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mom, wife, sister, grandma
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father murdered for less than $100 by neighbor

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At 7:13pm on February 12, 2012, Brenda Ann said…
How r u? I am keeping you in my prayers.
At 7:26am on February 6, 2012, Brenda Ann said…

Please email me at

At 5:47am on February 3, 2012, Brenda Ann said…

Dear Ruth,

I haven’t seen any messages from you at but would really like to. I am sorry you are having problems – Discretion is important to me too and that is why I include an email address with every post.  It is also why I started the website  This sight is email based and nothing is posted publicly unless a person chooses to send a testimonial.  Even a testimonial is left without a name so it is completely discrete.  Sometimes you want the whole world to know your business but sometimes you don’t.

Please email me at I do not want to miss any of your messages.

Thank you, my friend,


At 6:14pm on January 22, 2012, Brenda Ann said…
Hello Ruth,
The last time we talked, you were going to a hearing about your Dad's murderer. Are you allowed to tell me how it went? If you would like to talk in email so our conversation remains private,please email me at or
At 9:51am on December 6, 2011, Brenda Ann said…

Dear Ruth,

     Thank you for your kind comments.  It is good to have friends that have so much love for God and empathy for others. Our daily scripture today is:

“Rejoice with people who rejoice; weep with people who weep.”Rom. 12:15.

“Paul’s counsel in this verse can be summed up in two words: Show empathy. We need to learn to understand and even share another person’s feelings. If we are aglow with the spirit, our feelings of shared joy or compassion will be evident. When 70 disciples of Christ returned joyfully from a preaching campaign and related the good results of their work, Jesus himself “became overjoyed in the holy spirit.” (Luke 10:17-21) He shared their joy. On the other hand, Jesus ‘wept with people who were weeping’ when his friend Lazarus died. (John 11:32-35) We want to follow Jesus’ example of showing empathy. When a friend rejoices, we wish to share his or her joy. Similarly, we should be sensitive to the pains and heartaches of our friends. Often, we can bring much relief to people who are suffering emotional pain if we take the time to listen to them with a truly sympathetic ear.”


I have read your comments and it is obvious that you also try to spend comfort to others.  Since the death of my father in law my whole family has become personally aware of the need for comfort.  We live in such a wicked world which lies in the power of the wicked one.  (1 John 5:19) “We know we originate with God, but the whole world is lying in the [power of the] wicked one“   Revelation 12:12 tells us, “Woe for the earth and for the sea, because the Devil has come down to YOU, having great anger, knowing he has a short period of time.”


Satan was hurled out of heaven by Jesus, the King of God’s Kingdom, to collect evidence of his accusations against God and man.(See Genesis 2:16, 17; 3:3-5; Genesis 3:6; Job 1:8-11; 2:3-5)  A criminal tries to cover his tracks. This has also been true of the one responsible for a crime that has resulted in the death of billions. He has maneuvered things to shroud human death in mystery. Jesus Christ identified this criminal when He told those seeking to kill Him: “You are from your father the Devil, and you wish to do the desires of your father. That one was a manslayer when he began, and he did not stand fast in the truth, because truth is not in him.”—John 8:31, 40, 44.

Yes, the Devil is a malicious “manslayer.” The Bible reveals that he is a real person, not just the evil in someone’s heart. (Matthew 4:1-11) Although created as a righteous angel, “he did not stand fast in the truth.” How fitting it is that he is named Satan the Devil! (Revelation 12:9) He is called “Satan,” or “resister,” because he has opposed and resisted God. This criminal is also called “Devil,” meaning “slanderer,” for he has blasphemously misrepresented God.  All human death is due to his actions in the Garden of Eden, a truly sinister plot.  Satan carefully laid out a plot that he thought would lead to his ruling all humans and receiving their worship. He decided to induce the first human couple, Adam and Eve, to sin against God.


We have suffered the loss of our loved ones, and seen the truth of the scriptures above.  The whole world lies in the power of Satan and some humans are just like their father the Devil.  I am so sorry you have suffered the murder of your father at Satan’s hand.  But it does give us all an opportunity to show ourselves loyal to God by demonstrating God like qualities.  (Galatians 5:22-23) “On the other hand, the fruitage of the spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faith, mildness, self-control.”  It is good to have a kind and loving person who loves God as my friend.



At 6:39pm on August 6, 2011, Amanda Ab said…
Hello, Ruth, Thanks so much for your comment. and sorry for your loss.I hope we can know each other a little more. And understand each other through this grieving process.
At 4:11pm on July 20, 2011, Tammy Scott said…

Hello Ruth thank you for your comment and I'm sorry for the loss of your father. Where you all able to get justice? well I hope you did but if not always know God in in control and he will take care of your badles. Stay strong and write back....Deante's mom 4 life Tammy


At 7:24pm on June 26, 2011, susan joanette wilson said…

I lost my mother the same way back in 1989. She had arthritus in her back and had been living a  basement apt.  this place was in a complex up on the third floor she liked the windows  I tried to talk her out of moving in and less than five weeks later she was murdered.  this guy knocked on her door said he had a sick child and was locked out of his apt. wanted to use her phone.  He came in pulled a knife turned up the tv. Neighbors called the police when they got there the tv was still up andlights were still on they left assumed it was domesticate when they went back later it was dark and quiet.  She was found the next day.  He took her purse and got less than 20 dollars..  He stopped and ate and had a cigarette after he did it.  It took us 20 years to find and convict him.  They had is dna on the cigarette butt mom fought hard she had a hand full of his hair in her hand and his dna under her fingernails.worked pretty much like on tv.  Now its common practice with a felony charge you submit your dna.  We got lucky this guy was in another prison and they ran the dna and got a hit and thats how we got him. sentecing was on the anniversary of her passing 20 years later   He got the max of 60 years  but showed no remorse at sentencing.  I got to face him in a victum impact statement.  the cold case dective said he has aids and is going to die in prison.  losing a person by murder is awful and needless.  God bless you






























































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