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I'm missing my mom a lot this week. It's been two months and two days since she died. It still tears me up to even write those words. Mom knew me better than anyone and knew how to to always support me and lift me up. I am who I am because of her and how much she poured out her love. Some days I get busy doing things and then for a second I think to myself, call mom and tell her about your day. Then reality slaps me in the face again. This happens so many times during the course of the day. I'm dreading Mother's Day in a few weeks. I can't turn on the radio or tv without hearing commercials about not forgetting your mom on Mother's Day. I don't know how anyone could forget their mom anyway but its difficult hearing those and seeing the signs in stores right now. I'm trying to plan ahead with my sister some things to do on Mother's Day so we don't go through this first one aimlessly and a mess, although I think we will anyway. We plan to go to mom and dads and have a cookout with dad and my brother whose coming in from out of state. It will be a hard day for sure. My mom was my anchor. She gave me what I need to finish the days, weeks, months and years of my life and I know I will because I have too. I carry her with me everywhere I go. I miss her so much. Thank you all for listening and for sharing your own stories. They help me cope on days that hardest.
Joanna, Glad you were able to comment today and more glad that you found some comfort in your Mom's things. I always do.
I think I just go through my days trying to make time go by.
I am glad I found this site to see I am not alone.
Thank you Helen for your insight on wearing my moms clothes. Sometimes it helps me feel closer to Mom and others times it makes me painfully aware that her things and my memories are all I have left. I keep her spirit alive by talking to her throughout my day and knowing that I can feel her presence. If there is any way possible that she can look over me from Heaven, I know that she is because my Mom has done that her entire life for me and my siblings. I just miss her so much and it is such an empty feeling to not be able to call her the minute I think about her and want to. Such a huge void.
I just read my last comment...I didn't mean to write "won't wish' I meant to say I wish I had...sorry if I offended anyone...
Helen I won't wish there was words to send your way..You are the only one that lived your relationship with you mom. Too me there is good in everyone...I was raised to believe that God doesn't make junk. I have imbedded that in my grown children and my grandkids. As a person I know there are no perfect people, we are all flawed in some way...your mom in my opinion was counted here on Earth and most definitely in the afterlife...you are a product of your mom...because of your mom you are alive...and sharing your broken heart in my opinion is part of your mom's will...maybe without even realizing it she gave you the courage that you display here for all of us to see and read...since my mom passed I see the good in everything now...she gave me so much love that I give it freely now...I struggle with this because maybe I should have been doing this all along because my mom wanted us to...the hardest thought I live with now is that on my own alone without my mom I had no choice but to accept that it is my life to live and I must live it. I never had suicidal thoughts ever..I have had them since losing my mom..however temporary those thoughts are...I would never kill myself and at this point in my life it is due to the power of my mom's being on this Earth...she did good things even though I am sure she had regrets for somethings she may have done wrong..she told me so...I know that counseling would never help me..but reading your comments it may be actually helping you because you are so honest and open about your feelings. I believe in so much today...possibly because I need to believe my mom is somewhere so great that she wouldn't come back given a choice...it gets me through my day..in order for me to get through one day at a time I just look for the goodness in her even if she didn't have any goodness as my mom I think I would still look for it and only that. I feel so sad for all of us...I do wish I could give you comfort...you are probably the best thing your mom ever did...these are things I want for all of to feel and believe...
I like the idea of planting the White rose bush to give you a place to sit and talk with your mom.What a wonderful idea. My Mom was buried at a family cemetery so I do have a place to go and visit with her but its a bit of a distance from my house. I think I might borrow your idea and plant something this Spring in my yard as a memorial to my Mom. There is no easy way to get through our days without our Moms but I want to say thank you to everyone who shares their pain and grief and stories of your Moms. It helps me more than anything I've found so far because its a place where we all can bare our souls and our worst pain. It's something I can't put into words when I talk to friends and family about my Mom. I wear my Mom's jewelry to feel closer to her and she and I wore the same size in shirts so most of her clothes I now have and wear. It helps some to feel closer to her but nothing takes away the pain that sometimes hits me hard when I don't even see it coming. I want her back so bad. I want to have more memories with her but the ones I have are all I have. That is a hard reality to swallow.
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