"Brett, I am looking for the same light at the end of the tunnel. I feel the same way about my dog he is a Labrador and its so so difficult to see him limp or have a bad day, he takes meds, I just want him to be comfortable. I say to…"
"Brett yes as horrible as it is for us both our dogs have aged almost 5 years since our moms died I’m having a really hard time with it I’m thinking that I might need counseling my boy is going to be 13 he still gets around but I know…"
"Brenda. I am terribly anxious every day. I try to have faith in God to get me through whatever I am dealing with. I have a dog who is goi g to be 13 in April and all I do is worry about him. My last dog I had my mom to lean on and…"
"Brenda, I feel the same way about my mom we were very very close, she had me at 42 years old, my brother is 17 years older than me.
She was my everything, I still cry, I miss her so much, I just really have no one to lean on like her.
You were very…"
"Brenda. I miss her every day I leaned on my mother 100% she was my whole world and my everything I understand completely where you’re coming from it’s very hard. May I ask I didn’t read your story if you could tell me what…"
"Brenda. If I have to say losing my mother was the hardest thing in my life my dad passed away 20 years ago from cancer from asbestos but I knew that’s what was going to happen I had no idea that my mother was going to go into cardiac arrest…"
"Brett how awful!
Well I am not impressed with the group our church had, but what I did get from it was the idea to volunteer for one hour of my time at Adoration with the Blessed Sacrement.
Can I just tell you after I leave Adoration each Friday…"
"Sue I went to a grief support group at my church do you know what one guy said to me and he was a surgeon when I was telling my moms story he said well what did you want she was 92 how about that I never went back
He acted like I…"
"Brett I agree with you 100% the same exact thing occurred with me my friends my family for goodness sake half of my mothers family never even acknowledged her passing
I feel a special connection with you something has brought us to…"
Very sudden, Thursday mom said she felt constipated, Friday same to the dr, xray no obstruction, Saturday called dr he told her go to hospital, she called me I told her I would meet her there this was at 8:45am, as I was pulling in the hospital parking lot I got a call from them stating "your mother is in FULL CARDIAC ARREST" do you want us to do CPR.......that was it, I did not get there to say goodbye, I love you, nothing. We were very close I went there every Sunday, we talked at least ten times a day and every night before bed. There are no words to describe how I feel.....
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I am so sorry to hear you lost your mom but my heart breaks for you being unable to talk to her and say some final words. One thing I know for sure she loved you and felt your love for her. My mom and I have this kind of relationship. My husband and I are living in Ecuador as volunteer missionaries. The phone or faceTime is our constant friend. She always tells me how proud she is that we are serving and teaching the Bible to people who want to know the Bible.
I am glad to see you found this website and have made comments. Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2,18, 19;10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth:“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.” (quote from When Someone You Love Dies under the subtitle How Can I Live With My Grief? )
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I am truly sorry for your sudden and devastating loss. My mother and I were so very close as well..I feel; a lot for you...I too find this missing part-the biggest part of me, an unarticulatable force....
Theresa, I know how you feel about being sick or hurt the first time without your mother to call. I fell down on the sidewalk on the way into the hospital for routine check ups and ended up in ER for X Rays. My mother was the first person I thought to call. It really hurts. For me I am coming up on 5 years and can say for me I still feel a huge void in my life. Feeling sad.
Theresa, I hope things get better for you. Don't blame yourself for not seeing that something was wrong. I'm sure you would've done everything in your power to help your mom had you known. The love between you and your mom will last forever and that love will carry you through. I cry everyday too. I hate the anxiety and the loneliness and that my life has been turned upside down but I have to get through it somehow.