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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Phoebe Jackson on March 12, 2014 at 8:27am

Hi everyone, I've seen so many inspiring stories on here and can't believe how much you've all been through. I hope nobody minds me leaving this message, I'm not meaning to intrude. 

I'm a feature writer in the UK and I'd love to share your stories over here. If you have fought for justice for your loved one or had them cruelly taken away, you can email me on Phoebe.Jackson-Edwards@pressassociation.co.uk. We can tell your loved ones story and would use happy pictures of your family, it would be a real tribute to them. You would also get copy approval, so you would have it read back to you over the phone so you know exactly what will be published. If you have any other questions, I'll happily answer over email or give you a call. 

Comment by anne on March 10, 2014 at 5:56pm

Right on Dennis!

Comment by Dennis C. on March 7, 2014 at 11:36am
James 1:13 When under trial, let no one say: “I am being tried by God.” For with evil things God cannot be tried, nor does he himself try anyone.
Comment by Danny on March 7, 2014 at 4:13am

Yes anne the bond is forever.  But we need to work on it to keep it going.

Comment by anne on March 4, 2014 at 6:53pm

Dear Danielle, I am so sad for your loss. I feel the need to tell you that God did not do this to you. Life here on earth does this along with the wicked one. The wicked one does this to us to take away anything, and everything good from us including God. I thought God took my sons, and I was angry for a very long time. Then one day I opened up the bible, and found my answer as to why God would do this to me. The passage I read was Matthew 18:14 For it is not the will of my father in heaven that the little ones should parish. There it was in black and white. It turned my world around. I have buried both of my sons, but knowing God didn't take them away from me has made a big difference in my life. Death can not sever love. I hope your tomorrow is better. Peace and Love to all

Comment by Danielle McEwe on March 3, 2014 at 12:52pm

I lost my little sister. Andraya was a beautiful gift from god. We adopted her into our family whenshe was only 3 days old, and at the age of 8, it was like I got my very own living doll. Growing up, because of our age difference, we did not always see eye to eye (literally and figuratively) but I loved her with every fiber of my body because she was such a specail and unique girl. She had a rough go through her teenage years, but for the last few years, she was coming into her own, building houses with my father. When she was 16, she met a boy. He was a few years older than herself, but when we saw them together for the first time, my parents and I knew that she was done, that she had found the one that she was going to be with for the rest of her life. She was becoming a beautful and compassionate young woman and we were starting to get to know one another more. The best day of my life was on August 3, 2013 when I was my sister's maid of honour at her wedding to her long term beau. Then...a short 19 days later, my little sister was killed in a head on collision. She was only 21 years old. The other driver was 17 and was texting and driving. She got away with it with no reprocussions. Meanwhile, I have lost my gift from god, and I am so incredibly sad. I am trying to come to terms with the foreverness of the situation....that I will never see her smile in person again, and I will never hear her laugh, and I will never feel her arm around me again as I did on her wedding day when she hugged me for the photos. My heart is broken and although I have been having a lot of good days, today I feel broken and unable to cope. I am sitting at work fighting back the tears and wondering why....why her? Why did god have to take back his gift so soon? Why was she not able to live a long and happy life? I know I will never get the answers to my questions, and even if I did, it would not bring her back. I just feel so broken today.

Comment by Danny on March 1, 2014 at 11:37am

sudden is very tough all of you hang in there the first 6 months or so just try to absorb the shock believe me.  You never feel the real pain about sudden until it happens.  best to all susan, kary etc.

Comment by susan j. on March 1, 2014 at 10:31am

I lost my best friend and the love of my life on 2/19. We were only together for 7 months and lived together for 2 of those months. I miss Tom so bad, the shirt that he wore to the hospital on the night that he passed i brought it home and put his pillow in it and I sleep with it every night. Tom took me to my first Daytona Bike Week last Oct. and there he bought me a ring and we became one and I haven't took it off. I still cry and I ask him everyday to just come and hold me and tell me that he doesn't hate me for letting him pass and that he still loves me. I am empty and so lost and don't know which way to go'

Comment by Marla on February 27, 2014 at 2:13am

So sorry for your loss Kary , my heart goes out to you! Know that you are with people that care! Hugs!

Comment by kary maples on February 23, 2014 at 9:22am

My husband of 30 yrs was fine one day he got and infection and died within 11 hrs that was Jan 17,2014 I miss him so much I just feel lost.

 

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