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Wendy (Boabie)'s Groups
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I want my Mom!
8 members
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dreams
29 members
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Coping with Terminal Ill…
7 members
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Orphaned Adults
71 members
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Lost Without My Mom
249 members
Wendy (Boabie)'s Page
Profile Information
- About Me:
- I am a wife, a mother of two, and a grandmother of three. I love Jesus, my family, hard work and making others happy!
- About my Loss:
- I lost my dad August 17th 2012. I also recently lost my mom on August 24th 2013. As an only child, I feel so much pain, as we were so close and her battle was an all too short one. My dad had cancer for a much longer period. In all, I have watched my grandma, mom and dad become ravaged and ultimately die from cancer. My mom was my best friend, my confidant and my biggest supporter. There is a piece of me that is missing now that my mom is gone. I am not even 50 and both my parents are gone!
- Are You a Service Provider? If Yes, please tell us about your service.
- Yes, I cared for my mom along with help from my young adult children. As I was her only child. I reduced my work hours from full time to part time and less to care for my mom, until she passed.
Groups
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Lost My Spouse...
364 members
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I miss my Mom!
729 members
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for loved ones who have …
57 members
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Signs from Our Loved Ones
32 members
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Losing Someone to Cancer
607 members
Latest Activity
"Happy Father's Day to my Husband Julian in Heaven. I miss you so much."
Joe Kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."I started to compose a blow by blow sequence of events of my loves illness and passing but it became too painful and couldn't continue. Here we share how we are feeling grieving our lost Loves. In reality, most of my underlying…"
"No matter how we express our thoughts, we are all in the same boat together. We just keep waiting for it to sink so we can join our loved ones."
"M Adams,
I totally understand; I detest being around happy families, and especially happy couples. It's not that I want anything bad to happen to them, I definitely do not. It's just that they have what my beloved and I should still have,…"
M Adams commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."usually I find your comments really clear, Linda, so I don’t think it’s not being good with words, more that it’s hard to express these things in words. Actually I couldn’t follow what Joe said either, but it’s…"
"Hello M Adams
Joe explained in his post of how I feel. I am not good with words on explaining things but Joe you said it perfectly. I just want to thank everyone here for sharing their thoughts, as we are all in the same boat together."
Joe Kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Speaking for myself, I identify with Linda. My Love left our world and I know it, and accept that she crossed over into another realm of existence and can't come back. I want her back and I live in HELL every day without her. …"
M Adams commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Linda, not sure what you mean here when you say you can accept the loss of your husband but not being able to change it is your whole problem — do you mean not being able to change the fact of the loss, or not being able to change the way it…"
"Hi Morgan,
Like you mentioned in your post, there is no normal in my life. I just take each day as it comes and just wait for death. I can accept that Julian is gone but not being able to change it is my whole problem."
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Hi Haven't been writing recently as have had so much to organize in my life I just haven't had a moment and when I do I am so tired. So grateful to everyone else who continues to write though. I look here daily to read.…"
mindy posted a status"Hello everyone I'm doing ok I went back to work and just had my meeting there today they said I'm doing an awesome job"
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"They told me that Mom had a heart attack. It happened on the weekend. I had made her breakfast & she seemed fine. I am thankful she was at home & that I was with her, but it hurts so much knowing she is gone. I just…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I was with my mom when she passed and it was not sudden. I may have thought I was prepared. I wasn't. I tried to say and do all of the right things. Still, after her last breath, it was as though I hadn't prepared at all. I knew what to…"
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thanks so much! It helps having others that understand. Some of my family is supportive & that helps. It helps just having someone listen that truly understands. I have one sibling, but he was never as close to my…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"It's important to have people in your life who understand, even if they are on a message board like this, because sometimes you have to look far and wide to find someone to walk with you.
Sometimes I will call my mom's sister. She will…"
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thank you, some days are better than others. I feel so for you. My Mom was the center of my world also. I lived with her & took care of her. I am so thankful that I could be there for her, but now I miss her so…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Three months is not very long. It is still very fresh for you. There will be a lot of triggers. Sometimes they will hit you out of the blue. Other times you know that one is coming, like if you have to drive by a familiar place. It's important…"
Patrick E Woodson posted a status"Hello everyone. I lost my best friend two weeks ago. I'm constantly crying feeling like I can't go on."
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I never cried much before, but I do now. I think crying does help. I had a trigger this morning & have been crying since. It has been over three months, but I still feel numb. "
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Hi Wendy,
I am part of a research team at Saint Louis University that is conducting a research project about how families communicate about making medical decisions for loved ones at the end-of-life.
I have read a bit about your story with your mom and dad and I'm interested in hearing more of your story. If this is something you would be comfortable with, please email me at cgibso10@slu.edu.
Thanks for the gift. However do not look at yourself as an orphan.
Boabie, good to be your friend.
Hello Boabie! Always glad to welcome a new friend!