Thanks for the message Mary. It's only been a little over a month since my mom passed away. I feel like I'm feeling worse as time goes on. We do have similar stories. I don't know what type of cancer my mom had. She had cancer in her lungs and they found small lesions in her brain. This all happened in a three week period. She was fine one day and then died three weeks later. I'm still trying to wrap my head around this. I feel as if this is a terrible dream that I will hopefully wake up from. Thanks again for your post!
thank you for taking some time to write me to you im am truely sorry for the loss of your mom i just hate that in order to get some attention round here you half to rant /rave/ in genaral being a bigg pain in the butt i'll remember about the time zones thank you joe
Im sorry Mary :( I know how you feel, it just washed over you sometimes, and you are right you cant control it, all you can do when it happens is put a positive thought in there , and let it pass, it really hasnt been that long for us, and I just think its going to take a lifetime, and it will just get easier in time to bear it. I wont use the word "get over" or anything like that, because we have all heard those things. I am walking around the house crying and then i am ok for an hour and then cry in the car, etc. I dont have the words other than to say, I know how you are feeling. There was a sign posted in grief class that goes something like this : The degree of grief you feel when someone passes is directly proportional to the level of love you felt for them, so in other words, when i knew my relationship with my mom was so, close , on some level I always knew one day I would have my "enormous" loss, and I do. I think you feel the same. Sent me a note and let me know how you are doing when you get a chance. Ruth is out of town but will be back on Sunday.
I am so sorry for your loss. The journey of caregiving is extremely difficult. The loss of our especially loved dear ones is unspeakable.
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