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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by nadia on July 3, 2011 at 1:08pm
thank you all - it really means so much to me... it is true that often I can only seek some comfort here.. hard to share with others here face to face,,, hard to voice my thoughts. thank you all nadia
Comment by Karen R. on July 3, 2011 at 12:43pm
Hello Nadia and everyone, Nadia I am so sorry for your pain from your loss. Hopefully you will continue to find the strength to carry on, somehow, someway, no matter where it comes from.
Comment by Semary Rose on July 2, 2011 at 8:59pm
Nadia, I am sorry for your loss.  I am relatively new to the group, but I want to say that I find enormous support here.  You can vent, complain, cry, emote, and everything else and know that someone else is feeling the exact same way and can validate your feelings.  We are the same age and I have a four year old, as well.  I know it is hard trying to play mommy when your soul is ripped apart.  I am so sorry.
Comment by Denise Murphy on July 2, 2011 at 7:53pm

Hi Nadia,

I am so sorry for your loss, I too lost my younger sister last year on 7/7/10 from a massive heart attack.  She was only 41 years old and she had two young children ages 9 and 10, everytime I look at them I want to scream.  I don't think I will ever accept it but I will get through it.  As her anniversary is approaching I am very emotional, I always think back to last year when she was still alive and what we were doing.  I am happy this year is almost over, I don't have to look back and think she was here last year at this time.   What I have done is I read alot of books from the library, I also journal which I find helps me to release some of this grief.  I also made a corner of my backyard a memorial garden and made a butterfly stepping stone with her name on it.  These are some of the things that have helped me in my grief.  Please know that you are in my prayers.

God Bless,

Denise

Comment by nadia on July 2, 2011 at 3:03pm
It is really killing me not hearing my twins chattering about their Auntie... My sister absolutely adored them and it pains e beyond words that they will never remember being just 4 how much she adored them...she probably loved them more than me. I feel envy for the people thay play with now because I know that my wonderful sister would have been their best playmate if she were still here.. I am envious adn resentful to our oetehr firends who are back enjoying their summer while she is gone... I cannot fathom life wiothout... I cannot even get much comfort from my boys as seeing them brings tears that she is not here to share the joys... Im everyday life I have to be strong for my mum and dad who are broken but there are these days where my bravado fails me.. I just want her back.. and cry for all the moments I had not shared with her living abroad and the moment not to ever have.. please help
Comment by Karen R. on July 2, 2011 at 10:32am
I second that big giant group hug!  it means so much too have my feelings validated and not judged. So sorry though that we are a part of all of this.
Comment by Semary Rose on July 1, 2011 at 7:37pm
I love the bond I feel with all of you.  It is definetely my source of comfort during these lonely evenings filled with sadness and panic.  Life is not fair.  It does not add up or make sense to our human eyes and minds.  I don't know what else to say about it sometimes.  Thank god for each of you.  big giant group hug>>
Comment by Rachel Lynn Schuler on July 1, 2011 at 6:00pm
mercy, my friend, you will be ok, hang in there ;)
Comment by mercy on June 30, 2011 at 11:43am
Dear friends I second everything you are saying. I don't even want to wear nice looking clothes or enjoy any activities anymore. My mom and brother were so precious to me that everything I do in their absence is an effort. Someone commented on how pretty I looked yesterday and I just wanted to scream. I'm broken emotinally and physically am A WRECK. I feel a great bond with you all since you can relate to all I'm feeling. I just don't want to be here. Why did my brother have to die so suddenly when he had three young kids to support? My other brother is clinging to life after he got a debilitating meningitis attack in November. How much is one supposed to endure?
Comment by Karen R. on June 29, 2011 at 11:15pm
Greetings to all, Semary, I totally understand about feeling like a shell and trying to fake it. This sucks!!!!! I also understand the quilt feeling when you might remotely enjoy a song or a movie or laugh at something funny. Sometimes I think if I "enjoy" something, it will make my son feel like I am accepting what has happened to him and I don't. I don't feel like I will ever enjoy life again. It just doesn't seem possible. I am still angry with the idea that this world is going on WITHOUT my son!!! Sometimes my mind is screaming.....how dare they!!!!!My world ended, so should everyone else's. I know that sounds crazy but that is how I feel. Truly. I do NOT wish this kind of pain on anyone, well perhaps on the man responsible for robbing my son of his young life, other than him......no one else.
 

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