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Traumatic, Sudden Loss
I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.
My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.
I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.
My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.
I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.
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Comment by Ashley 18 hours ago -
I lost my 3 month old son. He was my only son. He died in his crib. I found him in the crib, and that sight will haunt me forever. So I try to think of all the moments that were good with him. I always sang to my kids, and still do. Singing to him always seemed to calm him down. Its been a year since his death. So hearing the songs that I would sing to him, hits me hard. It was hard trying to explain to my oldest daughter who was 5 at the time what happened to her baby brother. She always asked. But I think she understands alittle now. She draws pictures of the family and her baby brother in the sky.
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Comment by Tiffany 18 hours ago -
It's been a little over 90 days sometimes I still cry as if it just happen I wish I could have a redo I surely would've held on tighter and kissed you longer I love you this is for you https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9iywT6mODUE
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Comment by Karen T. yesterday
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Karla,
I lost my husband of 14.5 years this past October and I am still i the denial stage. Don't beat yourself up for still being in denial because you were/are at a distance- being physically closer to the location doesn't necessarily help. Look how physicially close with my husband I was and I honsestly still answer questions like he was still here- ex: last night my son said he was going to set the alarm clock but it looked like someone already did and my immediate response was "son, maybe daddy did it before going to bed." That response just came out almost automatically and felt so natural. But only you can know what may or may not work for you. Good luck and I'll be praying for you.
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Comment by Karla Reid on Wednesday
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My best friend of 39 years died suddenly this past June...she lived in another province so her funeral was there (we had a memorial for her in her hometown) and her kids and husband live away. I feel so removed and in denial because of the distance...would visiting her home make it feel more real to me? I am not in the acceptance stage yet...
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Comment by Karen T. on Wednesday
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I also today mailed out a copy of my husband's obituary and funeral card to the parents of one of his old friends. When we first meet he had a couple of really good friends they were the definition of blood brothers. Then somethings happened that got between them and as much as my husband loved them and wished to have them back in his life - they were now seperated. The parents weren't in the middle of the issues so they still would speak with us when running into each other but not free-willed at their house like use to be. But something just told me that they didn't know what happened and they deserved to so I needed to mail these to the parents which was the only contact I had at my disposal.
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Comment by Karen T. on Wednesday
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Sandy,
Thanks. Yeah- the first day I feel I can actually get up and do something productive I fall and bust my a! Thankfully nothing broken so it was just muscle which as many know can feel even worse- but getting better. My son just seems to be getting angrier and angrier. There are times he's his old self- but then he just starts acting out- there are times I feel like he hates me (I do know better but that is such a horrible feeling). I got a book the other day I am starting to read about the "wild child and puberty" and got him a book about dealing with grief which I pray he actually reads. So, as of now life pretty much stinks.
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Comment by Felicia Evans on Tuesday
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I'm sorry for everyone's loss. I pray we all find a way to come through this...not sure how but I hope.
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Comment by Sandy Hendrix on Tuesday
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Hey Karen T., so sorry never saw the post that you fell, I'm so sorry...that SUCKS! Hope you are feeling a little better. I think if you need the meds to feel better then that is all that matters. How is your son doing now?
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Comment by Felicia Evans on Tuesday
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I'm so sad...missing my nephew. Was with his daughter, my great niece. She reminds me of her dad. It's hard to accept he's gone but he is and my heart is broken in two.
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Comment by JO B alexio on Sunday -
cry me a river link http://vimeo.com/96822173 cry me a river embed
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