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Numbness and Anger
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For the last three weeks I have been unable to feel anything but anger and numbness. I feel like I am slowly dying inside. Everything annoys me. I don't want to be around friends or family. I have…Continue
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"Thank you Bluebird. I appreciate your support more than you know."
"Try not to worry about what other people think of you. The death of a spouse/partner is one of the worst things that can happen to a person, and you are not required to act normally or explain anything to anyone. Just try to take care of yourself.…"
"Absolutely, I try to look normal or whatever that is but I think people can see right thru me. I don't want to have to explain anything for fear I meltdown."
"I totally get it. I'm ten years on, and all that STILL happens to me sometimes.
I live in the northeastern US. About one month after my husband died, Hurricane Sandy hit us, so pretty much everyone was in crisis. Then for weeks afterwards…"
"Hi Bluebird,
I'm glad you told me this because I think I am suppose to be a lot stronger than this. Nothing makes sense and I walk around like a functioning zombie and then out of nowhere, I have a meltdown and then I am angry with the world.…"
"Sharron,
You're definitely not crazy. The triggers, the meltdowns, the wild emotions -- it's all par for this fucking horrible course, for so many of us."
"Hi Speed,
Thank you for replying. I have a therapist. She listens and says I am emotionally grieving. Apparently there are two types emotional and physical. She says I emotionally attach to him because I am independent and did not need to be taken…"
"Sharron, how did the therapist visits go? I also went to several...actually tried to get them to declare me as crazy. They wouldn't...just hurting. I can relate somewhat to your loss and emotions being ALL over the place (do…"
"Absolutely! Of course you can post in this thread (or in my thread, or in any other thread) at any time; also feel free to send me a message via this site if you want to. {{{{hugs}}}}"
"Thank you. I have to thank you because it helps to talk to someone who understands. I am glad I can contact you because right now you are my life line. Yesterday was horrible. When I think I am handling this, I loose it, I get really angry and then…"
"No therapist would view you as crazy for feeling as you do. You might want to see one who specializes in grief, if neither of the two you already have set up do (if they don't work out for you).
Of course you're all over the…"
"I will be speaking to rwo next week. I just don't want to be view as crazy. Even thought I feel that way. I know I'm emotionally all over the place. Thank you for talking to me. Seems like it's hard to get help. Please don't…"
"All perfectly valid reactions in response to your fiancé's death, including the part about not feeling that you are you anymore (I feel that way, too). Hopefully participating on this website will help you a bit -- there are definitely…"
"Thank you bluebird,
It helps to know that I am not crazy. Things annoy me to the point I have to stay away from people. I don't want to talk to people in person. I just want to be alone. I don't feel that I am me anymore. I am someone…"
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- About my Loss:
- Fiancee' died from a horrific auto accident. He was in a coma for 9 days and then died. I stayed at the hospital with him. I have no rights to do anything because we were not married. I am angry and numb and lost.
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- At 8:12pm on September 17, 2022,
Lisa Maria DeMatto- Wysong said…
Sharon,
I am truly sorry for what you have been going through. The way his family is treating you is inexcusable, they should know what you meant to him and what he means to you. The lack of being acknowledged as his fiance is also traumatic. I have no advice for you, just know that you aren't alone there are people that will support you. Reach out to friends and other family members.
This site was very helpful for me, but it seems as if it isn't as busy as it once was. Maybe try one of the other groups.
I am here to listen if you want to vent.
My heart is aching for you.
Lisa
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"Hi Sharron; just checking in. I hope you're doing all right, considering."
"Same here."
"I can understand how that makes it even more difficult, having become a couple on that occasion.
I don't want to live without him, and I just don't feel that will ever change. So, it all seems so futile to go through this every day. "
"Thanks, Drewtoo. It sucks, and I'm sorry you are having to deal with it too. NYE is our anniversary (not our wedding anniversary, our "officially became a couple" anniversary), so it was always special to us. Since he died…"
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