"Its been 2 years since I lost my mom and I sure hope the rut I am in is not my "new normal!" I'm not anything like my old self. I kind of miss that old me but don't know how to get her back or if it is even…"
"Its been so very long since I have been on here. My mom passed away in March of 2012. I just got through the second year anniversary but this year I had to get through it alone because I lost my only sister this past December and her…"
I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.Many of us have lost more than one person or event.Come share!See More
"I am so sorry to hear of you loss Kristin. Please don't blame yourself, as I know that no mom would want their child to feel they held any blame in their passing. There are always going to be those "woulda, coulda,…"
"Cynthia, I truly believe our moms can hear us and talk to us. My mom and I had agreed on a sign long before she passed away, after another near death experience she went through and I received the sign the day after she passed away. I…"
"Thanks for the message Mary. It's only been a little over a month since my mom passed away. I feel like I'm feeling worse as time goes on. We do have similar stories. I don't know what type of cancer my mom had. She had cancer in her…"
"Hi Elissa, I am so sorry for your loss. Mine was similar. My mom passed away March 2012. I was having lunch with her and my sister on Monday and on Thursday she was diagnosed with brain cancer and did not know our names and was…"
"Maybe it is just the day..I've not really broken down and cried for a while now, but I did today. I have my moms laptop and had to do an update and found a picture of her and I just broke down crying. It's been about 14 months…"
"Maddy, I can't speak for you, but I don't think there would be anything wrong or that you would be selfish if you just had a quiet day with your husband on Mothers Day and I really don't think anyone else would be upset if you did not…"
"A friend of a friend wrote this to her about grief she was going through and everyone kept acting like she should be "over" her grieving and I really liked it and decided to share here.
"There is no prescribed time to grieve, only…"
"Oh never fear you did not make your husband sound horrible :) Anger is normal. I personally took my anger out on God. I felt guilty being angry with God but everyone reassured me it was normal and ok and that he understood. I used to…"
"Hi Marie, my condolences to you. I lost my mom a little over a year ago-March 22,2012. It is totally normal to feel extreme sadness. I did fall into a depressed state and it affected my health and my psychological well being-I became…"
"Maddy, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom a little over a year ago. Although I was not pregnant, she was everything to me and the grief I experienced unbearable at times. It has only been 2 months and I honestly believe you…"
Thanks for the message Mary. It's only been a little over a month since my mom passed away. I feel like I'm feeling worse as time goes on. We do have similar stories. I don't know what type of cancer my mom had. She had cancer in her lungs and they found small lesions in her brain. This all happened in a three week period. She was fine one day and then died three weeks later. I'm still trying to wrap my head around this. I feel as if this is a terrible dream that I will hopefully wake up from. Thanks again for your post!
thank you for taking some time to write me to you im am truely sorry for the loss of your mom i just hate that in order to get some attention round here you half to rant /rave/ in genaral being a bigg pain in the butt i'll remember about the time zones thank you joe
Im sorry Mary :( I know how you feel, it just washed over you sometimes, and you are right you cant control it, all you can do when it happens is put a positive thought in there , and let it pass, it really hasnt been that long for us, and I just think its going to take a lifetime, and it will just get easier in time to bear it. I wont use the word "get over" or anything like that, because we have all heard those things. I am walking around the house crying and then i am ok for an hour and then cry in the car, etc. I dont have the words other than to say, I know how you are feeling. There was a sign posted in grief class that goes something like this : The degree of grief you feel when someone passes is directly proportional to the level of love you felt for them, so in other words, when i knew my relationship with my mom was so, close , on some level I always knew one day I would have my "enormous" loss, and I do. I think you feel the same. Sent me a note and let me know how you are doing when you get a chance. Ruth is out of town but will be back on Sunday.
"This website is like a secret world we inhabit where the platitudes and scorn for not fitting in are understood as hogwash. We know better than anyone on the outside of our grief how this has affected us. I am so tired of being labeled…"
"I,m grateful that I found this site. It's sort of like besides my family, you all are the only friends I have left. I do have a couple that are long distance, but don't get to see them very often. All my so called local…"
"Morgan & Joe,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You put into words the horror I go through everyday. Going on year 7 without my Husband Julian. He was my whole life and I want to be with him but I can't. If I didn't believe in God I…"
"Joe, 49 years is a long time. Long enough to embed yourself in each other and there is nothing that will soothe the tearing apart of that union. I knew my husband for 55 (since 2nd grade) and we were together for 35. Long…"
"Morgan, Monday will be a very tough day for both of us. It's one year for me which seems like one long day, and six for you, which scares the hell out of me thinking about how long do I have to be here before I go to her. It seems like one long…"
"Lets be honest. Death sucks. As I read the posts on here and I see how we struggle when we lose someone to death it boggles the mind how any of us keep moving. I keep saying to myself there is something I can do to make myself feel better and it…"
Emma is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
"I agree with all of that. I didn't expect a reward. My mom was reward enough, but I am not the same person that I once was. And I thought that some kind of balance would occur. I can't explain that really. It's been defeating. As soon…"
"After my husband’s death, and now after losing my mother, I also found myself somehow imagining that, not so much that something good would happen, more that some kind of reward would come to me, something to balance off the pain and…"
"There's something that has been on my mind lately and this is the best place to mention it. As much as I feared and dreaded my mom's death, I sort of felt like something good would happen, maybe not right away, but eventually. Like Karma…"
"I know how you feel. I lost my mom Jan 6, 2019 and it is so raw and all I do is cry. I was in the room when she passed and had been all day. My regret is I wasn't holding her hand when she took her last breath. She had dementia and I saw her 3…"
I am not a doctor but I am a student of the Bible. It seems that you are suffering from anxiety over your past. Humans including ourselves seem to filter the good things we have done and focus on the "bad". But God is the opposite.…"