"Hello Theresa its Lesley here my mum as brought me up all of my life I I didn't have a dad he left my mum to bring me up its so heart breaking for me my mum as always told me I have to live my life now thats what im trying to do I know it will…"
"No you do not need a push, in time you will carry on.
Life will go on and you will adjust to the new one, but at your own pace.
I think about my mom every single day and night and its been 1 1/2 yrs., she was my everything and I miss her every…"
I guess I'm doing the best I can I'm trying to not make every moment one that I think about what should've been what I could've done I'm just trying to go forward I guess
when I start to get really upset I say this…"
"Bluebell I feel the same way my dad had cancer from asbestos, they told us he would only live for 6-12 months after his diagnosis, I did not want him to suffer. He passed on December 14, 17 years ago.
I accepted it because I knew he was…"
"Bluebell, my moms birthday is also coming up it will be the second one without her, last year when the day came I just kept busy, went to the cemmetary and before I knew it the day passed.
Everynight I wake up in the middle of the night and she is…"
thank you so much for caring I have been working a lot we are very short staffed so it's been taking up a lot of my time and when I get home at night I'm so tired I don't even check my emails
how are you making out"
"Bluebell do you know how many times in a day I say mom I wish you were here I need you or say mom do believe that if something happened it's hard very hard I also try to distract myself with work when I'm there and busy I'm OK when I…"
"Bluebell, how long is it now?
Take your time, I went in my garage last night and looked over in a box that i have some of my moms stuff and there was her cooking pot that she used to use to make us stew on Sundays, I broke down in tears horribly.
"Bluebell, next month will be 1 1/2 years...saying years seems not right.
Can I tell you that I believe she is seeing more beautiful things now than she ever did...
I guess my life is now different and will be until it is my time to leave the earth,…"
Very sudden, Thursday mom said she felt constipated, Friday same to the dr, xray no obstruction, Saturday called dr he told her go to hospital, she called me I told her I would meet her there this was at 8:45am, as I was pulling in the hospital parking lot I got a call from them stating "your mother is in FULL CARDIAC ARREST" do you want us to do CPR.......that was it, I did not get there to say goodbye, I love you, nothing. We were very close I went there every Sunday, we talked at least ten times a day and every night before bed. There are no words to describe how I feel.....
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Hello Theresa its Lesley here my mum as brought me up all of my life I I didn't have a dad he left my mum to bring me up its so heart breaking for me my mum as always told me I have to live my life now thats what im trying to do I know it will get easier for me in time my mum was my rock always there for me thanks for your message
Our group is run through Kaiser and we meet every week. It helps. I am actually thinking about individual counseling as well. Today was a really rough day. I do know I have to come to work. Working from home I just want to…"
I have been thinking about you and getting a job. How is that going? I think I remember you saying that you had to leave your job because they did not give you enough time off when your husband died? Of course I do not want to over step…"
How often do you have meetings?
I found a group but they only meet eery 3 weeks. I am not sure yet.
Thank you for sharing your daughter's experience. Steve's daughter was really grieving at the beginning but now she only…"
"Went to the 2nd session of support group. Grief is grief and hurts no matter what the loss. It hurts, you feel alone. I have learned one thing from group is we are not alone. There are 2 different groups those that are…"
"I had that feeling when my nephew called me and told me his brother had killed himself one year after my brother (their father) died. It was a weird sensation I have never felt before. From the top of my head all the way to my feet just a rush of ?…"
I just found some thought that actually explains how I feel now:
Sounds familiar? Grieving and trying to be nice, crying and smiling to look nice next minute...
It is a great movie anyway - watch when you can."
"Thank you, Jackie.
Those horrible panic attacks just visit us often. Suddenly the whole world is turning black and no oxygen anymore.
Jackie, I accept you as acting Steve - I hope he does not mind - and I really appreciate your support - I know you…"
"Hi, Kim. Please don't feel sorry about discussing different topics; it's how our minds work and your words are a comfort to so many. Just knowing someone feels the same, hurts the same, has the same inner voice... the empty bed, the…"
"I try not come on here in the early morning as I start work early so I can go home early. That was my routine. We would get up in the morning, have a cup of coffee and I would go off to work. I looked forward to going home a little…"
"Nora, you are a beautiful women with a beautiful heart. Steve loved you very much but remember you were a success before you met him and not because of him. We need to give ourselves time to grieve it's only been 3 months, who knows if we will…"
"Ladies, I just had one more pain caused by simple actions that I even did not pay attention to before.
Well, I sat to start looking for a job. It was already hard as I have a "meeting people & leaving the house" anxiety. Also, it…"
"I too feel exactly as everyone here has discribed it. Four months in.. Lost the love of my life. I feeling like the walking dead.. I function because I am expected to. I go to work because I haven't any choice. I have to sell my house.( for…"
Having a glass of wine for my mom tonight and trying to wrap my head around the fact that she's been gone for a year. A whole year. A year without daily emails just so I'd wake up to an email every morning. A year without daily Skype chats just to catch up even though nothing much ever changed. A year without an e-card for every random holiday. A year without hearing about the dumb things my dad was or wasn't doing. A year without my best friend. A year without my mom.See More
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"I really hate to reply to this thread as I am four years and almost five months into the loss of the love of my life and I can hardly stand the roller coaster I am on. I am careening off the tracks "again" and I come here to reassure…"
"Thank you all for the kind support here. It does help. I too feel lost at time. This morning I was up at 3:30 watching TV; my alarm goes off at 4:45, no sense in trying to go back to sleep. Like some one else said on here, my…"
"Hi Kim, your not alone, as Nora's says every word you say matches how I feel. I have lost my best friend, soul mate, partner, my lover. Now I'm alone with my dog and cat. OVer 70 people and the funeral but none of them ring or call. People…"