Betsy Arnold
  • Female
  • Godfrey, IL
  • United States

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About Me:
I am 47 years old. I am a musician and songwriter and going to school to become a music therapist.
About my Loss:
I lost my 43 year old husband 2 years ago (October 31, 2009). Still having issues trying to let go and move forward with life.

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At 2:33pm on December 8, 2011, Laura Salefski said…
Hi Betsy, sorry it took me this long to respond. I am not sure where Gidfrey is, I guess I should Google it and find out. How have you been doing? It has been a little rough for me, and on top of it I fell and broke my wrist. I guess things can only get better after that. Maybe one day, since we live in the same general area we could meet. I would like that. Please keep me posted on how things are for you, I really do care.
At 12:29pm on December 6, 2011, Sue Waxman said…

Hi Betsy,

Thank you for caring about me and writing. Everyone I have gotten close with on this site are filled with such amazing love and support. I took care of my mother for many, many years. A lot of the time she was healthy...some of the time she was not. I am having a real hard time just creating a life that is great for just me. I work all of the time but have life outside of work. I attend a lot of work events. I got divorced 3 years ago after 20 years with a very controlling jerk. He left me for a younger version of myself. I lost everything. My home, our business. Went back to school for veterinary science and got my degree as a veterinary technician. I am the Director of the Spay/Neuter Program for Animal Rescue Coalition of Sarasota FL. I do love my work. I have not dated at all. I mean period since my divorce. My self esteem in the body image department is not real good. I don't feel I can ever trust anyone again. Loosing my marriage and now my mother has lead me down the path that I just don't want to risk going through the pain of loosing someone again. I have 3 sisters who are just really not nice people. So I just don't even go there. It is basically just me now. Love Sue

At 5:19pm on December 5, 2011, Melissa Broome said…


So very sorry for your loss..I lost my mother to cancer almost 8 months ago..its been a long tough journey for me. I also joined this site last month I really wish I had sooner..It's so great to find people that understand what I'm going through or what I've been through.

Hugs to you :)


At 9:55am on December 5, 2011, Sue Waxman said…

Dear Betsy,

I understand completely how you feel. I lost my mother June 26th, 2011 to cancer. We were VERY close. She raised me on her own. Moving forward is some days impossible because it means leaving them behind. Trying to live without them - emotionally heart wrenching. Put yourself into your work like I do. I work for a non profit animal rescue. My mother was always proud of me for being so compassionate. How did your husband die?

I will share a story with you. Sunday morning on my local news there was an elderly man and woman sitting on a tattered couch holding hands in their living room in front of the TV cameras. Their son was just brutally murdered at an ATM in my town. The murder caught. As they sat on their couch in their modest home...the man spoke but his elderly wife did not. What he said moved me. He said "We feel relief that the man who murdered our son has been arrested. But it will not bring our son back to us. Our son is gone and that is just the way it has to be". Here is a couple in their twilight with their lives forever changed by the actions of one horrible person. Their strength just took my heart by the strings. This morning over coffee I said to myself...Mom I guess you have moved on. It's not you or me that have to move's your husband and my mother who have moved on. Does that make any sense? Those of us left behind will move on when God makes that decision. Until then we have to be the best people we can be in the name of those who love us. Huggs Sue


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