Information

Lost My Spouse...

Members: 366
Latest Activity: on Saturday

Discussion Forum

Lost my wife 15 Replies

It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Monty Nov 6.

The Holiday Season and my loss 1 Reply

This Christmas Season this year is very hard.Family gatherings are wonderful but l feel my husband not being so much more.Seeing everyone makes it more real that Ron is not here.The tears are in my…Continue

Started by Denise Lavoie. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 24, 2018.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 3 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Fran Oct 19, 2018.

FAILING 9 Replies

next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Oct 4, 2018.

Comment Wall

Comment

You need to be a member of Lost My Spouse... to add comments!

Comment by Tildyc on March 25, 2015 at 10:33pm
Longer in your life. I feel like I'm someone that the un-affected need to avoid. I try to conceal my grief when I'm out in public but- I feel as if it is the only thing that defines me. I realize everyone can see it. That person I was before- the person who had love- died with Mark. What's left...?? Just this broken, withdrawn and weird person I do not recognize as me.
Comment by Tildyc on March 25, 2015 at 10:23pm
I never understood what it really meant to lose someone like upur spouse/soulmate. I live in a very small community and everyone knows when someone dies in our town. I've always been on the other side if this. Someone Mark and I knew would pass and we would try and comfort the folks left behind and then we'd discuss buying medivac insurance and complain about needing better Drs. etc... But- it truly never set in to our reality that we... I would actually be living in this realm. I feel like I'm living in this entirely different world. Completely opposite and isolated from all the normal, happy folk who don't walk around with their every thought on the one that's no l
Comment by Tildyc on March 24, 2015 at 8:44am
Ally- it truly is up to you if you want to go or not. If you truly think you can't handle it and you truly just rather stay home then do that. Do what you feel like you need to do. It's okay because this is your own personal journey and we all have to go through it alone. Most people if they have not been to this will not understand how you are feeling. Your parents love you and they want you to be okay and I understand why they want to keep an eye on you. But the final decision is yours Ally. Right now if I were asked to go on a vacation anywhere with my family – personally – I would have to decline because it's all I can do just to get to work and be in public for a few hours a day. I spend way too much time crying But – if you think it will help you feel better then by all means go with your family. But make the decision based on what's best for YOU, not best for somebody else right now. If it hurts too much to be around all those happy couples – I totally understand. Stay away until you're ready to deal with it. Let people know that you love them but you just need your space right now.
Comment by Donna M Dowling-Hall on March 24, 2015 at 5:06am

Ally,  I lost my 42 year old husband on February 12, 2015.  I am 46.  We also have no children.  I also want to know if he is at peace.  A sign he is okay.  I missed him so damn much.  

Comment by Ally M on March 23, 2015 at 11:50pm

Thank u both so much.  It helps to hear that i am not alone.  My family has been of great support and they are doing their best to understand.

They had planned a vacation to palm desert in January and i had declined because of Steve's illness as they knew i would.  After he died my parents said they needed me to go with so they would know i was okay.  I agreed to go as long as if i declined to attend certain events they would understand.  I am now dreading it since i'm not sure i can hang in there.  My parents have each other for 51 years, and my brother and sister in-law have been together since 1985, and have their own children.  How have u all managed being with other families?

Comment by Tildyc on March 23, 2015 at 11:20pm
Yup- been looking for the same thing also. I just wish I could get a sign or something... to ease my mind and heart.
Comment by Ally M on March 23, 2015 at 11:15pm

thank you, i just have started pacing the house when i am home, talking to him and praying he is at peace.  i wish he could send me some sign that he is happy so i could find some peace too.

Comment by Tildyc on March 23, 2015 at 11:08pm
Hi Ally- I lost my Mark Feb 4, 2015. I don't know when it's ever going to get better.... If ever. But I do know exactly how you feel, I think.
Comment by Ally M on March 23, 2015 at 11:01pm

Hi everyone, I lost my husband on Feb. 8, 2015 and i feel like i am doing worse these past 2 weeks than i did before.  Is that normal?  Steve was 46 yrs. old and i recently turned 44.  We didn't have any children together, so the house is so quiet.  I feel like everyone around me expects me to be improving.  I don't know what to tell them, except 'i'm okay'. 

Comment by Tildyc on March 23, 2015 at 10:59pm
So this might seem a little corny to everyone else but – I'm a fan of music. And I have not been able to listen to music since the day Mark died. But this song snuck in on me tonight and the words are amazing...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2RgcaNV0Nw&sns=em
 

Members (366)

 
 
 

Groups

Latest Activity

Joe Kelly left a comment for Linda l Cunningham
"I too wish you didn't have to be here.  I lost my wife on Jan.21, 2018 and wish I could say it gets better as time goes on, but for me it's just keeps getting worse.  We were together since age 16, close to 52 years together and…"
yesterday
morgan left a comment for Linda l Cunningham
"Linda, I am so sorry you have had to join our grieving group.  Each of us know your sorrow and we all grapple with how to deal with the worst thing we could ever have to deal with.  On January 21st 2013 my husband doc 35 years (knew him…"
yesterday
Allen posted a status
"I also lost my mother 1 year ago. I was with my darling wife for 25 years. Am I supposed to survive or give up and die."
yesterday
Allen posted a status
"Hello and thank you. Is there a certain time that people chat or anything, I need to talk to someone ."
yesterday
Profile IconJill Varrichio, Cath Ellara and Allen joined Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Sunday
M Adams left a comment for Allen
"Dear Allen, condolences on your the death of your wife, sorry that you are going through such a difficult, life-changing loss.  Just wanted to respond and say you are doing everything right in terms of the website, your comment and status…"
Saturday
Allen posted a status
"Is anyone there?"
Saturday
Allen posted a status
"What are you up to?"
Saturday
Allen left a comment for Allen
"My name is Allen,I just lost my wife. I don't know how to use this website. Does anyone see this? "
Saturday
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Linda, Your post is a perfect description of where I'm at. Morgan"
Saturday
Louise is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Friday
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
Friday
Trina Mamoon commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"morgan, Your message is so moving! Every word you say rings so true! I could have written the message. You express my innermost thoughts and wishes. It's been a little over five years for me since Joseph has been gone, but I feel his lack as…"
Friday
Trina Mamoon commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"morgan, Your message is so moving! Every word you say rings so true! I could have written the message. You express my innermost thoughts and wishes. It's been a little over five years for me since Joseph has been gone, but I feel his lack as…"
Friday
Joe Kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I still can't see pics here so don't know if it posted."
Friday
Joe Kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Jonathan, I meant to respond to your post when I read it but forgot. We're all in the same boat because we were all ONE with our Loves. You'll notice by our sharing here that it just doesn't get better for us. Keep sharing here. …"
Friday
Joe Kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Jonathan, I meant to respond to your post when I read it but forgot.  We're all in the same boat because we were all ONE with our Loves.  You'll notice by our sharing here that it just doesn't get better for us.  I tied…"
Friday
Joe Kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I'm still a mess too Morgan and it just keeps getting worse.  Nothing but going to her will ever help me not be in agony every second of every day.  That being said, it has to happen naturally which really sucks because we don't…"
Thursday
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Morgan, Once again your have posted my exact feelings on losing my beloved Julian. 7 years also. Life does not go on for me, I am just existing until death takes me and the sooner the better."
Thursday
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I'm still a mess.  Almost seven years later and I still cannot absorb loss in any form.  Doesn'tmatter if its mine or someone else's.  And nothing helps.  I have a best friend who tries valiantly to comfort me.…"
Thursday

© 2019   Created by Ninja.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service