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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Dania on July 7, 2014 at 11:28am

It will be 11 months in two days.

Still feels like yesterday that my boyfriend got killed in a car accident on his way to my house.

A part of me died that day - still trying to be strong for my kids.

Comment by Melissa T on June 25, 2014 at 7:27pm

Lost my only child, my 15 year old daughter Kaitlin 5/20/08. I will always miss her, and there are still many a day 6 years later I wish I could join her, but it isn't constant anymore (although it has been for the last week) the pain seems to have softened but it will never go away, time doesn't seem to heal all, but it becomes more tolerable, and eventually the crying for me wasn't daily, and for the first few years it was. Good luck to us all in getting through our losses and trying to fit the pieces together when some of the most loved ones are missing.

Comment by anne on June 25, 2014 at 5:42pm

Dear Sharron, take your time. Losing a child is the hardest of all losses. The first time I tried hard to not feel anything. I ended up feeling it anyway, and it just made it harder to deal. Lynn is right you'll never get over it, but you do get through it. Our hearts are like a vessel, and when they get broken you can still pick up the pieces, but it always seems to leak. When my little boy died, my oldest boy would sing Garth Brooks song The Dance. He's gone now too, but I still keep those words in my head. Yes I could've missed the pain, but then I'd of had to miss The Dance. The dance I was blessed with having my sons will always break my heart because they are gone, but also I wouldn't trade not one day with either of them for anything in all the world. May you, and all of us be blessed with Love, Comfort, and Peace!

Comment by Lynn Boyd on June 24, 2014 at 12:24pm

My heart goes out to you Sharron....losses like this are hard to fathom and come to grips with.  It's been 5 months since I lost my beloved....and it still feels like it was yesterday.  I have been going to support groups, and I see a counselor my doctor recommended.  Go to the library and check out books, I especially recommend "I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye".  I hope these things can help you as they have helped me.  You will never "get over" the grief you feel right now, but you must take positive steps towards "getting through" it.  Namaste, and God Bless.

Comment by Sharronm55us on June 24, 2014 at 9:09am

I cannot comment much yet, can I just read for a while?  I lost my daughter, my babygirl is gone.  She was 36 and I am having a hard time functioning right now.  I will share more later, right now, I need to learn and read.  Thank you for allowing me in the site. 

Comment by Connie K on June 18, 2014 at 1:40pm

It's been 18 months and I can not get that stupid "accident" out of my mind. The suddenness of it. I try to change my thoughts like they say but damn it, sometimes I can't. To think of your head hitting that steel pole with such violence I can hardly endure it. I am only grateful that you didn't suffer. How could that driver be so stupid? Why did you have to go? Why? And how am I ever going to accept it? I keep thinking that you should have come home that night. You were supposed to come home. But instead the coroner came. And I knew they were coming because I couldn't find you and you always replied to us. I had heard of the car wreck on facebook by the driver's cocky, stupid brother and was frantically trying to find out what happened and where you were!! It was hours before they came. I love you and miss you my sweet boy so so much and wish I could hold you once more.

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on June 16, 2014 at 1:42pm

Lynn I am very sorry for your loss.  I hope we are able to help you here.  I find it helpful to share my feelings.  I can only imagine the loss of a partner. Take care and my thoughts and prayers.

Comment by dream moon JO B on June 15, 2014 at 4:37pm

so sorry for yore loss lynn or any new 1s its joinds ths sad way of meating peple on hear coz of death 

its not fair 2 lose evry 1 we love or so on 

Comment by Lynn Boyd on June 15, 2014 at 11:11am

Thank you Wander....I am sorry for your loss, too.  It's a terrible thing to lose someone who was so close.  I have been attending a grief support group and a newly-formed widows support group.  It helps me get through the week, but nothing helps the emptiness at home.  My kids are far away in other states, we had just moved to this town and I know no one.  I am truly alone.  It's downright scary at times.

Comment by Wander on June 15, 2014 at 9:28am

I'm so sorry, Lynn. My sweet husband celebrated his 40th birthday and died three days later-- a pulmonary embolism, like lightning out of a clear blue sky. I could have written your second paragraph-- I feel exactly the same. I want to die too. There's nothing here for my without him. My life is over; this existence is just... torture. :(

 

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