Recently widowed fifth generation Japanese American funeral director, LOS Angeles native
About my Loss:
My beloved wife died unexpectedly from what I now understand was an accidental overdose of pain and anxiety/ depression medications.
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I am a funeral director- not sure that it counts but I have close to ten years of experience in that realm. previously. I was a unit manger for a family practice Urgent Care clinic and was also a former paralegal/ workers comp hearing rep
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Thank you so much for accepting my request. Im so sorry about the loss of your wife. I hope you are doing ok Ok I left a comment somewhere asking you a question although I don't know where it went I don't see it. I just joined this site and have no idea what im doing or where im supposed to be posting..so no telling where my a question is but if you don't see it please let me know and ill repost it. thank you very much
Tank you for your truly understood words. It is the words of those who have experienced the sudden loss of a truly beloved spouse that resonate with me. I am in the darkness you write about, and the pain is agonizing. I cannot sleep until my body reaches the utmost exhaustion, and I awake realizing he is gone. unexpected moments can trigger my uncontrollable tears, while other times, I am a rock. I am sorry to hear about your loss and how you must have, and continue to, grieve her loss.
it's now been just over a month. The holidays are coming and so are anniversaries and birthdays. They now hold little meaning, if any.
How do you face these days that are meant to celebrate one another?
"Strike those vacations below, they'll never be another one. Went on a memorial cruise with my daughter and family four months after she passed because she was so looking forward to it. It hurt enough to know they'll be no more."
"Yes Elynn, the loneliness. That's painful. They're not here and always was. Our best friend, lover, and most precious thing we had. We were lucky enough to spend the last 8 1/2 years together, joined at the…"
"Every day for me is the same day she passed. Not a joyful or even an ok moment. I spend a little time with the children and grands and do my best to hide my emotions, but they all know how I am inside, even the youngest grand at age 4…"
"Avi, I don't know if we can rethink our emotions that way. Our emotions are what they are, although reason can help us form our emotions and hopefully change them for the better. I don't know if my mom can hear me or not. I certainly…"
"How are you all doing?
I had bad last 2 days. Felt lot of guilt and cried. There were some moments which made me remember my mother.
Also I hear comforting words by a lady that people who have gone from this world can still feel your…"
"I wonder how i am managing. Not well and to be onest today I wanted to just set a date with death. I am approaching seven years of being without him and though I function towards the outside world better and my crying has lessened but at the…"
If you have lost a loved one to alcohol, substance abuse or suicide please share your story or feelings here. Share the love and beauty of the one you lost. Losing someone any of these ways is not natural and can be hard to understand and ask why? I lost my Mother to an overdose 9 years ago. She also suffered from major depression. Her doctor got her hooked on pain medication and she was addicted most of my life. These doctors who were suppose to help her ended up killing her in the end. I also…See More
"I am very sorry to hear about your Mom passing. I lost my Mother to an overdose 9 years ago and just my identical twin sister last month to an overdose. My mother and I were not as close as I would have liked. The disease kept her depressed and…"