"Well, the finality of it all has set in;recieved my hunni's ashes and death cert finally from Alaska.He's been gone 9 weeks. Im no longer angry,im moving towards finding a happy medium, didnt have the luxery of laying around in defeat,have…"
"They are as lost as we are. They don't know what to do or say. They mean well but don't realize the are being offensive. You can't move on until YOU are ready. I don't think the hurt or lose ever leaves us but it eases off as the…"
I never thought that I would be a widow in my forties. My friends can't relate and feel the need to comment on everything, even if they have no experience with grief. I know they mean well but only we know what we are going though.See More
"Hello everyone,I'm new to the group,am so sorry for everyone's loss. I am finding we all deal with things the best we can, there isn't a right or wrong way to grieve,it's all very personal. I lost my hunni 8 weeks ago tommorrow…"
I'm 42.raising a 3yo moving thru stages of this sudden loss,am doing fairly well all things considered, am a very strong person with a zest for life,I didn't curl into a ball of emotion,I picked myself up and am doing the best I can with moving forward
About my Loss:
My fiance lost his life due to suicide nearly 8 weeks ago.He apologized,said he loved me, grabbed the shotgun and ended everything in front of me and our toddler
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They are as lost as we are. They don't know what to do or say. They mean well but don't realize the are being offensive. You can't move on until YOU are ready. I don't think the hurt or lose ever leaves us but it eases off as the years go. You can't not let yourself be happy with the life you have left and your child needs someone in there life also.
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