Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Not sure how to begin as I haven't really talked about this much so pardon me if I just start...My little sister was murdered ( rather brutally) two years ago...since then I have been fighting with a…Continue

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Comment by JO B alexio on July 14, 2015 at 4:10pm

i no way u feal sharon  sisne dad died in 2012 cry ters non stopp u cud say thn so mush loss 

bdays is evn hrdr wen thy hav gon yore thrs so on  cud say 

xmas bdays dth avrys so on i wish i cud be me agin bt i thngs shess gon i mt lk lk old me bt im not her u cud say 

sorrry if im speln runsbhhh so on u cud say

Comment by Sharon Robertson on July 14, 2015 at 5:31am

Tears just keep on coming and sometimes I don't even know I'm crying till I feel tears on my face.

Pain ......grief..... disbelief...... shock, I cry in groans so long that it hurts, only to take a quick breath to just groan some more.

Tired... so very worn out so sick of feeling tired,  my bed feels the safest place to be.

This journey I am on is soooooo hard to walk

it's been 7 years now, and still I find myself feeling spaced out when special events are drawing near.

I don't find life very interesting now .... I just walk life not live it.

My daughters birthday is coming up on the 22nd July she would have been 24yrs old.... and as it draws nearer I just want to lie on my bed and forget life for awhile.

Do you feel the same or is this just my experience ?

Comment by Steve Suehiro on July 2, 2015 at 1:01pm

Erin,  I am sorry to hear this.  When I came home and found my wife I saw immediately that she was gone - I am a funeral director after all and it would have been obvious to anyone.  911 still had me pull her off the bed and start chest compressions.  I can remember crying and doing the compressions even though I knew that it was hopeless since it appeared she had died likely a short time after I had left for work that morning.   I too feel quite helpless since there is absolutely nothing I can do to bring her back.

Dave,  loss of a soulmate is devastating whether you were together only 3 months, 3 years, or 30.  Don't listen to people telling you unhelpful crap like that.  They may mean well, but they don't really understand how any of us feel. 

Comment by Richard Barns on July 2, 2015 at 12:37pm

I lost my boyfriend 5 weeks ago suddenly. Funeral only 10 days ago, and people telling me I shouldn't be grieving as we was only together 3 months, well he was taken from me too soon, but we had a great relationship even if only 3 months but doesn't make the pain any less, I miss my Dave so much. I just wanna be with him. Dave was 40 and I'm 41. Xxxxxxxxxxxxx Miss my number one Geezer so so much.My Dave

Comment by Erin on July 1, 2015 at 9:20pm

To Janet Hunter

I lost my boyfriend of 9 years almost the same way. He died on May 20 in bed. He started choking or couldn't breathe. I knew he died then. I saw him exhale his last breath. When the paramedics got there just like you stilled hoped that I was wrong and maybe they could save him. Now is gone and I need him back in my life. I miss him more than any words can express. When they told me he was gone they said his heart was as big as a basketball. I feel defeated because there is nothing I can do to bring him back. I will never be the same person. I will always carry this sorrow in whatever is left of my shattered heart.

Comment by Lisa Y on July 1, 2015 at 2:12pm

I'm sorry Janet, I lost my husband to a heart attack 6 weeks ago.  He was my world too.  We didn't have any kids together.  Just us and our dog. 

Comment by Janet Hunter on July 1, 2015 at 2:07pm

I am new to this site.  I lost my husband Wil, 11 weeks ago.  Massive coronary in our bed.  I don't know how to carry on.  My world is gone.

Comment by Gabrielle on June 21, 2015 at 3:20am
Today is Fathers Day and I am fortunate that my Dad is still here. However today I will see a broken man; mourning the death of his youngest daughter (my sister) 4 months ago. My heart goes out to everyone for whom Fathers Day is forever changed xx
Comment by Felicia Evans on June 20, 2015 at 7:43pm
Thank you JO B Alexis. I'm so sorry for your loss too.
Comment by JO B alexio on June 20, 2015 at 4:12pm

so sorrry felcia 

my dad died in 2012 nw 2 moreo t fathrs day all i cn do is let ballons off 4 him i cn


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