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Lost Without My Mom

My mom died, August 17, 2009 of an apparent heart attack from heart failure. Her doctors never told me how sick she was and so I was blown away and am heart sick and lost without her.

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I just lost my mom on February 17th, Ash Wednesday.  I don't know if you could ever be "prepared" but it was kind of unexpected.  She was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer the 2nd week of September,…Continue

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Hi, I'm new around here. My mother passed away on Saturday February 6th, very suddenly and unexpectedly. We were in touch every day, via text, e-mail and phone calls, and we saw each other every…Continue

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I can relate to almost everything I read here.....I lost my Mom on 9/24/2017.  We lived together since 2008.  I became her primary care giver in 2011 after she broke her hip.  She developed Dementia…Continue

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Comment by Melissa Broome on December 20, 2011 at 6:10pm

The morning my mom passed I woke up! it was 6:30 I heard her calling me..but that is impossible my mother had not talked in days I got up walked in our living room where the women I loved so much lay for just a little over a month. She did not look like my mother anymore. It was time for her pain meds she was groaning in pain. I gave her the injection patted her arm she opened her eyes looked at me. I said mom it's ok now. that should help. I stayed in there till about 6:45 went back to bed. at 7 :15 my husband got up and went in there to check on her..he saw her take her last breath..He came back in the bedroom and told me my mom passed I couldn't believe it. I was just in there. I really believe she wanted to see me one last time before she slipped away. I'm kinda glad I didn't see her take her last breath. I don't think I would be able to handle it. She wasn't alone my younger brother was next to her and my husband. My younger brother didn't even know she had passed she went so peacefully. When I walked back into the room. The sun was shining upon her face. so relaxed. She was not in pain any longer. For that I'm thankful. I miss you momma!!! God I wish you were still here. Until we meet again. I will love you forever..

Comment by Sandra Nichols on December 20, 2011 at 5:03pm

Thank you mercy. I am trying to be thankful for having the time laughing and living with my mom. It sounds like your wonderful daughter is a perfect reason to keep on. I too wish I had spent more time with mom while she was so sick and in and out of dementia -  I never stayed with her long when she was kind of out of her mind. Somtimes I think we, who deeply loved our moms, are too hard on ourselves about spending time with them and wanting to turn back time. I'm thinking probably our moms were very happy with us while they could be happy.

Comment by mercy on December 20, 2011 at 1:47pm

Sandra; I hear you and your words are so full of pain. I'm so sorry for your pain and loss. You echo everything I'm feeling. I wish I had the chance to live with my mom, I mourn her loss and all the time I didn't spend with her......How I wish I could turn back time. I feel so lost, alone and sad. Everyday, I have to find a reason to go on. My only reason is my daughter......I have to be around to raise her....she's only two, she needs mommy. If I knew she would be totally ok, I would give up on this journey.

Comment by Sandra Nichols on December 20, 2011 at 6:30am

Rachel, my mom was my best friend, too. She lived with me for 8 years before dying from cancer treatment complications.I held her hand while we pulled plugs and she died within 10 minutes. I am sitting here crying instead of getting ready for work. I am alternating between total grief I can't stand and numbness. She died one week before Thanksgiving.

Comment by Ilana Rabone on November 28, 2011 at 8:26am

I know how you feel Melissa!  My mother was 63 when she passed away from ovarian cancer.  I wasn't there either when she passed away.  She was in the ICU recovering from an infection and by the time I went to see her on the day she passed, I was too late.  Its been a year and a half and I am still having trouble coming to terms with her death.  I was told by a counselor that this is because I had no closure.  I know in my heart that my mother would not have wanted me to see her die, but it still hurts!  I'm sorry about your mother's death!

Comment by Melissa Broome on November 12, 2011 at 4:20pm

I know how you all feel..We took my mom home when the docs told us there was no hope..we cared for her a little over a month..she declined so quickly. She raised my brothers and I alone my father wasn't in our life much. My mom was my best friend I too say I want my mom back alot..especially when I'm alone I have to stay strong in front of my young children. my mom was 53 when she passed and the morning she slipped away. I went into give her pain meds to her at 6:30 am I'm not sure what woke me..but I thought I heard her calling which is impossible she had not spoken in days. when I walked in she was groaning I told her it would be ok that I was gonna giver her shot. So I gave it too her patted her arm told her that would make it better stayed in there till about 7 am went back to bed my husband woke up at 7:15 went out to check on her and came right back and told me my mom passed I was like NO! I was just in there she was fine..but she had...Oh god do I wish I would have known she would slip away right then I would have told her I loved her.. I didn't want to go in there to see her but I did..I didn't get close I stayed by the wall like a little kid. I didn't know then how much not ever seeing her again would affect me. I had them come get her right away so the children wouldn't see her..I wish I had had the guts to go over and give her one last hug but I couldn't deal with seeing my mom lifeless it was just to hard..I miss her so much! I love you momma..I know she knew that...I'm thankful for the time we did have together the laughs we shared the tears..she will always be in my heart forever

Comment by Rachel Lynn Schuler on September 25, 2011 at 3:04pm
my mom weas my best friend too, i miss her so so much....she was everything to me....it hurts to think of her....wish she were still here with me
Comment by Janet Reed on August 8, 2011 at 3:40am

Well it just turned 7 months since mom passed.  I feel so lost and empty most of the time now.  She was so ill for the last year it does not seem right i get up and do not go over there.  Her house sold that was so difficult too, as the it was filled with my childhood memories.  It all does not seem fair.  I have even been experiencing physical depression and sickness.  This is a terrible time for me.  I Miss You MoM!

 

Comment by Laura Krause on August 7, 2011 at 10:15pm
Well its been three weeks since my mom died. And it hasnt gotten any easier. We did so many things together that theres some kind of painful reminder every day.
Comment by Sue Waxman on August 2, 2011 at 1:56pm

Hello Girls,

6 weeks yesterday that mom passed on to another world. Miss her..and yes she loved me flaws and all!!!! How blessed to be loved by such great women. I just go to work..get into my job..nights are so empty...I wish I could turn back time. Love you guys.

 

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