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Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue
Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31.
Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family. I…Continue
Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.
Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue
Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.
Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue
Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend
Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.
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i no iv not potstd on hear for bit but int min evry thng is os so sosos so
tramtik for evry 1 it mon
it is
cov 19 is so evil stersvilf or a lot of us iv had frinds famly its beat it thn frinds its died of it
evn not sae gud by coz of cov 19
i no cov 19 has efec my metl helt welbean nt just me
Tomorrow would have been my honorary little brother Rick's 30th birthday. It's going to be a very difficult day for me. However, I will honor his memory by going to a local bar with some friends and toasting his life. I'd love to be in Boston for his birthday, but that is not financially possible. So, I'll celebrate with my friends down here in Ft. Lauderdale.
We lost our only child six months ago, she was 22 when she was killed through no fault of her own in a crash. Someone lost control of his car and went head on into her. She died instantly thank god. Has anyone else experienced the sudden loss of an only child? Its getting harder as the realisation is sinking in.
Thanks Stewart. I know I couldn't have known she was gonna die. Nobody did. I try to tell myself that on my bad days. But grief is a funny thing. We know that our thoughts are irrational and doesnt' make sense, but we can't help feeling that way. The what ifs wont change anything,. as much as I wish it did. Maybe I couldn't have saved her, maybe she would've died a day or a week later. Who knows.. but that thought will always be in the back of my mind... Even if I had her for only a month more, it would've been worth it... Thank you for what you said, it kinda put things in perspective a little bit. I try to tell myself everyday it isn't my fault. Hopefully, one day I'll even believe it.
Crystal, sorry to hear about you mum. I can say from my own experience, would of, should of, could of is not worth the time and energy it takes to ponder. Just ask yourself if what you did or think you didn't do you then, did you do any of it with the intention to harm or hurt her? Someone said to me once I did the best I knew how at the time and it isnt fair to myself to go back and 2nd guess myself now because what I know now I didn't know then. And secondly, even if you had anything different and maybe had bought some time, there is now way you will ever know what might have happened the next day, or the next. Somehow we we want to believe we have control over life and death and we don't. Im sorry if this sounds a little blunt but I know first hand I beat myself up for a long time with those thoughts and at the end of the day the truth is there is no way I know had I done anything different that something else wouldn't have taken her the next hour or day.
Lost my mom suddenly three months ago. She had kidney failure but was hospitalized for a foot infection and found out she had end stage heart failure and died from it within a week. I feel angry at everything and everyone. I blame myself for her death. Was her caregiver but didn't do a great job of it. Wholeheartedly believe she would still be here if I had taken her to the hospital sooner. Life fees empty. I don't enjoy things anymore. I'm angry at my family. at myself. Don't know how I can go on.
me 2 bean hear 5 yrs
so mush loss sisne 2012 im so not me i am not
2017 im so even mor mest up coz of bad thngs haping i am
Nearly 5 years coming up and not much new to say. Use to post on here a lot the first couple of years, notice a lot of new faces, Id say welcome but this isn't the sort of place you want to come to, more out of quiet desperation or need. This is the "new normal" and it does not seem to get better, change or go away with time, I just get more acquainted with it, it becomes a more familiar face to have around each day. I think one just gets use to it and learns to live with it's constant companionship of that loss of love we once knew. I have to admit I feel somewhat cheated, sudden unexpected losses leave no room to make amends and such which continue to haunt my life everyday. Then I came across this poetic verse and oh the pain of what we could of should of would of reminds me of who I am and who I am not.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMVrViMFeuc
Be sure to follow the lyrics
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