on explaining things but Joe you said it perfectly. I just want to thank everyone here for sharing their thoughts, as we are all in the same boat together."
"Speaking for myself, I identify with Linda. My Love left our world and I know it, and accept that she crossed over into another realm of existence and can't come back. I want her back and I live in HELL every day without her. …"
"Linda, not sure what you mean here when you say you can accept the loss of your husband but not being able to change it is your whole problem — do you mean not being able to change the fact of the loss, or not being able to change the way it…"
Like you mentioned in your post, there is no normal in my life. I just take each day as it comes and just wait for death. I can accept that Julian is gone but not being able to change it is my whole problem."
"Hi Haven't been writing recently as have had so much to organize in my life I just haven't had a moment and when I do I am so tired. So grateful to everyone else who continues to write though. I look here daily to read.…"
"They told me that Mom had a heart attack. It happened on the weekend. I had made her breakfast & she seemed fine. I am thankful she was at home & that I was with her, but it hurts so much knowing she is gone. I just…"
"I was with my mom when she passed and it was not sudden. I may have thought I was prepared. I wasn't. I tried to say and do all of the right things. Still, after her last breath, it was as though I hadn't prepared at all. I knew what to…"
"Thanks so much! It helps having others that understand. Some of my family is supportive & that helps. It helps just having someone listen that truly understands. I have one sibling, but he was never as close to my…"
"It's important to have people in your life who understand, even if they are on a message board like this, because sometimes you have to look far and wide to find someone to walk with you.
Sometimes I will call my mom's sister. She will…"
"Thank you, some days are better than others. I feel so for you. My Mom was the center of my world also. I lived with her & took care of her. I am so thankful that I could be there for her, but now I miss her so…"
"Three months is not very long. It is still very fresh for you. There will be a lot of triggers. Sometimes they will hit you out of the blue. Other times you know that one is coming, like if you have to drive by a familiar place. It's important…"