"Kevin, Just read your post and wanted to say hello and let you know that I can relate to what you are going through right now. When I was 30, we was happily married , we had children and we were a typical American family. …"
".....Richard. I read your post and want you to know there is hope for you if you only ask for it.......There is a program on face book that is called Widows Hope,, Google this web site and join up with them. There are men and women…"
"Richard....Thanks for responding to me.... I am still going to keep praying that GOD protects you and leads you out of the depression you are going through now.....Can comprehend the agony you are living with, but still believe we all have the…"
"Richard....Want you to know I can relate to you and how you are feeling. A little about me..okay. I was 31, had four kids, the youngest was a 15 month old daughter. My husband, their Dad, passed at the age of 38 with lung…"
"Richard, my heart goes out to you. Life is wonderful and we all have hurdles and problems that we have to endure on a daily basis. Going to ask you a question. Please do not be angry with me either. …"
"Richard....Do not know you but just read your post and going to ask GOD to touch you gently and bring you out of the depression you are in. Our CREATOR knows everything and still controls all of our lives. HE has made a…"
"Sorry I have not posted in awhile, but have been trying to take care of my older sister as she has several serious health issues.,, Lost my first husband when he was 38 and Lung Cancer took his life. Had small…"
"Susan P....Thanks for your reply and for your Blessings. Where I live they have these group meetings inside some of the Health Insurance buildings.. Know they have meetings at Cigna because have seen the group meeting…"
"Susan P...Have you thought about going to grief groups? When my hubby passed in April 2014, I started going to the group meetings at Hospice of the Valley and that helped a lot.... Everyone there have the same grief, hurt and pain you do…"
"Wanted to say hello to Susan Szoke....Can relate to your post and will say I am sorry for the loss of your hubby. Have gone through the same ordeal and can say that my God has brought me through safely. Yesterday was the 2nd year since my…"
"Want to say "Thanks" to Trina Mamoon for your wonderful comment. Also wanted to say my Faith has brought me this far and will continue being there for me always.Was raised in the Eastern Mountains of Kentucky and my Daddy…"
"Good evening everybody, Wanted to come on tonight and post a tribute to the husband I lost to Cancer on the 29th of April 2014. He first had cancer of the prostrate in 2000, had radiation treatments and seed implants, then Cancer started…"
"Going to say a few word regarding the message by Bill Smith prior to mine for Trina.Going to say I agree with a lot of the words in your post.When we lose our love one to death.we have to understand our life is still very much alive. We all could…"
"Would like to say a few words on behalf of the post by Trina Mamoon. Can relate to your experience with you Joseph. My hubby passed April 29 2014, at home, with Hospice of the Valley, my son and myself doing the care giving. He was hefty,…"
"Hello, Been a few since I last posted. Lost my hubby the 29 of April 2014. Next month will 2 years and it seems like it was last week It is terrible watching the guy you are married to go through the different stages of…"
My name is Shirley. Live in Peoria Arizona and still grieving the loss of my husband from Cancer, that was located in five different areas of his body. He passed the 29 of April 2014.
About my Loss:
It has been a slow procedure to get to the point I am today. Having taken care of him, with Hospice of the Valley, and watching him fade away in front of me was very stressful and hard to comprehend. Cancer is something the patient can not understand when the confusion , pain, and meds begin to start . He was trying so hard to be brave but a person can only take so much and they begin to leave us a little bit at a time. When he closed his eyes for the last time , he took half of my heart with him. Still love him and miss him like crazy, but do understand what God Plans I do not question. I do find Comfort and Peace in knowing the pain, confusion, and medications are no longer a part of him and he has found Peace in his new home in Heaven. One day we will meet again and never have to say good bye again. Hope everyone who have lost their loved one will find peace in knowing they are in a much better place than the one they were trapped here with at the end of their life on earth.
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Thank you Shirley for your prayers. It seems like we just get through each day. I remember when my husband was first diagnosed, Jan. 13, 2014; I think first I thought, this has to be wrong, and then the practical part of me thought ... how does a loving couple go through this? What are the rules, is it OK to cry and rant and scream in front of the person who is diagnosed with terminal cancer? But we did go through it. However, so much pain is in me right now, sometimes I feel like I have to explode with the sorrow for myself and my son, anger, fear of the future, loneliness, helplessness, sadness, you name it. I don't know anymore what I believe about God and the afterlife. I HOPE that my husband will be there waiting for me, but I'm only 58 years old. I am not going to say that I will never be happy. I have found many female friends that have been just amazingly supportive. I hope to still travel. I want to go back to volunteering as I was doing before my husband died. But when I just for a minute feel I'm doing something normal, suddenly it's like a kick in the stomach, my whole life has changed. I will never get to grow old with my wonderful husband. I felt in some ways that we were just getting to the best part of our lives together. We weren't constantly worried about money, we had a nice house, our son is grown and while he still lives with me, (I wanted to say us), he has his own life. I would never have wanted my husband to go on, and in fact was accepting of the fact that he only had a few weeks, if not days. As it turned out, it was days. The thing that haunts me is how terrible his manner of death was, and the pain that he endured to live through a year with such aggressive cancer. I can't help remembering my feelings of helplessness, and inadequacy to help him in his pain. All there was to help were more and more drugs. It's an unbelievable feeling that I would never want to have anyone experience. And now, I have to have these memories. It's hard to just hold it in and not want to tell people the nightmare of someone going through this kind of illness and death.
I wish you all the best, and hope you keep remembering all the wonderful things about your husband!
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I am very sorry for your loss.
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