Hi Robin, thank you...it is so sad, I hated today, but I have a young son...well 27....and I spent the afternoon with him.....it is so so hard to go through this; Again...I have a counselor I see and I try really hard to be busy. I cannot let, Gerard , see that when life slams you , you quit......I have to stay kinda sane so that his life will be ok.......I tell him I am sad, but I do not cry a lot in front of him a lot.........I miss my boys more than anything...I had them both very young and so I kinda grew up with them. My husband their Dad died also when he was 26 , I than remarried and had Gerard....so Bob and Terry were Gerards' half brothers.......Thank you , Robin, and I am so so sorry about Zach. How hard this must be for you also...Please take care of yourself and thank you once again...love, lynne
Hi Robin, I'm sorry I wasn't able to get on here yesterday, but I was thinking of you. I hope your day was not too bad. I just want to tell you to hang in there. You will have better days. It's not the same as others we have lost. This one is with us until we join them, but I have faith that we will adjust to this new way of life with our Lord's help. Today is 90 weeks for us and my son is so in my thoughts today, so I have just been trying to keep my mind busy. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know you were in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself. ❤.█▄◎╲╱☰───Ammy
Thanks for emailing back Robin...I have sent you a private email....by the way, I was born in Orangeburg SC....my family moved back home to Chattanooga TN when I was about 6 mos. old...But have had lots of family members who live in SC....
So sorry for your loss Robin. The loss of a child is like that of none other I believe. Not to minimize the loss others go through. I am still struggling with the loss of my son Silas, who passed on from cancer just 8 months after being diagnosed; he passed on in May of 2008. I miss him terribly. Sy was just 29 years old and full of plans for his future. It is very sad. Sending lots of love my friend. I'm here if you need an ear...
Hi Robin, I've been sitting here thinking........ Boy, how much of that do we all do? I wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers today. Birthdays and holidays are difficult to say the least. Just know that you are cared about and understood. * °♥ ˚ • ★ *˚
Dear Robin, I'm so sorry for Zach passing away. My heart goes out to you.. Lets keep in touch and support each other through our pain. I feel so saddened. I keep thinking Heather is still coming home and is just away at college.Heather was an amazing blessing in my husband and my life and a treasure throughout. I'm in awe at how blessed i am to have shared 19 years and all that she taught me and I miss her so much I want her to come home its hard for me to make it through any day. The trauma from the car accident haunts me. Take care
Hi Robin, I am so, so, sorry for the loss of your son. And believe there are no words to say or take the pain away.
I too wanted to comment on Laura's post about your son's girlfriend. It is a feeling that is so deep into your heart. I often say that my heart aches in pain, not physically, but emotionally. And unless someone has experienced a similar loss, it can be very difficult to find the right words to say. You feel anger, hate, and cant help to ask the Why?.. You loose your half, your friend, your lover, your whole support system is turned upside down. For me, my life was changed in matter of minutes. I had a family, I had my husband who to rely on support and my son, most importantly, had a father!. And now we dont have any of that. It is an inmense change and transition in my life that you are never prepared to live. We were so young, and had a future to look forward to doing. Building new memories with our son, having more children, growing old. But all of that was just taken away from us in minutes. I have also sensed that other people might think that since we are "young" we should move on fairly quickly and "get over it".. Well, it does not work that way.. I loved my husband so much, he was my first love, my first everything, my high school sweetheart. We had began dating when i was just 14 and he was 17. We married in 2006 and had our son in 2009. I often remember when my husband and i would lay in our bed and just start thinking of all that we gone through since being 14 & 17 to now being first time parents. I do remember telling him that he always told me since first dating that "i would be his one and only".. And i was!!!! sorry tears are coming down, and cant contain myself right now.
sorry, if i just dont have words or suggestions to say besides being understandable and patient. happy memories build strenght for me at times. And my son keeps me somehow moving forward because he is a constant reminder of the love we shared. I also attend weekly psychotherapy, which has helped me too.
Sorry for venting on you.. Take Care and Keep it Living "One Day at a time". I am here too, if you or your son's girlfriend needs a friend to talk to.. I have found amazing ladies on this site that have taken the time to listen to me or helped me out of a bad day.
Thanks Robin, my prayers are with you too. As the shock begins to wear off, the horrible truth starts to settle in. Sometimes I think that I'll just start screaming and never be able to stop. of course my counselor told me to scream my head off if that's what I felt and that I would eventually stop. Just like you can't cry forever.
I'm grateful too to have found others that know EXACTLY how I feel. Even though I would not wish this horror on my worst enemy. Hugs to you today.
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