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My mom died, August 17, 2009 of an apparent heart attack from heart failure. Her doctors never told me how sick she was and so I was blown away and am heart sick and lost without her.
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missing my mom my best friend 1 Reply
my mom was my best freind i miss all the little talks we had everyday on the phone,asking for advise jutst about anything she always knew just wat tio say for teaching me all about the importance of…
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Comment by Dana LaPaglia on August 9, 2010 at 3:32pm - your welcome, any time you want to talk Im here.
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Comment by Chasity Huston on August 9, 2010 at 3:15pm - Thank you Dana...I am glad to talk to people who know what I am going through. I feel so lonely now without my mom that it is good to have people that can relate to what you are going through.
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Comment by Dana LaPaglia on August 9, 2010 at 3:13pm
- Chasity, Hi my name is Dana and I m so sorry for your loss! unfortunitly I know what you are going through. May God give you the strength to get through all the Days that are to come, especially Her B-Day. My Moms b-Day is sep.4 I dread the pain that I know is to come but getting her a card and a cake and taking it to the cemetery helps it really does I know it may sound strange but It helps me deal with the pain and I know that my Mom just loves it!. i hope that this helps you alittle.
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Comment by Chasity Huston on August 9, 2010 at 2:18pm
- My mom passed away on July 14th 2010, she was 48. We had lived together for 32 years (how old I am) either she took care of my or my husband and I took care of her. She started seeing a Pain Management doctor for pain for a back surgery in 2004. He apparently on July 8th, without me know about it, gave her Methadone, Klonapin and Trazadone. According to the Medical Examiner, was a lethal combination. I found her several hours after she passed in her sleep. I think these doctors should be held accountable for their actions, not just be able to have their insurance company pay someone some money and they get to harm someone else.
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Comment by Dana LaPaglia on July 8, 2010 at 10:23pm
- Hi Eve, I live in Hesperia ca. And yes Church helps I am a Christian well I try sometimes it is hard, I did go down to the Courts and filed with them but I have not been able to find legal help so now I am stuck this has been very trying for me, all I want is some justice for my mom and for that so called Dr. to be held accountable for his horrible negligence. I hope that you are able to get justice as well our Moms deserve that much. I know that I will never be the same I had to watch both of my Parents Die right in front of me, I cant even put into words how that effected me. Talk to You later, Dana.
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Comment by Eve Gerlando on July 8, 2010 at 8:26pm - Hi Dana, I think it is horrible how me doctors treat their patients as a number rather as a person. All they care about is how much money they can make off of them. Thanks for the idea of filing a complaint which I will do tomorrow definitely. I have painted my mom's room and moved my stuff into her room so I can continue to live on with her there. Well, that is how I am trying to cope with it. I found cleaning out her room and keeping everything that she was fond of has helped me a little bit. I don't ever think I will be the same again. The whole in my heart is too huge. If you would like to contact me you can use my personal email address which is didieve4@bellsouth.net. I can also give you my cell phone # if you email me at my personal email address. Where do you live? I think we could both benefit from each other. Stay strong! I know it's easier said then done but everyone I know keeps telling me that. I have also found that going to church everyday so far and lighting a candle has helped a little bit since I am Catholic.
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Comment by Dana LaPaglia on July 8, 2010 at 5:28pm
- Eve, Hi my name is Dana and I know what you are going through, my Mom died because of her idiot Dr. And i too took care of her and my Dad so when she passed away I blamed myself because i listened to her Dr. and I should not have! my Mom was my best friend as well I miss her terribly and my Dad He died 43 days after Mom. I got my mom medical records and then I filed a complaint with the california Medical Board and it has been sent for Expert Review I am Praying they will find Him Guilty of Negligent I Hate that man with everything in me!! it has been 16 Months& 2Days since Mom died and it has mot gotten any easier unfortunately! I still find myself waiting for them to come through the front door but they never do, you see my Parents have lived with us since 2000 so my house is a constent reminder of what I have lost. I have not been able to bring myself to cleaning out their room it is still the same their clothes their bathroom all still the same I just dont know how to do it maybe I never will. If You need to talk I am here Im not sure how much I can help but I can listen, maybe we can help each other. Dana. this is my other email maxi113@live.com I have less junk on that one.
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Comment by Eve Gerlando on July 8, 2010 at 3:07pm
- My mom was my rock, my lifeline and now she is gone due to the incompetency of her primary care dr. I just received all of our mom's medical records and this dr didn't do her job and has cost us to lose our mom. She was my best friend. I dedicated my entire life to taking care of her and I feel like I failed her. Every thought I consume is of her. I can't even explain how much I miss her. The tears flow continuously and I can't apologize enough to my sisters. My mom was a strong Italian woman who no one told her what to do. Finally, 3 weeks ago I was able to convince her to go to my dr. who took the time and within one business day was able to diagnose her but it was too late. I don't know how I am going to go on without her. I am also disabled and can't work but I swear I am dedicating the rest of my life to make sure no one else has to go through this. This morning I heard my mom call my name and I sat straight up only to cry more because she is not here. I feel so numb and don't know how I am going to move on because it hurts too much. I miss and love you mom!!!
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Comment by Beth Beaty on June 21, 2010 at 10:19am - I lost my mom on May 17, 2010. And I am LOST without her!!!!!!!!! I talked to her almost every day about the silliest things. I would call her if I had a great day, I would call her if I had a bad day. I would call her to ask her how to make a certain dish for dinner. Now I am so sorrowful that she was taken away from us forever. I had faith in doctors that took her away from me.
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Comment by Shelley O'Reilly on May 18, 2010 at 5:01am - I lost my mom on March 6th 2010, just over two months ago. She passed from an unexpected brain aneurysm. I miss her terribly every day. People keep telling me that time heals all wounds, but I don't feel any different. I feel like people expect me to be over it but I'm not. I'm only sixteen, my mom wont ever see me get married, or graduate or even see her future gradchildren. It's unfair how life works sometimes.
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