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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Danny on September 20, 2013 at 4:37pm

Hello Marilyn good to see you here.  I am glad you are posting to people who are in a similar situation.

Comment by Missy N. on September 20, 2013 at 4:31pm

So sorry for your losses. I lost my Sister about 3 weeks ago. It's been one of the hardest things I've gone through. 

Comment by Danny on September 20, 2013 at 3:13pm

Indeed this is what I dread Debra that it gets worse around that time i.e  one year but I am far from there.  I just hope I can manage then but for now I just cry it out when I need to its been 4 months so still hard but just a wee bit better than before.  I write a bit but talk a lot, imagine the parent is sitting next to me etc.  It helps a bit that kind of thing.  Be well.

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on September 20, 2013 at 10:39am

Hi Mary,

My thoughts and prayers are with you.  I thought I was doing okay with the loss of my Dad. But as the one year anniversary nears (tomorrow), not so good.  I am remembering the days leading up and emotions are taking over.  I know that I need to cry and experience them but this is more than I anticipated.  I wrote a poem for Dad 2 days ago and that has helped me.  I have been sharing my thoughts with others and that also helps. 

Just do what you need to in order to help yourself.  Take care.

Debbie

Comment by Amber Dunnett on September 4, 2013 at 7:56am

Thank you very much. 

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on September 4, 2013 at 7:00am

Hi Amber,

My condolences, thoughts and prayers.  This is very sad to hear. 

Comment by Amber Dunnett on September 3, 2013 at 10:19pm

I lost two good friends over the weekend in less than 24  hours both left behind children young children and spouses. 

Comment by l on August 31, 2013 at 4:35am
Thank you Marilyn this was helpful. I was feeling pangs of guilt for not crying...I will hug my mother next time...I guess each one of us is different...I so terribly miss my father but the tears don't come
Comment by l on August 30, 2013 at 11:22am

I have not posted anything for the past 4 or 5 weeks. Being a part of this group has been healing in many ways. Its four months since my father passed away. For the past 4 or 5 weeks I have not shed a single tear. I used to look at his chair everyday and do not sit on the spot where he used to sit on the sofa even today and do not like it if anyone sits there. For the past few days I have not looked at his chair. I pray for him everyday and think of him in some way everyday.  I have not cried and when I see my mother cry sometimes I don't even console her. I just stand there. Am I a horrible person? I don't cry. I should be grieving and it seems like I am not even grieving. Am I so heartless to just not do or feel anything for my father who I loved so dearly.

Comment by Becky Kendall on August 24, 2013 at 9:20pm

Is there a traumatic loss of a child area?  I just lost my amazing son and I'm just trying to find anyone that may have a similar situation.  Right now I'm in shock most of the time and I really feel empty.  Then some times it hits me and I can barely breathe. 

Thank you, Becky

 

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