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Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue
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Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family. I…Continue
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Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue
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My therapist has asked me those questions as well. For me, I know my mom would want me to be happy, that's all she ever wanted for me, and I too want to enjoy life but I just can't seem too..the emptiness and loneliness is just too much for me. At first I thought I was holding onto it because I didn't want to forget the memories and how much she meant to me, and I felt guilty as well for not crying all the time..it flip flops though for me, like a freakin rollercoaster. One minute I feel like I can breathe again, and then the next minute, I'm in despair! But you're right, I feel like there are no answers at there!
Kitty, I ask the same questions... If I don't cry all day I feel guilty. If I didn't have my baby girl I would likely spend all day in bed crying but because of her I have to get up and keep going. But I don't want to hurt his feelings...
I should have added that my therapist said I could take the happy memories with instead of the pain. Life would be a lot more pleasant wouldn't it.
that is something else i have to work on. :)
I am close to my mom as well. I can't imagine not having her to talk to. I am so sorry for your loss.
It comes to mind, we really have no answers for each other. We can only listen/read, empathize, support and share our thoughts and experiences. But there really are no answers, are there.
My latest thought on my grief is....am I hanging on to the pain of the grief because:
1) that's all I have left?
2) if I don't hurt for him, am I discounting him?
3) if I don't hurt for him, am I disrespecting him?
4) if I don't hurt for him, will I forget him?
The only person that has these answers is me. I think I am going to be awhile working this one out.
It is all a journey.
It's easy to take care of others and give everybody else advice but I find it very hard to listen to my own advice. I contacted a medium not to long ago, couldn't tell me much, just that she was happy and at peace. I already believed that before I contacted him and I thought that I would feel 100% better after that but I don't..I still hurt tremendessly!
i lost my granmother weni woz a tean an d tht woz painfull 2 u sound like me to mush human fealing i went on line to find a sycic i got 2 jenna and a nother 1 who dose a free reading cudent get my dad to cumt hru what i wanted just said i hav to be carfull this month i l be in voled in a acsentend thats all i nead to har me bean acsebent prone and iv got to take beter care of my health i no i tell other people to take care of thm selfs and i foget to take care of my self coz im to busyey of thinging of others my dad used to say thng of yore self for a change jo but i like to thng off others as welll
Exactly, I mean it's not like I want to talk about her 24/7 but sometimes I would like to, and I would rather it be good memories. Some people will never understand!! Losing my grandfather when I was 10 was rough, I was super close to him, but losing my mom has been the most painful experience in my life!
its best 2 tark abot the best tims jennifer coz the bad memeriys haunt u and death dose mess with evry1 it makes it worse on my dads side coz its sush a big family that u get sic of going to funrells my mum is as bad as i am still stuck at the 1st wall i no the 1st yer or 2 is the worse
Kitty, I know, I shouldn't take it personally but it just hurts because I enjoy talking about the good times because if I don't, then I'm haunted by the memories of her in the hospital going through so much pain. I know they love me and everything, and you're right Death messes with everyone! I'm not in denial anymore, nor do I bargain, but I'm having trouble getting out of the depression/anger stage..it makes it harder when you have complicated grief!
but i no ther is a load of other tests u can find on line i no thats 1 of them and hears is another ( whish stage of grief are u) fogive me for the bad spelling
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