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Wendy (Boabie)'s Groups
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I want my Mom!
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dreams
29 members
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Coping with Terminal Ill…
7 members
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Orphaned Adults
70 members
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Lost Without My Mom
249 members
Wendy (Boabie)'s Page
Profile Information
- About Me:
- I am a wife, a mother of two, and a grandmother of three. I love Jesus, my family, hard work and making others happy!
- About my Loss:
- I lost my dad August 17th 2012. I also recently lost my mom on August 24th 2013. As an only child, I feel so much pain, as we were so close and her battle was an all too short one. My dad had cancer for a much longer period. In all, I have watched my grandma, mom and dad become ravaged and ultimately die from cancer. My mom was my best friend, my confidant and my biggest supporter. There is a piece of me that is missing now that my mom is gone. I am not even 50 and both my parents are gone!
- Are You a Service Provider? If Yes, please tell us about your service.
- Yes, I cared for my mom along with help from my young adult children. As I was her only child. I reduced my work hours from full time to part time and less to care for my mom, until she passed.
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Groups
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I miss my Mom!
718 members
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Lost My Spouse...
353 members
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Losing Someone to Cancer
601 members
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Missing my Son or Daug…
438 members
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How to move on...
8 members
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for loved ones who have …
53 members
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The Pain of Loss And Har…
3 members
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Grief Counseling
116 members
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Lost Without My Mom
249 members
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daddy
1 member
Latest Activity
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell, it was nice to put a face to a name. I always have these pre conceived notions of what I think people will look like. With you, it's the name, I saw you as having blue hair and cat glasses. I was wrong on this one. "
BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"The blond women I was hugging afterwards was my sister.
Bluebell"
BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Avi,
I was really scared to get up there, but I am glad I did. Not everyone here has this type of Celebration of Life. But my sister's husband was very involved in the well being of his neighborhood and also loved a good get together at his…"
bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Thank you, Linda.
I want to be very clear -- I am in no way advocating suicide for anyone, I am just saying that if that is what I end up doing, I will not allow it to keep me from my husband."
Trina Mamoon commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"On the topic of suicide, there are two reasons that I have not contemplated taking my own life. One of them is that I cannot allow myself to leave my loved ones to deal with the trauma and heartbreak if I were to commit suicide. In my opinion, it…"
Trina Mamoon commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Dear Geraldine,
Very sorry to hear that you are having another anxiety-filled day. Lately, I am having more of the depression attacks, with more frequency and more intensity. This living hell is just unbearable! When will this all end?
Sending…"
monty thompson replied to monty thompson's discussion My wife passed 5 days before christmas in the group Lost My Spouse..."Hi All
I have noticed lately that i am having dreams with re-occuring theams.
my wife leaving (though some circumstance) and having greater responsibilities to look after others..
are other experiencing dreams with constant theam's ?
that…"
Geraldine Brown commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Another morning waking with anxiety that feels like it is choking me. Missing my husband with an ache inside that I cannot explain. If only cancer didn't exist or there was a cure, my beloved would still be here."
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Bluebird,
You have a very valid point, I agree with your comment."
Leian joined Amy's group
You're too young to be a widow
I never thought that I would be a widow in my forties. My friends can't relate and feel the need to comment on everything, even if they have no experience with grief. I know they mean well but only we know what we are going though.See More
bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."I don't agree -- if there is an afterlife, I WILL be with my husband there, no matter how I die. I will tear the afterlife apart to be with him, if that is what I have to do.
I don't believe in God, but if there is one, if it is a loving…"
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Joe,
I agree with you, my Lutheran religion has taught if I take my own life I will not join My Husband in heaven. The only way I go on is that we are not widowed, still married only he is in Heaven and I am in Hell. "
Trevy Thomas commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."My heart goes out to you all. Grief is the hardest pain in the world. A few things I saw in your comments made me want to share.
Vickie, grief is still new for you and the early part is impossibly hard. My husband died at 49…"
Geraldine Brown commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Oh Vickie lemoigne ecklund my heart breaks for you. There are no words that can take away the pain. "
Vickie lemoigne ecklund commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."I lost my husband 7 moths ago and he was my soul mate my everything. I am so lost without out him. I don't know what to do. All I do is cry. How long will I just want to die cuz I'm without out him. His b day is today he would have been 53…"
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Brett, amazing words. It helped me a lot. Bluebell, saw your video and felt amazing. It is great that you have such celebration of life. It is not very common in India. "
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"That is so hard to do. My mom would tell me that she wanted me to be happy after she was gone. I would say, "Mom, how happy would you be if I were the one who was dying?" She couldn't answer that question. Who knows? Maybe if I had…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"If we each go every detail of our lives with our mothers, each one of us will find ample reason to feel guilty. But what would be the point? None of us would be on this site if we didn't love and miss our mom's with all of our…"
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Hi Wendy,
I am part of a research team at Saint Louis University that is conducting a research project about how families communicate about making medical decisions for loved ones at the end-of-life.
I have read a bit about your story with your mom and dad and I'm interested in hearing more of your story. If this is something you would be comfortable with, please email me at cgibso10@slu.edu.
Thanks for the gift. However do not look at yourself as an orphan.
Boabie, good to be your friend.
Hello Boabie! Always glad to welcome a new friend!