Stanley Ruiz
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  • Richmond Hill, NY
  • United States
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JO B left a comment for Stanley Ruiz
"thnx stan got  a lot goin on coz of moms alz/dem iv arht witrs in my joms its why its hrfr 2 typ coz sum tim s i cnt feal jepypad i cnt ho u r ok"
May 6
Stanley Ruiz replied to Deborah Dodds's discussion Does anyone else have flashbacks? in the group Losing SomeoneTo Murder
" I AM A GAY MAN AND I LIVED WITH A GUY SINCE COLLEGE DAYS AND WE BUILT A RETIREMENT HOMR IN THE DOMINICAN REPUBLIC AND HOME  INVADERS CAME ON OCTONER 2 2012 AND SHOT ME THREE TIMES AND ONE GUY SHOT MY PARTNER TWICE IN HIS HEART AND HE DIED…"
Feb 14
Stanley Ruiz replied to annjulie's discussion 2 tragic deaths 5 days apart.. in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"Julie .I know how you feel.I am a male and lived with a male since college days and we built a retirement home and invaders came in and sot me three times and shot my partner directly in his heart and he died instantly and that was October 2 2012…"
Dec 21, 2016
JO B left a comment for Stanley Ruiz
"im plesd diana let us join in 2012 i wud of bean wrse wors wt ort her stan we all wud of bean wra wrse wh ort her we all wud of "
Mar 2, 2016
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"THEv HELL WITH THESE SPAMS ..I HATE THESE SPAMS BUT WE ALL LOVE YOU STAN"
Aug 28, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"JOE it is not fair because of this spam  Your selling is ok  and we are all used to it.All of us understand what you write  Do not worry about that? We all care about you and I care about you tremendously and I do not want you to be…"
Aug 28, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"I AM SERIOUS LET IT GO AND IT IS NOT WORTH IT TO GET SICK STAN"
Aug 28, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"I AM SERIOUS DO NOT GET SICK OVER IT .YOUR FRIEND STAN"
Aug 28, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"Good Morning .Do not get sick over it Ok.? Stan"
Aug 28, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"I CAM IMAGINE HOW YOU FEEL AND GETTING SICK ABOUT THESE SCAMS ARE THE PROBLEM AND IT MAKES ME SICK AND A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE SICK.I WISH SOMETHING OULD BE DONE.I WILL DO SOME PRAYING FOR YOU .YOUR GOOD FRIEND STANLEY"
Aug 27, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
" I just can not believe that this is happening .We all need you to continue Stan"
Aug 27, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group dreams
"IT IS A SHAME YOU CAN NOT GET ON LINE  and you have the support of so many people.Stan"
Aug 27, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
" THYAT IS NOT FAIR  TO EVERY ONE  STAN"
Aug 27, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"DID YOU COMPLAIN REGARDING CHAT ROOM  STAN"
Aug 27, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"Why is this happening?STAN"
Aug 27, 2015
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"JOE EXPLAIN TO ME WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH YOUR WEBSITE STANLEY"
Aug 27, 2015

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About Me:
I lived with a gay man 37 years and I cry every day..Home invaders came in the night at our vacation home shot me in my intestines and stomach
About my Loss:
HE WAS SHOT IN THE HEART AND DIED

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At 5:35pm on May 6, 2017, JO B said…

thnx stan got  a lot goin on coz of moms alz/dem iv arht witrs in my joms its why its hrfr 2 typ coz sum tim s i cnt feal jepypad i cnt

ho u r ok

At 1:52pm on March 2, 2016, JO B said…

im plesd diana let us join in 2012 i wud of bean wrse wors wt ort her stan we all wud of bean wra wrse wh ort her we all wud of 

At 12:20am on February 21, 2015, Sharon said…
Stanley, you've been through so much. Seeing your loved one die, and almost dying yourself. I spoke to a grief counselor that specializes in PTSD, and he said that families facing sudden death is very similar to PTSD. Our minds are racing and we feel anxious because we can't comprehend what had just happened. I'm so glad that the pain of your trauma is easing a little. I pray that mine will too.
At 5:20pm on March 24, 2014, JO B said…

hi stan bean 2 dentist 2 day dont hav 2 go bk till 6th mnths im lisnon 2 80s music on absulte radio 

hear is sm pics for u

hp u lk thm

At 3:40pm on December 3, 2013, JO B said…

stan ths pain is bad 2 day all coz of a sily falll i had ths yr i no iv bean tld by 2 drs wish i trusttt falllls can do damge 2 us thy can

dnt hlp wi grief pain as well on topp

At 4:10pm on December 2, 2013, Stanley Ruiz said…

JO.Sorry to hear about your shoulder and leg plus the weather does not help , Christmas will be here again and we are all memories and it is hard for all of us.This will be my second Christmas without ralph and I still cry.This house is full of his memories,I try to be strong but it is not so easy.I pray a lot and do not forget the candle Christmas Day..I always remember you in my prayers.God protect you and watch over you.Do not drink too much Ok.STAN

At 3:54pm on December 2, 2013, JO B said…

snap stan my sholderr is killng me evn my leg i hrt ths yrts mkng me wrk funny well lmpng a bit mre pain relif hlps for a bit thn it stoppps it doze thn ths pain cms bk 

now nxt holiday is xmas stan wish im not lkng fored 2 im not i usd 2 luv it wn my dad wz hear coz his bday wz 26th dec so we wud hav 2 selbratsons we did so we wud spnd 2 days drinking eatng 2 mush th on 27th dec we wud hav hangovrs or fealng a bit li heded 

At 4:00pm on November 15, 2013, JO B said…

thnxs stan i no sholdr pain u no wn i fell begin of yr wear i hrt my leg sholder if i had not fell i wud not hav set it off wors thn ever evn dr saed its easy 2 fall 2 do damg 2 us 

jst 1 of thm thngs

jo

At 3:30pm on November 10, 2013, JO B said…
  • plesed u r ok stan hpe u enjoy yore tm in forest had a bot of 1 of my wobly momnts 2 day i did i thnk its coz of evnts its cumng up it dose it 2 us
  • jo
At 3:48pm on November 9, 2013, JO B said…

thnx stan 

 
 
 

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