Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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How do i go on without him? 6 Replies

The love of my life passed away suddenly 2 weeks ago on the 6th. Funeral was the 20th, and as of yet, autopsy proved inconclusive. He had a night out with a friend, and as far as we`ve been told,…Continue

Started by Vee. Last reply by Vee yesterday.

No getting over it 3 Replies

We sold up, left the UK and started a new life in a foreign country, We had 10 happy years here, I used to smile every day at our luck... he was due to fly to Russia for work on the Thursday, it was…Continue

Started by bernice. Last reply by Lynn Boyd Oct 2.

Going through the motions 7 Replies

Today it has been 4 weeks since I got that awful telephone call and my world changed forever.  I feel kind of numb.  Like I'm going through the motions of life but just in a daze.  I cried the day it…Continue

Started by Cyndii. Last reply by bernice Sep 30.

so alone 1 Reply

I lost my husband of 33years last year, I have been with him 40yrs, since I'm 16yrs old, we have 3 children and I am expecting my first gran child in 3 months, it is so bitter sweet as he would have…Continue

Started by vinnie perez. Last reply by Wander Sep 2.

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Comment by Holly on Tuesday
I lost my second mom a little over a month ago. She had a sudden brain aneurysm. She was my friend, supporter, comforter, mother figure to me for over 13 years. Her death still feels like it happened yesterday. I will never forget that phone call from her best friend. I feel like I lost my mom. My real mom is still alive, but has never been able to provide emotional support to me. This is a huge loss.
Comment by Silva Delphine Reynell on Sunday

Anyone have any experience with loosing a boyfriend/partner? My boyfriend passed a week ago, totally unexpected after he made a stupid mistake, he was 24 years old. Absolutley devestated and heart broken. The warmest, nicest most genuine pure sou iv'e ever met. What the F to do!!

Comment by Jayne on October 18, 2014 at 12:05am

my ,mom, passed away 8 months she suffered from pancreatic cancer

I am devastated. she was and will always be my bff.

Comment by Wander on October 9, 2014 at 5:38pm

Today is six months since my beloved husband left us. I can't bear this any longer. I'm struggling to hang on for my kids, who clearly need me to be here-- but I need him!! I can't do it, I just can't. I pray constantly for release from this horrible pain. I manage to get through most days, keeping my mask of "okay-ness" in place, but inside I'm endlessly screaming in agony. I hate this. It's not my life. It's not.

Comment by Bern on October 8, 2014 at 11:46pm

The non stop self destruction and the non stop drinking will numb the pain. I blame God too. I ask why Me? I get not answers. I will continue to try to keep my head clear for my Only Son.The tears just tear me apart when I am alone, the grief is after me like a thief in the night.

Comment by JO B alexio on October 7, 2014 at 4:00pm

so sorry kay my dad died 2012 so srry i am

i got ths pic off antr site i did

i wish my dad wz stil hear i wish evry 1 we lost wz still hear so we wud not hav ths horbl grief pain

Comment by Kay on October 3, 2014 at 4:55am
  • I lost my Dad because of a choking accident

  • It's still unbelievable to me at this point. He was taken to the hospital and was n ICU for 8 days. They ended up doing a blood flow test and declared him brain dead. It still haunts me as to whether I should have taken him off of life support.

Comment by Danny on September 15, 2014 at 2:43pm

Yes in a sense we are alone on this journey but we have ourselves, our loved one is watching us and with us spiritually and emotionally.  Remember these two bonds can't be taken away from us.  Support to all

Comment by Zell on September 15, 2014 at 7:17am

Hi Rachel,

I know it really doesn't help much not to have someone close physically, but just want to let you know that you are still on my daily prayer list and my mom is praying for you too.  We pray that God will send someone to you who will be there for you. xxx

Comment by Rachel on September 15, 2014 at 3:25am
Will I ever sleep again? Tuesday the 16th will be 3 months since I lost my beautiful girl. And yets it feels like it has been so much longer. The days and nights just drag on. Every day that passes I just miss her so much more. The hole just gets bigger.

I'm still feeling disappointed about my first grief support group meeting called “Compassionate Friends”. I was looking forward to meeting other people like me. And much to my disbelief I was the only one who showed up that night, other than the group leader. I did share with her. I felt as though it was an affirmation to me that I was in fact in this journey “ALONE”.
Oh Lord, please send me someone to lean on, a good friend.

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"connie i saw u posted 2 block a person its postng digustng stuff on hear thnx 2 u i bloket him it hapend 2 me on anther sitee it did its why i set all my profles 2 privet on evry site i go on  iv reported him i hav i thng most of ths website…"
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