Lost Without My Mom

My mom died, August 17, 2009 of an apparent heart attack from heart failure. Her doctors never told me how sick she was and so I was blown away and am heart sick and lost without her.

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i lossed my mom and need friends

hi im christine my mom died on april 9th of a pulmonary embolism at her house. i wasnt there when she died see i live in another state . she abandon me when i was 8 and wasnt in my life much for the…Continue

Started by christine Apr 28.

Missing my mom 15 Replies

Hi! I'm a new member. My name is Emily. My mom died Dec 27,2012. I had a question for anyone in the group............. Does anyone ever feel torn-part of them wants to be with friends but the other…Continue

Started by Emily. Last reply by Lahiwe Apr 17.

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I am a single mom of 8 yo twins. My mom passed away a week ago. She fought a long hard battle with an aggressive bladder cancer that spread rapidly through her body.  Is it normal to feel so lost.  I…Continue

Started by Tanya Dale. Last reply by Mark Sep 24, 2013.

Lost my mom a little over two weeks ago. 2 Replies

Hi Everyone, I am new to this site and the group. I lost my mom on Aug 24th toLeukemia. I am her only child and we were so very close. I am wondering, does itever get better? I know I am glad she is…Continue

Started by Wendy (Boabie). Last reply by Wendy (Boabie) Sep 20, 2013.

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Comment by Sheila B. on December 12, 2013 at 2:16pm

Comment by Cynthia Gee on December 1, 2013 at 11:36am

i am most definitely lost without my mom.  i sometimes feel like i am alone in a dark hole searching for any light whatsoever- the loneliness is all consuming. 

Comment by Debbie Bacon on November 8, 2013 at 9:19pm
I'm also missing my mom ,she died sept 29 and everyone thinks I should move on
Comment by Sheila B. on September 20, 2013 at 2:47am

I felt resentment but his mother is going to call for no reason every time she feels like it. I can't let it tear us apart because it almost did. It still bothers me, but she's not going to change, she needs her attention. I guess she figures after a few months I should be over it. Her mother is still alive, almost twice my mother's age and she will never understand. Yeah, I still feel jealous. 

Comment by Kristin Renee on September 20, 2013 at 1:43am

Please accept my heartfelt condolences regarding your Mom, Michelle. I too can't help feeling jealous of people who still have their mothers. I even harbor a secret resentment towards my sister who I feel is closer with her Mother-in-Law than she was our own Mom.

Comment by Michelle Goetz on September 19, 2013 at 8:06pm

Hello, I am new to this too.  My Mom passed away on August 24th and I am so devastated.  I feel so guilty for not doing more. I am so jealous and bitter of everyone that still has their Mom.  Does anyone else feel jealous of others that still have their Mom?

Comment by Dia -Ayesha on August 30, 2013 at 3:22am
Dear Kristin,
Thank you for responding and also for your condolences.please accept my heartfelt condolences for your loss. I can totally relate to you. In your profile information you said : *taking care of your mum defined you*. This is what I say all the time. I took care of my mum for 14 years and those were the best years of my life. She was the best , most wonderful mum EVER. It was my privilege and honour to take care of her. Even though she was sick I was always hopeful and confident of facing the world. Now that shes gone I feel hopeless.the thing is she cheated death and survived several times in the past. This time she did'nt make it. I feel we her family failed her in the end. We fought with the hospital staff, pleaded them to show some humanity but they were incredibly cruel. Mum felt isolated and unhappy in the ICU in her last few days. This haunts me day and night. I will never forgive the hospital authorities. I will always carry this sorrow till the end of my life . How do I ask for her forgiveness? How do i tell her how much I love and miss her. Why did such a great human being suffer this much. These questions haunt me day and night. Please let me know if I could help you in anyway. I may be far away but am always ready to lend you my support and kindness. Please take care.
Comment by Kristin Renee on August 29, 2013 at 6:36pm

Karen C, I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. You are definitely not alone here.

Comment by Kristin Renee on August 29, 2013 at 6:33pm

Dia, my sincere condolences on the loss of your beloved mum. I can very much relate to your story and your anguish. I too was my Mom's caretaker and my sole focus was to get her well. I wish more than anything I could go back to taking care of her and make her better. She was my best friend and I miss her so desperately. I still cry every day since she passed on May 8. Try to take comfort in the knowledge that your mum is now free from all that pain and hardship she endured in life. Your mum loves you and seeing you suffer like this would pain her as well. If you can, try to live as she would have wanted. I know it's hard, but she would not want you to stop living. I wish you the best, good luck Dia.

Comment by Dia -Ayesha on August 29, 2013 at 2:42pm
Hi everyone. I lost my beloved mum this 22 july, 2013. She was the greatest love of my life, my best friend, my hero, my life, my everything. She was the epitome of love, beauty, grace and dignity.She suffered from lupus and cardiomyopathy since past 14 years. I was her primary caregiver .I was with her 24/7 .Keeping her healthy, happy and alive was my life's purpose. She was wonderful yet life was not kind to her. From ill health, to financial hardships to many other injustices, She endured everything yet always smiled, never questioned or complained. The past 1 year was a nightmare. She was hospitalised 7 times in the past year. The last few days of her life were awful. She was in ICU of a hospital here in India. Bad doctors, callous nurses, strict security. She was not treated with kindness or respect in the ICU. We as her family always treated her with love and kindness , cheered and encouraged her. She felt alone, isolated and unhappy in the ICU. This haunts me day and night. How do I beg for her forgiveness. If only I could see her and tell her how much I love her . I'm broken inside with no interest in life or anything else. Losing her was always my biggest fear and now its my reality. I ache, grieve for her. I miss her and feel lonely 24/7. How does one live in this world without a mother?? Nobody can take a mothers place. Nobody can love like a mother does. This void , this grief I feel is sooooooo intense. I miss my mum. How do I know shes ok? Who will take care of her now? I saw the life leave her body. She passed of multi organ failure. She was sedated on the last day. We her family said goodbye but im not sure she was aware. There are so many regrets .so many what ifs, should have, could have, would have. How do I make peace with the fact that my mother suffered so much and died feeling sad. On the last day she was sedated and tears spilled from her eyes. It pains me so much that she cried. Somebody pls help me this pain and loss is unbearable.

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