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Missing my Son  or  Daughter

For all of us that are suffering the loss a son or daughter.

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Comment by Karen R. on February 24, 2011 at 10:57am

Greetings Katie......so sorry for your loss. My son's birthday was this past Feb 19th, he passed away almost 16 months ago. I am still in just as much pain as I was when I was told that there was nothing else they could do for my son. I bought his favorite icecream cake and baked him his favorite homemade cake nd our family, including aunts/uncles, cousins and a few of his closest friends all came over to help me celebrate his life. I don't think I would have gotten through that day if I didn't get that support. I am so angry every morning that I wake and realize that I am facing another morning without my son being around or not hearing his voice........boy, did I take for granted that my son would always be around and live to be old. I could have never imagined he would be robbed of his young life at only 21yrs old! It really doesn't matter how old your child is when you lose them.....no parent would ever choose to bury their child.  Helping me celebrate my son's life was very important and comforting to me...........I am angry at the world for "going on" WITHOUT my son.........it's very important for me to be reassured that my son is NOT forgotten by his family and friends.  I say it over and over again.......my son is so much more than a "memory", he's my son and will alwyas be my son......he is not in the past tense to me. My pain is unmeasurable and never ending. At his birthday celebration, everyone told a funny story about him or imitated the one dance he always did. I played his favorite artists music.....Michael jackson and Bob Marley.

You are NOT alone........Karen R. 

Comment by jennifer on February 24, 2011 at 8:38am
My Caden's Birthday is coming up in less then 2 weeks and then the following month it will be 2 yrs since he was killed,the closer it gets to both dates the more it hurts,i havent been able to sleep with out taking a pill and dont even want to get up in the morning..Instead of planning a my son's 4th bday party ill be lightning a candle for him..life is so unfair
Comment by coachlouise on February 24, 2011 at 4:37am
Indeed are children are in heaven, and they do feel our love.
Comment by anne on January 26, 2011 at 10:47pm
I believe my boys are in heaven and I believe they can feel my love. I want them to be proud of me and I know that someday we will be together. I want their lives to not be lived and died in vain. I will stay on this earth so my boys dont have to worry about me. I will make the best of it so that all my children know what an important gift life is. I;m sure this is what they would want for me.
Comment by Karen R. on January 19, 2011 at 9:54pm
Greetings Kelly, I am so sorry for your loss. I could feel your pain through your words. Once again, I am sorry that you have lost your baby. I lost my 21yr old son, it doesn't matter how old they are. It goes against the natural order of things for mothers to bury their child. This site will provide you with alot of support and you will NEVER be judged.
Comment by coachlouise on December 23, 2010 at 2:57am

When a child passes it is like a pre judgment day. Going over all the things we should have done, and barely seeing what we did do. We are so hard on our selfs.  We also are faced with pondering what we believe about why we are here and what happens when we die. So many people walk through the world not even wondering about these thoughts. They can seem very blessed. However everyone sooner or later will face loss.

The answers we find during grief, come from diving deep in to the dark . We do this in order find the light. The answers will not be the same for everyone, but what you find true for you is The truth for you,  your wisdom. If you are confused about your answers, there is a golden question which tells you if you are listening to the right voice. Ask does this come from love or fear, if from love then you are on the right path. 

Christmas is or should be all about love. Giving love or like Anne said buying presents in honor of your child to someone in need will make you feel better. Writing your child a Christmas letter is another  idea which is very helpful. I heard of a women you has done this for years, and now is able to see through her letters all the gifts her childs passing has given her.  I send all of you love, I know the pain, and I look, listen for the love. May the season have some joy for you, Coach Louise 

Comment by anne on December 5, 2010 at 12:06am
To everyone who is missing someone you love this holiday season. I wish you Peace Love and Understanding. Sometimes the holidays are the worst. I have a couple of tips that help me get through. One is to remember the good stuff as best as I can. The second is I buy a special toy for two children I don't know in memory of my sons. One day at a time.
Comment by anne on December 5, 2010 at 12:00am
Hey Jennifer,
Yes I have. My son was burned to death at the age of 12. He died 12 years ago. I am here if you need to talk or ask questions. I also lost my oldest son to a car accident 3 years ago. I guess you could say I know alittle bit about loss.
Comment by jennifer on December 4, 2010 at 10:54pm
has anyone else here lost a young child to murder or lost a young child?
Comment by Kar on December 3, 2010 at 12:00am
Sending everyone love, hugs, n strength thru the holidays <3
 

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