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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 6 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Martha Washburn Sep 22, 2022.

Loss of spouse… 3 Replies

For 40+ years we were together…married 39 years….We were to celebrate our 40th anniversary…Nobody who hasn’t been married, and lost a spouse could possibly understand….even though he was into many…Continue

Started by Susan B. Last reply by Connie Sep 1, 2022.

Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

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Comment by Marita on May 13, 2020 at 12:11pm

Linda, my heart aches for you. I am so sorry for your loss. We can never be prepared for the loss of a loved one!

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 13, 2020 at 10:52am

Thanks Joe, I am beyond words,

Comment by Joe Kelly on May 13, 2020 at 8:43am

I am so sorry for your loss of Babie Linda.  I know how broken you are now but don't forget about catching that right bus.

Babie is with Julian right now at the right bus stop waiting for you.

Joe

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 13, 2020 at 5:32am

Hello Friends,

Monday I lost my Sweet Babie J. Now I don't have anything to live. I will do everything in power to end my life. I just wanted to thank you for support. God Bless You All.

Comment by bluebird on April 25, 2020 at 7:48pm

Linda,

I agree; I died when my husband died as well, in every important way. But I know that when my body dies, whenever that may be and whatever from, my family will be sad.

As far as I'm concerned, there is no such thing as a "new normal" at all -- that asinine phrase needs to be jettisoned from the English language, in my opinion, at least when it comes to the death of one's soulmate/spouse/partner.  Whatever life the surviving spouse is forced to live is abnormal, there is no longer any such thing as normal (at least for me, and so many of us here).

Comment by Linda Engberg on April 25, 2020 at 6:28am

Hi Trina and Bluebird,

Nice to see you both online. For me personally the virus doesn't bother me. I already died the day my Husband, Julian died.  There is no such thing as a new normal for me. Take Care. 

Comment by bluebird on April 24, 2020 at 8:09pm
Thanks, Trina; good thoughts to you as well.
Comment by Trina Mamoon on April 24, 2020 at 8:07pm

Bluebird,

Good to hear from you. Yes, I know exactly what you mean, the need to want to isolate yourself alone at home after your husband's death. For so many of us, that seems the only refuge after our irreparable loss.

I hope you can see your mother soon and visit your sister and brother-in-law for dinner again. Unfortunately, with a sinking heart, it seems to me, too, that life will no longer ever be the same on this planet even after Coronavirus passes, because there will always be the threat that it could strike again. Take care. Sending good thoughts your way.

Comment by bluebird on April 23, 2020 at 8:41pm

Trina,

It's much the same for me. As much as possible, I have preferred to isolate myself alone at home since my husband died, so this quarantine hasn't changed my free time that much. I am working from home rather than going to my work office, so that's new/different. Also, normally I go over to my sister's house 4 nights a week (after work); she and I and my brother-in-law have dinner together, and there are a number of shows we are watching together (Netflix, etc.); I was still going over to their house for the first few weeks of the quarantine, but then I had to go to the supermarket to get groceries for myself and also do the shopping for my Mom, and I felt like I might have had a bit of a runny nose so I just stayed home after that (even though it was unlikely to be coronavirus), and since then I've just been home.

I hope my family are all ok, as far as this damn virus and everything else (each of us has some risk factors, were we to get the virus), and I hope everyone else is ok as well. Hopefully a vaccine is found soon; otherwise, I really don't see life on this planet ever getting back to anything resembling normal.

Comment by Linda Engberg on April 17, 2020 at 6:10am

Hi Trina, Your post mirrors my very thoughts on this this virus. I pray that God will take me in place of any of my family. 

 

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