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Lost Without My Mom
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Traumatic, Sudden Loss
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Tattoo Memorial
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Orphaned Adults
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Losing Someone to Cancer
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Julie Marie Weiss's Discussions
Traumatic Losses
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My beautiful mother died suddenly 8 weeks ago today. I found her sitting up, and knew she was gone. It was very traumatic I can not get her finally image out of my heart! It scares me that someone ca…
Started this discussion. Last reply by Julie Marie Weiss Nov. 24, 2009.
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I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.
Many of us have lost more than one person or event.
Come share!
Hi Jennifer, my son would have been 17 this Friday (March 19). I dread Friday, I also have to view his autopsy this week. So I am preparing myself for a major case of depression. I hope all works out for you and your family. God be with you during t…
next month will be 1yr since my son was killed,his bday was hard enough but to have to deal with the annivesary and the trial coming up,i feel more depressed every day
Hi Deneene I just read your message. I lost my 16 year old son due to a drug overdose on Dec 26, 2009. I just wanted you to know that I understand what you mean about not realizing how bad it was until after. The what-ifs some days and nights just w…
I'm not doing well!!....I lost my fiancee in a car accident Oct.27 2009. Anyone that says it gets easier with time is wrong. It's getting harder and harder everyday. I feel like my life is over too. I can barely get out of bed and I've become physic…
I lost my mom on March 6th, 2010, a week ago today. She passed away from an unexpected aneurysm, it was very sudden. I miss her each moment that goes by, it's very hard. We were so close, will it get any easier?
My mom died, August 17, 2009 of an apparent heart attack from heart failure. Her doctors never told me how sick she was and so I was blown away and am heart sick and lost without her.
Hi I'm Amy. I am new to this site. I guess I should start by explaining my losses. I lost my mother in 2002 after being in a coma for 9 months due to a heart attack. While she was in a coma her sister, my aunt, passed. I then lost my grandmother, th…
I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.
Many of us have lost more than one person or event.
Come share!
I lost my mother on February 9, 2010 to a cardiac arrest. She was my best friend. I was blessed to be born on Mother's Day. This year is going to be the hardest birthday. It falls on mothers day this year so i made plans to go on a vacation with my…
My mom died, August 17, 2009 of an apparent heart attack from heart failure. Her doctors never told me how sick she was and so I was blown away and am heart sick and lost without her.
As I read these comments I realize, that even though I have been told, Each of us grieve in different ways and at different rates and that loss is very personal. What would bother me very little is a major thing to many others.
So having said that.…
I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.
Many of us have lost more than one person or event.
Come share!
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- About Me:
- I am a student in the Medical Assisting program and will soon start my internship. I have been on the honor roll every session. Thanks to the love and support mom has given me. I miss that! I am excited about doing my internship and wish I could come home and tell her about my day but i can not.
- About my Loss:
- Two days ago I had a mass funeral for my mom she was 67, one day shy of her birthday. She died at home and I found her and am haunted by those images.
I lost my dad in 2005 to colon cancer and have no other relatives, so I am on my own and scared! Yes I have two very close friends I consider family but now that my parents are gone I feel lost.
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- At 2:39pm on January 05, 2010, Ruby Smith gave Julie Marie Weiss a gift…
- At 8:51pm on November 04, 2009, Julie Marie Weiss added a gift to their profile…
- At 9:55am on September 11, 2009,
Carrie A Williams said… - Hi Julie-
Just thinking about you this morning and hoping you are doing okay!
Carrie
- At 2:23pm on September 4, 2009,
Carrie A Williams said…
- How irritating and insulting....SHE needs space. Perhaps you are better off without this friend....seems like an awful thing to say considering what you are going through.
Well, I am here for you anytime and I sincerely mean that. I hope that you are VERY proud of yourself and what you are accomplishing in the middle of this awful situation. Congrats on being in your final 8 weeks....that is AWESOME! You may not feel so strong right now but you are and, when the time comes for you to graduate, if you need someone there.....I will be that someone for you and I mean this from the bottom of my heart.
Do you still have things that you have to take care of (meaning bills, estate accounts and whatnot)?? This is an area that I am having a lot of trouble with right now. It is so overwhelming. I had to sell my parents house, go to court to get appointed Personal Representative, hire an attorney, open an estate account, sell their cars, cancel insurance etc etc and I have a stack of medical and other miscellaneous bills that I have to take care of. I wonder if life is ever going to feel "normal" again!
- At 12:14pm on September 3, 2009,
Carrie A Williams said…
- Hi Julie-
How are you? I hope you are well today. Please do not apologize for repeating yourself..my mind has been so confused that I have trouble keeping track of anything I do or say right now so I completely understand.
I am sorry that this friend chose to walk away from you at this time. It is hard to understand why someone would do this. I really do not have anyone that I feel I can talk to about this. People do NOT understand and I think most of them would rather avoid the topic altogether, as they are uncomfortable and do not know what to say.
Hey, by the way, we are both in Wisconsin. I am in Kenosha.
- At 8:01pm on September 2, 2009,
Carrie A Williams said…
- Hi Julie-
I can not thank you enough for responding. When I read what you had wrote, it was the first time I felt there might be someone out there who understands the fear and loneliness I am consumed by. I am so sorry for what you are also going through. I know the pain and fear. I hope that somehow we can support each other and come out on the other side of this okay. I have a friend who keeps telling me that one day it will be the norm that my parents are gone....I cannot EVEN imagine ever feeling that way.
I have been married for 10 wonderful years and love my husband deeply but this has caused so much strain on us that I even feel alienated from him. We have not even spoke in 2 days even though we are in the same house. I am scared that I will end up alone. My marriage has never been through anything like this and it is taking its' toll. I don't know how to fix it.
My Dad was diagnosed with lung cancer in March 2008 that had spread to his bone, spine and brain. He died June 28, 2008. My Mom was already getting ill with Picks Disease but it was still so mild that her symptoms went unnoticed with everything else going on. My father wanted to die in his home and my Mom would not give him medicine or take care of him (not because she did not want to, she could not...she would get hysterical). I figured it was the grief and pain. I had to move in with them and care for my Dad. Then, when he passed, I needed my Mom so and she was not there at all. I could not figure out what was going on.....I thought she was having a nervous breakdown due to losing my Dad. As the weeks were passing by, my Mom was getting really out of touch. Pick's Disease is a rare degenerative brain illness that causes dementia. In February of 2009, she was still living alone and paying her bills and, by March 30, I was moving her into a facility and she was calling me Mom. She lost the ability to talk and walk. I took her to so many doctors and I was told everything from Alzheimers to mental illness. Her doctor even put her in a lock down mental ward for a week....it was HORRIBLE. I was alone with her at the doctor the day I was told that she had Pick's Disease and was going to die. Throughout the whole time I took care of her, I learned to never show emotion because she was like a child and would look to me for reactions to things the doctors were saying. I never cried in front of her and I never grieved my Dad. By May, she was in a wheelchair, had no communication and her arms and legs were completely contracted. My Mom passed on June 3, 2009. This day is my parents wedding anniversary and mine as well. It was less than one year after my Dad died and the first anniversary she would have had without him. My father was 60 when he died and my mother was 62.
I hope to hear from you soon.
Take care and thanks again for reaching out to me.
Carrie
- At 2:12pm on September 1, 2009,
Laura Villarreal said… - Hey Julie, I am a CMA but currently do not work. After I completed my MA and worked for a couple of years I decided to complete my B.S. in Business. After that I worked as an exec. asst. to two hospital directors. Got really burned out and started working on my teacher's certification...spent the last two years working as a substitute teacher. I feel you can never learn too much...where will you be doing your internship?
- At 4:44pm on August 30, 2009,
Laura Villarreal said…
- June 22 is the day my numbness ended. I remember this day well because I had an appointment with my physician. A little history so you know why I remember this day so well...my daughter died in North Pole, Alaska-I live in San Antonio, Texas. Her accident happened at 12:15 pm and she was declared dead at 12:49 pm. This was on a Monday. I kept everything inside because I had so much to do for her Memorial Service here at home but before this was to take place my niece and I flew to Fairbanks for a private viewing and her cremation. We returned home and planned her service for June 7. We then returned to Fairbanks for her service there on June 13. The week after I returned I was so exhausted. When I went for my doctor's visit on the 22nd I broke down completely and cried like I had never cried before. I was referred immediately to a therapist. I refused medication because I was afraid of not feeling any emotions, good or bad, so I toughed it out. It was a "roller coaster ride from hell" without the meds but I made it through okay. Your emotions will range from numbness, to sadness, to anger and everything in between. I don't tell you this to scare you but to let you know that they are normal during the grieving process. If you can, meet with a therapist. I visited my therapist twice and have not felt the need to return. I found my grief was more pronounced when I was tired. Mornings are usually good but every now and then I wake up feeling sad. If I feel like crying I cry and I usually feel better when I'm done. This is what I mean when I say be kind to yourself-allow yourself to grieve, don't bury it.
Feel free to ask me anything about my grieving experience-I don't mind sharing.
Julie, maybe your mom did not want you to know how serious her condition was, or maybe she did not want to accept it herself, but don't blame yourself.
Try to recall the happier times spent with your mom and embrace the love you have for each other; this will help you during this difficult time.
Your friend,
Laura
- At 2:42pm on August 30, 2009,
Laura Villarreal said…
- Hello again Julie,
Thank you for your condolences on the loss of my daughter. I can tell you that on June 22 is when the "numb" stage of grief ended for me. Though there are several stages of grief they don't always happen in the order presented by the experts. Take life one day a time and most important, be kind to yourself. Grieving can take a very emotional as well as physical toll on a person if we allow it.
We are here for each other on this website so never hesitate to post memories of your mom or feelings you may be struggling with. I have found that writing, whether on here or in my private journal, has helped me tremendously.
Take care, Julie. My thoughts and prayers are with you today.
Laura
- At 9:39am on August 30, 2009,
Laura Villarreal said…
- Julie,
My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your mom. The bond between mother and daughter is like no other...my only child, my 33 year old daughter, was killed in a tragic accident on May 25, 2009. Missing her is all I do these days. Moving forward is a slow, painful process but it will happen. There is no time table for grieving.
I have found the members of this website to be very caring and supportive; we all share the common bond of grief.
Share as much as you are comfortable with and if you would like to post a photo of your mom that would be nice.
Keep us posted on your internship; I am also a medical assistant and I really enjoyed my internship with a cardiology group.
Take care.
Sincerely,
Laura
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Come share!
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To One In Sorrow
Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
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I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
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And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.
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