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Traumatic, Sudden Loss
I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.
My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.
I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.
My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.
I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.
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I just have a simple question...Is a headstone proof of how much a person was loved?Continue
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Hi i lost my dad just over 2 months ago now and its harder and harder everyday for me to cope. He was run over by a car on his way to my house and just a house over is where he was found i cant get…Continue
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hi i am 16 and i tragically lost my step father the night of july 1-aka july 2 2015 but it was at 2:51 am. i had gotten home that night from being with my friends and i went to bed and i was awaken…Continue
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Comment by Theresa on Sunday -
It just gets "softer" he will always be in your heart.
I think about my mom every single day and its been 1 1/2 yrs
I call it my new life
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Comment by Melissa Malone on Sunday
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Lost my husband April 30th. I was supposed to go first as I had 2 hospital stays in less than 2 months. Wade found me unresponsive and I ended up on a ventilator in ICU. Wade has almost never been sick. I find him unresponsive and he basically died in route to hospital. I miss him terribly. I feel that my heart is broken and my soul shattered. I can't sleep or eat. I've lost 20 lbs since he passed. Does this pass at some point?
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Comment by A. Buyten on May 16, 2017 at 6:48pm
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Thank you Jackie!
Good words! Dance! I have been refreshed from my girlfriends sudden passing of 4+ years ago. By the love of my now girlfriend that I have known for 10 years. It is good I am able to carry on. I have never stopped loving my girl that passed. I still cry, I miss her, and feel incomplete in a way. But it has subsided and that is good in the way of feeling less anxiety, so that is easier for me to live a fuller life day to day. So like you said "Dance" and dance when you can. Smiles!
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Comment by nicole rae on May 16, 2017 at 2:23pm -
in my suicide support group its called "getting used to the new normal" its taking one day at a time. concentrating on one moment at a time is all we can do.
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Comment by Theresa on May 13, 2017 at 12:15pm
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Thank you Jackie, I will be thinking of you and everyone tomorrow.
Take care
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Comment by Jackie cooke on May 13, 2017 at 8:38am -
Sending you love Theresa, I'm having such a bad day I have cried all day. Some of my tears are for everyone else on here to. Know I'm sharing your pain xx
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Comment by Theresa on May 13, 2017 at 7:56am
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Tomorrow is Mother's Day it will be my second mom about my mom just as hard as the first one
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Comment by Jackie cooke on May 7, 2017 at 1:45pm
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If I Begin to Dance Again
If I begin to dance
does it mean I am too alive?
If I sing again
Does it mean I have forgotten you are gone?
If I laugh out loud
does it mean I have forgotten
You are forever silent?
If a day goes by
without a tear
is your memory fading?
If your name
is not spoken
does it mean you never were?
If my heart is light for an instant
does it mean I mourn you less?
And If I should get through a day
without the image of your last moments
does it mean I forget your suffering?
If you are dead
can I believe and live
and ever be the same again?
And if I am never to be the same again...
will it mean
that you have left me with the gift of
being more not less because of you?
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Comment by Jackie cooke on May 6, 2017 at 4:28pm
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Thanks Anne x
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Comment by AnneJ on May 6, 2017 at 3:45pm
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Jackie, every word made sense. AnneJ.
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