"Bluebell that was very touching.
I would be more at peace with my moms death if only I could have gotten to the hospital before she went in cardiac arrest, it was like someone turning the lights off, when they called me when I was pulling in the…"
"Sherri, I went to a berevement class at the church, three times and it was not for me, they were talking about circumstances, but nothing on a personal level. One man there who lost his 26 year old daughter to an illness was rude he is a ER…"
"Thanks you guys, Brett I know we are both anticipating the day that is coming, I want it to come and go, lets move on to next year and hope it will be better. I can say I am glad I found this site, because no one I have friends or family don't…"
"So nice Brett, wow today was bad I cried alot, this month is hard for me, but no one else sees it.
Im anxious all the time, my body hurts, my back aches and I think its from anxiety.
My situation is so different from everyone else, my heart goes out…"
"Since my mom died on 12/19/15 my tree was up I tore it down and was careless. But I thought about it.....my mom managed to decorate every single year even though her mom died on Christmas eve and my dad on 12/14, so I memory of her my dad and…"
"Bluebell such a lovely picture!!!!
Brett someone once said to me you think the first year is hard, the second is harder.
Should I say this is three Christmas's without my mom because she died on 12/19, like I said the first year I was in a fog…"
"I have to say what hit me the hardest was after my mom died I went back to her house I walked in and looked around and knew she would never be coming back there. She lived there for 60 years it to this day hits me hard when I think about it.
"Crystal it’s so heartbreaking you’re right today a girl brought her 96-year-old mom into the store where I work and I was like why couldnt that be my mom that should’ve been my mom but I thought well maybe not maybe it was her time…"
"Brett, I agree this life is not the end, God has prepared something even more beautiful for us.
Crystal, I have changed since my mom died, what you say describes me, I know she wouldn't want that, but that is how I feel.
I also didn't know…"
"Crystal it takes time you need to go through the emotions and when you feel like crying you cry, I do.
This is what I can say on 12/19 it will be 2 years, I still miss her with all my heart and I always talk to her, the pain in my heart is still…"
Very sudden, Thursday mom said she felt constipated, Friday same to the dr, xray no obstruction, Saturday called dr he told her go to hospital, she called me I told her I would meet her there this was at 8:45am, as I was pulling in the hospital parking lot I got a call from them stating "your mother is in FULL CARDIAC ARREST" do you want us to do CPR.......that was it, I did not get there to say goodbye, I love you, nothing. We were very close I went there every Sunday, we talked at least ten times a day and every night before bed. There are no words to describe how I feel.....
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Theresa, I hope things get better for you. Don't blame yourself for not seeing that something was wrong. I'm sure you would've done everything in your power to help your mom had you known. The love between you and your mom will last forever and that love will carry you through. I cry everyday too. I hate the anxiety and the loneliness and that my life has been turned upside down but I have to get through it somehow.
"Paul, Each of us have memories of a time and day of the death of our beloved. Mine just happened to come at a time of the year when normally the excesses of celebrating kick into high gear. Not better not worse than anyone else's…"
"My friend just lost her husband before Thanksgiving. I'm trying to reach out to her, because I know how she feels, but she does not seem to want to respond. She's keeping very busy! I feel bad for her, but I guess…"
"Hi Dawn, I saw your posts and wanted to introduce myself. I'm also in Canada, in Ontario. I lost my husband suddenly in 2015. He had cancer but had been given 3 to 5 years and was gone in 8 weeks. If you'd like to…"
As hard as it is for the rest of us to endure the upcoming holidays it must be at least doubly difficult for you given the circumstances your husband and you were dealt with.
To everyone here who has put up with this hell for multiple…"
"Paul, In particular this time of the year everyone who hasn't lost their love is celebrating. I used to be one of them. Then one day a long time ago, I took my sick husband to the hospital Xmas Eve day and found out the day after…"