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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 6 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Martha Washburn Sep 22, 2022.

Loss of spouse… 3 Replies

For 40+ years we were together…married 39 years….We were to celebrate our 40th anniversary…Nobody who hasn’t been married, and lost a spouse could possibly understand….even though he was into many…Continue

Started by Susan B. Last reply by Connie Sep 1, 2022.

Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

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Comment by nicole irving on December 15, 2015 at 4:27am

Hi  Peggy, thanks, I agree that we need to remember the fun times, it is difficult for us to put those above the hurt we are all feeling, I was having a bad moment and I needed to grin a little, and as always he was the one that made, I had heaps of other silly pics but didn't think I should fill the whole page up with mike :) I am glad he has put a smile on a few other members faces has well, he always had the most addictive personality, he drew people in. I love him sooo much, I wish he could come home, so he could drive me nuts with his constant silliness

Comment by nicole irving on December 12, 2015 at 11:10am

he was an amazing man, and yes all the time, he loved being the clown, he had everyone constantly laughing. i miss him so much.

Comment by Hilary Christene on December 12, 2015 at 10:19am

I love the silliness.

Comment by nicole irving on December 12, 2015 at 6:39am

 i could use a little bit of silliness at the moment, you were certainly never dull  xx

Comment by Linda Engberg on December 11, 2015 at 7:30am

Thank You Peggy and Bluebird, Peggy your puppies are cute too.

Comment by bluebird on December 11, 2015 at 6:58am
Linda, your little dog is adorable.
Comment by Linda Engberg on December 11, 2015 at 6:52am

Hello All, I finally was able to wrap a few presents for my family, they live in Michigan, I am in Florida. I know they will have a wonderful Christmas without me. I will spent it with my sweet loving little dog Babie J.

Comment by Jesse's Mom on December 10, 2015 at 6:21pm

Hilary, how very true. You put it so well.

 "How harshly we've all learned that what they all still have to cling to is frail, fragile, under some whimsical merciless unknowable timeline, and their whole underpinning foundation can be erased from them one day and them left gutted like we are. Let them enjoy their time of not knowing our horror."

Comment by Hilary Christene on December 10, 2015 at 12:53pm

I have been feeling bitter. I received a text from a friend saying she hopes I am well. I waited two days before I responded. She is a devout born-again Christian, and so she usually communicates something around her spirituality.

I am not really a Christian, although I do believe Christ was a Savior, which to my eastern leanings means he was a Sat Guru or super-legit spiritual teacher in contact with the true Divine. I do like the way that Christians aspire to humility and morality, and her Christianity is very real and vulnerable for her. It's like my spirituality in that we both long to feel protected, out of harm's way, graced with love.

I'm too humbled from what happened in my years-ago suicide attempt to slam God - I had that put right in my face, and learned for myself from that personal evidence that I'm best off to reserve judgment... (this was my lesson for me, not necessarily anyone else's lesson) But I have been feeling bitter because I'm seeing how this grieving our true love is going for the folks who've been enduring it long term and it's hell.

I want to say to her: Don't pray for me that I am well!! Pray for me that I die soon!! but I don't want to assault her with my bitterness. How harshly we've all learned that what they all still have to cling to is frail, fragile, under some whimsical merciless unknowable timeline, and their whole underpinning foundation can be erased from them one day and them left gutted like we are. Let them enjoy their time of not knowing our horror.

I feel bitterly in hell. So I responded to her at last, "please pray I can feel the Lord's love. Thank you for thinking of me."

Here's what she wrote back:

Heavenly Father, you are so good and amazing. You care for the hurting and heal what is broken. Father I pray you would work in a might way for Hilary. I pray that you would surround her with your love, grace and mercy. I pray that you will bring peace in her heart. I pray that she would come to know you and feel you near her again. I pray for your people to reach out to her and encourage her. Father, I am so thankful for the precious friend that Hilary is to me. I thank you for her blessing my life with her love and kindness. What a gift she is. Please help her to see that too. Lord, we praise your holy name, Jesus Christ, Amen.

I know some of you are atheist, some of you are Christian, and some of you lean elsewhere like I do ... but I thought all of you could appreciate someone really coming through for me, not trying to shove some platitude up my back end, but honestly just doing what she could - which is nothing - but with so much love.

Comment by Linda Engberg on December 10, 2015 at 7:09am

A beautiful morning in Florida and I feel like SHIT.

 

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