I live by myself now. I lived with my mother for 9 years before she died. I have two cats who belonged to my mom. My two cats died. One died two weeks after my mom died. I have good friends and family who are very supportive. I work full-time, mostly at home.
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I lost my mother in June and am having a very difficult time. I am in therapy, but still feel I need people to talk to about this. My family and friends are great support, but they don't understand how difficult this is, and why after eight months, her death affects everything I do everyday.
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How are you doing? My mom always told me turn a negative into a positive, but I am having a hard time finding something positive about losing ny mom. She was such a positive person. I try to remember I am her daughter, which means I have some of her traits. While I was in shock i could deny her passing , after that it was much harder , having to face the fact she was gone and never coming back. I know my mom would want me to go on, and be happy.
I know exactly how you feel. I lost my mom January 10, 2011. It hurts more now than when it first happened. My life will never truly be the same without her. She was only 70 years old. Some days I think about her all day, and wish she was still here. It is hard for me too. I wait for things to get better too, and they don't get better. Once the shock wore off, it was a lot harder. My mom always told me when I was having problems to put one foot in front of the other. I say that to myself a 100 times a day. I still cry alot, and miss her terribly. Thank you for accepting my friends request.
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