Brett Bowman
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Are We Alone?
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Ever since the loss of my mom (12/242015) I have felt very much alone. It didn't start out that way. After mom died, as sad as I was, I had friends and family calling me each day to see if I was…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Robin H Oct 28, 2018.

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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"You have a wonderful, healthy attitude. I can only speak for myself, but I think my sadness comes from lost time on so many levels."
May 14
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Jayne, if there is an advantage to this, maybe we are fortunate that we can get it over with in one day. I wouldn't necessarily call that a good thing, but I really dread any landmark dates concerning my mom."
May 14
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Avi, yes. People were posting pictures of their mothers, or they would post a picture with their mom, celebrating the day. It was also my mom's birthday. There is really nothing we can do but miss them. It's sad that a day that used to be…"
May 13
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I did. I am the Wellness Coordinator there. I still miss my dog though, and, of course, my mom. Sunday wasn't just Mother's Day. It was also my mom's birthday."
May 12
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I just remember, when my mom was sick but not yet dying, we would be sitting in our sun room, talking or watching TV. Our two little dogs would be there wagging their little tails. I started to realize that I would see all three of them die. But…"
May 3
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"SelV, some of the things that you described are frightening. I have a very similar feeling about life. My precious little dog died a couple of weeks ago. She was my mom's dog as well, and she was the best thing I had going for me. Her…"
Apr 29
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, I think that people look too hard to find some thing very big. That something that makes you happy could just be a doughnut. When you are taking baby steps it's just a matter of getting from the chair to the couch. That's what I…"
Feb 17
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Day by day. Minute by minute. Find something, anything that makes you happy and focus on it. For me it's my dog. When she is gone I will focus on something else. It could be anything. If that doesn't work, do it for your mom. Carry on for…"
Feb 17
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, I rely on my faith so much, but I realized a long time ago that there won't be a magic moment where an angel comes down and tells me that everything will be okay. I'm not criticizing God. I just realize that this is something that…"
Feb 16
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I'm having a lot of trouble getting Krissy to eat. She has diabetes and she has a very limited diet as it is. She can only eat prescription dog food. I switched to the wet version and she was eating up, and now it's the same as before. My…"
Feb 16
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, so much of what you said is so familiar with me. I haven't been able to take a nap since my mom died four years ago. Once, while my mom was still alive and on Hospice, I laid down for a second. I fell asleep and I was having a sweet…"
Feb 15
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, I just read your story. Mine is very similar. No matter how sick mom became (she had five forms of cancer, COPD, and congestive heart failure), I still wanted to be the one who took care of her. Mom wanted to die at home, and I was going to…"
Feb 13
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, my mom died at home. She was on Hospice care. I was with her when she took her last breath. What hurt me the most was that my mom had become so detached. That wasn't her fault. She was just too sick to have emotion. I told her that I…"
Feb 13
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, I hope that you will continue to post. We are here if you ever need a friend or an understanding ear. Lord knows, we know grief, and we understand. Like Theresa, I would love to know more about your relationship with your mom, and sometimes…"
Feb 12
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, you found the key. Because we love our mom so much, we try our hardest to honor them by taking baby steps. As much as my mom suffered in her last days, it would have been so much worse for her if she had thought that I wouldn't have…"
Feb 9
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, there are a myriad of small steps. I call them baby steps, because when we lose our moms, we are like toddlers again. I lost my mom on Christmas eve. The next morning the tears really flowed, and I remember, as I was crying, I kept saying,…"
Feb 7

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About Me:
I am an average guy who misses his mother greatly.
About my Loss:
I loss my mom on 12/24/2015. I was her caretaker.

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I have only been on this site for a few days. And I realize that I am an anonymous person to all of you. You are to me as well. Over time I hope to get to know many of you better, to find out your stories, who you lost, and why you loved them so much.

I don't want to be just a random name, or that kid who misses his mama. I want you to know who I am. The first and most important thing to know is that no one calls me Brett. My nickname is "Oatmeal." I have been called Oatmeal…

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Posted on August 1, 2017 at 12:18pm — 5 Comments

How Far is Heaven?

I'm a mamas boy. There was a time when I was embarrassed to say that. Not anymore. I would scream it from the mountain tops, especially if I thought that my mom could hear me. I was her caretaker. I couldn't stand the idea of my mom spending her last days (years) in assisted living. I wanted her to die in her own home, and I wanted to give something back to the woman who not only gave me life, but also loved me unconditionally until her last day on earth. She died on Christmas Eve, 2015. And…

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Posted on July 27, 2017 at 10:30am — 12 Comments

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At 1:23pm on March 7, 2018, DeeDee said…

Thanks so much for your kind email. I was just reading your Blog. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved mom. She sure sounds like she was one very strong and loving woman. God bless her. Cool nickname "Oatmeal" that's certainly unique! :-) I know in time things will get a little easier, but right now, they are so raw. Thanks again for taking the time to share and write Oatmeal. I truly appreciate it. ~Dee-Dee 

At 8:26am on November 23, 2017, BLUEBELL said…

The holidays are coming up and the anniversary of your sweet Mother's death. How are you?

Bluebell

At 10:46pm on October 10, 2017, M Adams said…
So sorry about Little Boo -- this kind of loss on loss is really hard. Hope the other little dog is doing okay and that you can give each other some comfort.
 
 
 

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