Brenda Ann
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Jul 7
Brenda Ann left a comment for Kerri Fell
"Hope you feel comforted by this: Dealing With Guilt As noted previously, some have feelings of guilt after losing a loved one in death. This may help to explain the acute grief of the faithful man Jacob when he was led to believe that his son Joseph…"
Jun 9
Brenda Ann left a comment for Lisa
"Dear Lisa, I send you my heartfelt condolences as well as a welcome to our website. It is a safe place to come and talk or vent about your loss. Talking is very helpful in sorting out how to move forward. I would like to share a paragraph from what…"
Feb 15
Brenda Ann left a comment for morgan
"Dear Morgan, You said, ”What the hell happened to him.  Where is he?  I want to know and I know that is impossible.”  I noticed these 2 questions that you asked and noticed that you don’t feel it is possible to find…"
Jan 21
Brenda Ann replied to mindy's discussion Feeling pretty well depressed
"Mindy, I am not a doctor but I am a student of the Bible. It seems that you are suffering from anxiety over your past. Humans including ourselves seem to filter the good things we have done and focus on the "bad". But God is the opposite.…"
Jan 16
Brenda Ann left a comment for Lost
"Dear Lost, I've never been one who felt that money or job is most important either. There are so many things more important in life. One of those though is family. I would be lonely also if my family looked down on me and didn't talk to…"
Jan 16
Brenda Ann left a comment for Lost
"So sorry to hear how lonely you are and glad you found this website. you can talk to any of us anytime you need. Hope to hear from you soon. Brenda"
Jan 14
Brenda Ann left a comment for JJ
"So sorry to hear of your loss, but so glad that you found this website so you can talk to people who have experienced loss and may have some practical suggestions. Blow is a list of things that will help you and your girls... HELP FOR THOSE WHO…"
Jan 14
Brenda Ann left a comment for JJ
"So sorry to meet you here but very happy you found this website. You can trust the folks here to listen to your feelings. They may have practical suggestions that may help you and your daughters cope. Here is a list of practical suggestions that…"
Jan 14
Brenda Ann left a comment for Theresa
"Dear Theresa, I am so sorry to hear you lost your mom but my heart breaks for you being unable to talk to her and say some final words. One thing I know for sure she loved you and felt your love for her. My mom and I have this kind of relationship.…"
Jan 14
Brenda Ann replied to Betty Ellsworth's discussion Never ending in the group I miss my Mom!
"Oh Bett signedy my heart breaks for you...  A DNR is a legal document that your mother put her signature on after she made her decision to not be kept alive by machines. How that makes you gold digging b'''' is beyond…"
Jan 11
Silke B. left a comment for Brenda Ann
"Thank you for writing me Brenda, but I do not believe in God anymore."
Jan 11
Brenda Ann commented on Martha's group Tips to help one cope with grief spiritually
"If you look for advice on dealing with grief, you will likely find a myriad of ideas​—some more helpful than others. Perhaps that is because, as mentioned earlier, everyone grieves differently. What works for one person may not work…"
Jan 9
Brenda Ann left a comment for Laura
"I am so sorry to hear of your loss and the silence of your partner.  Because you are some distance apart and he is not talking right now you don't know what comforting words he needs to hear. I have a suggestion that will show you care but…"
Jan 9
Brenda Ann left a comment for Rita
"Dear Rita, If you look for advice on dealing with grief, you will likely find a myriad of ideas​—some more helpful than others. Perhaps that is because, everyone grieves differently. What works for one person may not work for someone…"
Jan 7
Brenda Ann left a comment for Silke B.
"May I suggest a Group that you may enjoy joining. Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one? Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one? This group was started because many are…"
Jan 7

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About Me:
I am disabled, 68 years old, wife, mother of 3 and grandmother(maw maw)to 8 with our first great granddaughter coming January 2018. Being disabled and unable to walk, the only way I can give comfort is on line. My family was helped and we want to "pay it forward" by helping others with their grief.
About my Loss:
My family lost my father in law to a fall and brain bleed in July of 2010. The grief we have experienced has made us aware the need for comfort.

My brother in law, Roger age 63 passed away Sept 5th 2012 due to a very short but horrifically painful pancreatic cancer.

Tragically Saturday July 5th we lost two of our closest friends. Jill broke her leg, only to find out that her body was riddled with cancer. She passed away 10 days latter. Then we recieved a message on Facebook that another friend had had a massive heart attack and died the same day as Jill. Her name is JoAnn.

(Ecclesiastes 7:1) "A good name is better than good oil, and the day of death is better than the day of birth." For the first time, I think I understand this scripture, and I feel it is so important to tell everyone who JoAnn was and what she meant to us. So few people truly "get" what being a true friend really is. . . but JoAnn . . . so much more than just a friend. She was the definition of empathy - the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. She thought ahead to consider what her friends would need and then made it happen. The sound of her voice was so soothing that as soon as you heard hello you felt comfortable and at home. No matter how long between visits, the friendship and love was instant. JoAnn's love of God drew us to her but who she was inside is why we feel she was the personification of Proverbs 17: 17 - "A true friend shows love at all times, And is a brother who is born for times of distress," a true gift from Jehovah.

November 1, 2016 My husband's mother passed away in her sleep. Esther "mom" was an excellent baker and cook. She canned the vegetables and fruits they grew in their garden and made jellies, wines and baked pies with their produce. Esther was an accomplished seamstresses making all of her very stylish clothes and many of her children's clothes. She crocheted afghans and made beautiful quilts and was the bookkeeper for the Family Plumbing business.

She studied the Bible and loved telling people of the wonderful promises God has recorded in the Bible and why those promises are as sure to be fulfilled as if they were already a reality. [Why Study the Bible?

It has taken me 9 months to add this to my profile: So sorry to welcome you to www.onlinegriefsupport.com. I lost my dad 9 months ago to C.O.P.D./emphysema/lung cancer all from smoking. Watching him go was a terrible experience! I tried to comfort him and spent about 20 of his last hours singing to him and playing music he loved. They told me he could hear me and encouraged me to keep singing and playing music. I guess it did comfort us both...
video link = https://www.jw.org/en/publications/videos/#en/mediaitems/AllVideos/...

In the middle of October 2018 our sister in law lost her fight against Cancer. She was such a loving and kind person caring for her mother for her last years. Her mother also fought Cancer. Her was was Jean wakes us up to our own mortality. God did not intend for humans to die. That's why it is so hard to face... Thanks be for Jesus ransom sacrificial death so we have the possibility to have our sins forgiven and life everlasting to look forward to... see ALL of you soon.
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I am a volunteer Family & Grief Counselor. mawmaw1591@gmail.com

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Another Nightmare

Friends of ours set out on a three month missionary trip to Costa Rica leaving February 7th 2013. Received a call late February 10th that Tom had passed away that day of a heart attack. His wife, Linda, will be home with him soon. Two of his children flew to Costa Rica to be with their mother.

There are no words to express my sadness. It is Normal to Feel This Way because God did not create man to die or get sick. Thankfully we are comforted by the hope Jesus mentions at (John 5:28,…

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Posted on February 12, 2013 at 4:30pm

Sometimes the best way of helping ourselves is to help others. . .

There is just so much grief - caused by many events in our lives - unfortunately death may well be the worst but many other happenings rank right up there. This is 15 yr old Brandon Parra. He is not my blood grandson but he calls me grandma and it sure feels like he is mine. He has been in the hospital off and on, every few weeks for over a year - this stretch has been 4…

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Posted on February 11, 2013 at 11:55am — 1 Comment

My brother in law

Sad to report that pancreatic cancer claimed my brother in law's life early this morning.  Over the last 2 years he has cared for my mother in law.  She has Alzheimer and is 90 years old. Roger, my brother in law worked with mom to get her muscles toned and made sure she drank enough etc so that today she is in far better condition than 2 years ago when my father in law passed away.  They were in assisted living - which now I feel was no assistance at all.  Roger was a wonderful son and a…

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Posted on September 5, 2012 at 1:11pm — 3 Comments

Closing Chapters

It is so difficult to see another piece of history end. Waves of the past keep flowing over me. Memories. . . such good times. . . our friend Jackie will be missed as is her sister Paula each and every day.  Thank you, Jackie for remembering everything about me and all your smiles and hugs and always putting Jehovah first. It will be wonderful seeing you and Paula and making new forever memories together.

Posted on January 17, 2012 at 1:13am

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At 9:37pm on January 5, 2019, Silke B. said…
Thank you for writing me Brenda, but I do not believe in God anymore.
At 1:29pm on June 3, 2018, JLL said…

Dearest Brenda, I am remiss in THANKING you for taking such time to write me such a thoughtful and caring message years ago now... Time stands still and moves forward all at once it seems. I truly and deeply appreciate your thoughts and true kindness in reaching out to me in the way that you did. My mother was an English teacher and Pastor, as a result I find it the example you used to communicate to me quite fascinating as well...I am grateful for your message to me and although long overdue; thank you! Warmest thoughts, Jessica

At 11:21pm on December 6, 2017, Cynthia K Jones said…

Thank you Brenda. I will listen and I send you a hug to. It's so good to have someone to talk to who knows and have felt what we are feeling. Sometimes I think other just don't understand. Thank you.

At 11:40am on October 31, 2017, Sue said…
Thank you so much Brenda, I appreciate your adding me and sharing your story. That’s beautiful that you sang for your dad, I wish I could have done that for mine but when the hospice nurse called and said he was ‘actively dying’ the day after Fathers Day I was shocked and when I got there he was being kept comfortable so he wasn’t awake to talk but I was told he could hear so I talked. My dad loved bluegrass and playing guitar, someone played my dads guitar and sang Keeper of the Door by The Kings Countrymen at the service. It was so emotional and touching that I could imagine see my dad smiling.
Thanks you so much for the positive things to read and your thoughtful words.
At 10:11pm on April 27, 2016, Janet Shores Hoogendyk said…

 Hello. Nice to meet you and thank you for the kind request.

At 11:10pm on January 29, 2016, Felicia said…

 Thanks for being my friend, Brenda Ann. Its nice to have a "sister in the faith" to talk to.  I see your from my home state. I am originally from El Paso, Tx.  Hope you and your family are well!  Agape...

At 6:30pm on February 13, 2015, JLL said…

I just wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart and apologize for not doing so earlier for the kindness you showed me in your comment to me last year. Thank You Sooo Very Much for taking your time to write what you did and share what you did with me and for me..it means A LOT! Warmest Regards~J

At 11:13am on January 12, 2015, Karen W. said…

thank you Brenda, I can really relate to the Shakespeare quote, it feels like I will bust open from grief if I don't talk about it.

At 5:15pm on December 25, 2014, Jesse's Mom said…

Brenda, thank you for posting some verses from Job, you had left a comment that included Job chapter 10. Just totally described where I am at today after two child losses.

At 4:46pm on November 17, 2014, Julie Prakoon said…

Hi Brenda

Thank you for you kind and comforting words

Im trying my hardest to move on with my daily routine, but sometime it not easy.  Have a good week

 

 
 
 

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17 hours ago
Dennis C. replied to Amy's discussion How do I get unstuck?
"Amy, I am so sorry for your loss. The journey of caregiving is extremely difficult. The loss of our especially loved dear ones is unspeakable. There are so many different ideas about what happens to us when we die. Religion teaches many different…"
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Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I just feel like I am in a fog.  I have a little dog that is at least ten years old.  She adored my Mom & she has really grieved for her.  I know how you feel about your dog.  I worry about her.  She is all I have. …"
Thursday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Me too Brett, I sit here an look at my 12 year old Labrador and I know he is on borrowed time, and my heart breaks, losing him will be something that I am not looking forward to. As you said Brett, we have the live our lives until we are called…"
Thursday
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Yes, I was looking at something that popped up on my Yahoo news feed. It was an article naming 106 celebrities who have passed away in 2019. So many names and faces that I remembered. Now they are gone, and they aren't coming back. Their time…"
Thursday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brett so true she was my security blanket I feel like I have no one to lean on that understood me like her You know what keeps coming in my mind. How true it is and scary that everything has a beginning and an end."
Thursday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I hear it all the time you don’t know how lucky you were that your mother wasn’t sick and you didn’t have to take care of her I say to them lucky I was lucky that my mother died and I was not right by her side to tell her I love…"
Wednesday
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"M, the problem is that our security blankets were ripped away. Like you, sometimes I am glad to be sad. I feel like I am closer to my mom when I am crying. At least, her memory is fresher with me when I am in that zone. I feel like the hard reality…"
Wednesday
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Theresa, millions, billions of people have lost their moms. Sometimes someone will tell me that they have lost their mom, too, but they were able to deal with it, and they wonder why I haven't dealt with it as well. This may sound like an…"
Wednesday
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Me too ...I was sitting marking a paper yesterday and suddenly realized that I can’t see or talk to my mother about this or anything else and the tears came.  But I’m glad to think of her, in a way I can be glad to be sad sometimes.…"
Tuesday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I sometimes will just be sitting down and I start to cry because I keep thinking I miss my mom so much my whole world is just not the same I think that I’ve become a different person it will be four years and I still cry I can’t put into…"
Tuesday
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Definitely a colder world now.  I like the image of the security blanket — like, as we go forward, we will always keep it but eventually may be able to wash it, fold it nicely, and put it in some place of honour close at hand but without…"
Tuesday
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"The world just became a colder place when my mom died. I just remember feeling like all was right with the world when my mom was in the next room. "
Tuesday
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"It is such a traumatic event, especially when you have had a wonderful Mom.  It is so hard knowing she is gone.  Knowing this is permanent.  There is no one that can fill the void she left.  My brother was close to Mom, but he…"
Tuesday
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Tuesday
Amy replied to Amy's discussion How do I get unstuck?
"I am not a believer and nor was he. We covered the bases just incase though. We were both raised Catholic. That is all besides the point though. "
Tuesday
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"While I never forget that my mom is gone, for some reason it just hits me over the head sometimes. Just out of the blue I'll be like, "Mom is gone." It's horrible. It's ever present. And the thing is that it is always with…"
Monday
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"My Mom also.  I could always talk to her about anything & knew she was someone I could totally trust.  I am constantly thinking of something I want to share with her & then I remember she is gone.  I loved spending time with…"
Monday
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"There is no doubt that it is anxiety. In fact, I think we are experiencing fight or flight. Since birth my mom had been my security blanket."
Monday
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"It is still numbing to think my Mom is gone & I can't talk to her or see her again.  I lost part of me when she passed.  Someone said the restless feelings I have are really anxiety.  Daily crying is part of my life. …"
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