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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Fran on February 18, 2015 at 6:37am

It really does help to have this site available, to share with others who KNOW what you're going thru. I love my friends and family but unless you have been thru the pain WE are going thru it's just sympathy, not empathy. Thank you all for your support! I hope that I can be as supportive of all of you. 

Comment by Shirley on February 17, 2015 at 9:25pm

Fran..Wanted to say hello tonight and tell you I know what you are going through. It is so hard when we lose a loved one and we are  pushed and pulled in different directions every day.  My husband passed the 29 of April 2014 and Cancer had consumed his body. I felt some kind of Blessing when he was called home.  The pain, confusion and Hospice care ceased and He found Peace and Comfort... We all grieve,but not every will grieve the same way. These threads are great for us to talk and help each other  as our days continue here on Earth. Please  keep posting and I will send a prayer for you if that is okay with you.

Comment by Shirley on February 17, 2015 at 9:04pm

Debbie.....Going to say hello and say I relate to your grief. My hubby passed the 29 of April 2014 and the one year anniversary is n the near future for me. Loved him so much but watched him fade from me and there was nothing I could do to help stop the Cancer that was consuming his body . At this time in my life I will say it was a Blessing that he was called HOME to Heaven and there is no more pain, confusion and distress for him.  Will pray that you and  your son will be Blessed and will be able to accept the  passing of your Husband and  his Dad. And being scared and lonely is normal process we all go through.  Be strong and there for your kids .

Comment by Shirley on February 17, 2015 at 8:55pm

James Quinn.......Just wanted to post tonight and say hello. I can relate to what your thoughts are on a daily basis.  Lost my hubby the 29 of April 2014, and the 1 year anniversary is moving toward me at a rapid speed.  It is so lonely when we lose our loved one, but we have to grieve and try our best to move  forward a little bit at a time. So glad that we have these threads so we can talk with each other  and know we are all going through the same process.  Will say a prayer for you and do so hope it gets easier for you .  Blessings sent to you.

Comment by James Quinn on February 17, 2015 at 8:50pm

Debbie i feel you are doing all the right things,and you are right you are not alone,I have been told it never goes away just softens with time.My heart goes out to you ,Being there for your your son's and letting the youngest have sleep overs i think will help him and you crying alone I think your husband is with in those times reaching out to you.Bless you Debbie

Comment by Debbie on February 17, 2015 at 8:38pm
Hello all as I read all of your sad stories about your loved ones,I know that I'm not alone in feeling the way I do. My husband past a little over 6 months and it is still not easy. He was only 48 and left behind 2 sons my youngest is 18 and cries every night. I comfort him and when he is calm I walk away and I break down. I don't know what to do. My oldest is in college and I think that is the best place for him. He is constantly busy with schoolwork and friends and I think that's a great thing, but I don't know what to do with my youngest. Every weekend. he asked me if his friends can sleep over and I say yes because I feel that would keep him busy don't know what else I'm doing. So loney and scared.
Comment by James Quinn on February 17, 2015 at 8:13pm

Sometimes the day seems so long,Here its summer the sun is shinning its warm  this the first summer without  her  and i feel so detached from it all , I know a lot of you know that feeling, I am so glad to have found this place full of lovely people who understand  , And thank you Katherine so much for a place to connect with others like myself 

Comment by Trina Mamoon on February 17, 2015 at 8:06pm

Dear Fran,

Your grief is still too raw. What I found out over the six months of my journey is that the pain goes up and down and the intensity also varies. But my husband is constantly in my thought; he is always next to me. We are facing one of the most devastating experiences that one can ever face, and the journey is uncharted. We try to grope through the dark and the emptiness and try to keep our sanity while doing it.

Hang in there and know that we are here for you.

Sending many good wishes your way. -- Trina

Comment by Fran on February 17, 2015 at 7:58pm

I never thought that I would respond to the death of my husband the way that I have. When I cry, I think he would be so sad to see that...when I get involved in everyday life and don't think about him for a few minutes, then I feel bad. Just can't win these days....

Comment by James Quinn on February 17, 2015 at 7:50pm

Thank you Trina What you say is the same thing Marita my darling would say i would not end my life myself  as it would cause too much pain to family  plus i would never dishonor my love by doing so i have thought about it but would never do it. Fran at the moment i take a small dose to help me sleep never in my wildest dreams would i think i would need them . I have alcohol at home but will not drink alone as i know it would make drag me down even more plus the thought of hurting family as well as my self stops me and i would never  do anything that would make my love disappointed  in me 

 

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