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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Maria L. on July 22, 2012 at 10:36pm

My dad died on December 2, 2009. I was at school when I found out. I remember going to my classes thinking everything was great. My only worry was a test I had the next day. During one of my classes my uncle texted me asking if I wanted to get dinner since he was in town for a meeting for work. I said, sure not think much of it. I finished my classes for the day, went back to my room to study and take a nap. By the time I woke up from my nap I received a text saying he was outside my building. I told him I would come down, and said that he would come up. I thought okay, maybe he wants to see my room. He came up and asked my roommates to leave. Right then I knew something wasn't right. Then my grandma walked into my room and I knew something was very wrong. I thought maybe my 90 year old great grandfather had died, but I was thinking about this something didn't make sense, why wouldn't my mom just call me and tell me. I remembered my parents were away. That's when my grandma said something happen in St. Martin. My heart dropped/stopped, before I even knew what she was saying I was already crying. Things started getting fuzzy and I could barely hear her over the rushing sound in my head, but I heard her say "Daddy, had a heart attack." Everything came crashing down around me. Even though it was 2 1/2 years ago, it still feels so new. This wasn't how things were suppose to be. RIP Daddy.

Comment by megan brewer on July 10, 2012 at 9:35pm

Feb 13th, 2012. Worst day of my life. I found my fiance dead at 6:30 am. He passed from an accidental overdose/mixture of prescription medications. He was the love of my life. We were going to get married this summer. I feel for everyone on this site, and it is comforting to know I'm not the only one. But the devastation I have felt is unbearable. Rest in peace my sweet Chris.

Comment by mary otten on July 10, 2012 at 9:34pm

i lost my husband mar 2012 to suicide, i muss him so much , and did not have any clue that he would do this, so i am having alot of trouble trying to understand,

Comment by christianlee on July 3, 2012 at 4:05am
So very sorry. I too. Loved the month of June. My dad passed the end of June last year. My parents anniversary is today and my bday is July 4th. My bday will never be the same. Dad was such a good dad always spent my bday with him. Sad. So I feel your pain dear.
Comment by Maura Simms on July 2, 2012 at 11:56am

I just went through the most hellish June.  My father went into hospice on my husband's 1 yr memorial; my father died the day of my husband's memorial and then my father's memorial was the day of my husband's birthday/and our anniversary.  I am so glad the month that was once one of joy is over.  Strange how our perspective changes.

Comment by dream moon JO B on June 18, 2012 at 3:32pm

i did th sam e annette it th minnit im upset wit god i dont wont to be just am

Comment by Annette Dominguez on June 18, 2012 at 1:24pm

JB, you are right. It feels like it is getting harder. I cried a lot yesterday. I pray a lot and ask God to give me peace and comfort. It is beyond my comprehension how people get through this if they don't know God. I have widow friends that say they have the same problem so I know I am not alone.

 

Comment by dream moon JO B on June 13, 2012 at 11:07am

yore husband sonds like my dad  a good man and father annette every body loved him he woz kind to annimals and peole and hes family i cna just imangin him out side the heven gates geting follord by cats and dogs    and i no fathers day and his birday and xmas will be hard coz it be the 1st yer with out thm peple say it gets easer evry month i dont it seams to get harder not seaing him any more

Comment by Annette Dominguez on June 13, 2012 at 8:57am

Father's day is coming up and it is making me so sad. I have noticed I get very sad before a holiday or an event. My husband was a wonderful father. He was so proud of our son and daughter. My son just graduated from college so all that is affecting my emotions as well. And just having to take care of everything by myself gets me down. I know I can do it, I just don't want to do it by myself. Last year I was just in shock and only through the grace of God I made it through. This year I am fully aware of what is going on so every holiday is tough.

 

Comment by carla cue on June 4, 2012 at 11:56am

I am not sure how to go about all of this as I am new here and have never had to deal with a tragedy of this magnitude. I came home from work on May 11 of this year and found my boyfriend dead in our fire pit in our backyard. The only comfort is that they believe that he had a heart attack. We have to wait for the DNA results to come back before we can move on. He was a wonderful man with a big heart and although we weren't together long but I knew we would be together for the rest of our lives. Little did I know that he would be taken from me so soon. He left behind 2 sons and it is so hard. Why didn't I stay with him or talk him into coming inside and not lighting that damn fire.

 I find it so hard some days to just cope and feel as though I could end it all just to be with him one more time; but I know that won't happen. I try to be strong for the boys and everyone else but I just want to cry and curl up. I try to go to the pit and talk to him but it is so hard I keep seeing him there.

Does it ever get any easier?

 

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