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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by dream moon JO B on March 14, 2014 at 4:53pm

me 2 connie 

it least on al grps u can speak of evry 1 we lots or add fotos or vidios on hear dont matr if u hav put wong cod in 

iv did lots of tms i hav

i juts wish we had all met in a btwr way thn ths i do lk a party or so on i do 

debra my dads nme wz alex but he had a habit of sayng o or a or i it evry he saed he had me dond it i still do it o u cud say

Comment by Connie K on March 14, 2014 at 3:52pm

Wishing everyone here some peace today.

Comment by Connie K on March 14, 2014 at 3:52pm

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on March 14, 2014 at 3:28pm

Danny,

As long as you are trying, you can't ask more of yourself at this moment.

Comment by Danny on March 14, 2014 at 3:15pm

Its been 9 months and still sudden is very hard for me. I am trying every day to do things.

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on March 14, 2014 at 1:49pm

Welcome Patricia and Danielle,

This group and therapy has helped me a lot.  I lost my father suddenly Sept of 2012.  I also do things to honor and remember him.  Currently I am raising money for MDA Rife for Life 27 in his memory because he participated with this charity for 20+ years. 

My best advice is do what feels right for you, even if it seems strange.  My father's name was Kermit and he had the nickname "Frog".  I bought small statues of colored frogs to represent my siblings, husband and nephews and placed them on Dad's headstone base.  This way we are always with him.  I even found a frog on a motorcycle to represent Dad.  I have a picture of Dad in a key chain that is always in my Jeep so he goes everywhere with me. 

Sorry, I got to rambling there.  Prayers to you both and take care.

Comment by Danielle McEwe on March 14, 2014 at 1:37pm

Thank you Patricia and Connie. Every day it gets a little easier and a little harder at the same time. So many conflicting emotions, but the comfort that I receive from other peoples comments and stories keep me going. Love and prayers to you both!

Comment by Patricia Lyn Hansen on March 14, 2014 at 12:43pm

Thank you Connie K. I am hoping to find comfort here just hearing other people's stories and words of courage/strength. It has only been 12 weeks and I know it is a long road ahead with many highs and lows.  Sending love and prayers right back, and to Danielle too.

Comment by Connie K on March 14, 2014 at 12:32pm

Welcome Patricia and Danielle - I hope you can find some support and comfort here. A sudden loss is so hard. The shock seems so unreal yet all encompassing. I am so sorry for the loss of your sisters. Each day is it's own journey and we have to take them one at a time. Sending you love and prayers.

Comment by Patricia Lyn Hansen on March 14, 2014 at 11:41am

I am a new member, and hoping to find some comfort here. I lost my sister on Dec. 20, 2013. She was my best friend all through life. She was only 62, and not ill -- she died suddenly of what they think was a blod clot in her lung leading to a heart attack. I miss her so much.

I have gone to a grief counselor and read many books, and prayed and prayed for strength. The pain is less frequent, but still comes and I cry and cry. I just can't believe I won't see her on earth again. As the spring flowers start their growth, and the sun shines a little more frequently I thought it would get better. But I miss her even more.

 

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