I'm a wife, mother, and grandmother. I am also a therapist, but that isn't my reason for being here. Mostly, I'm a deeply grieving mother.
About my Loss:
My 41 year old son passed away suddenly while on a Caribbean cruise on March 21, 2013. He and his wife were celebrating their 9th wedding anniversary. Chris died in international waters and his body was taken to a funeral home in St. Maarten, where he was cremated before being flown back to the USA. I never got to see him one last time to say goodbye.
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Thank you Michelle. I am sorry for your loss as well. I appreciate the support from you and all who are here. I lost my son Tim on 9/5/17. He was 20 years old. I wake up each morning, not knowing how I am going to get through each day.
Thank you Michelle. I have had a really hard time of it.... I'm sure like all parents of deceased children. It's such a sad and lonely road to travel and I hate it! It's like so many country roads ROUGH!!!!
"Thank you very much Michelle H. I really appreciate and I am new on this site had lost my daughter this year on the 5th of January. I am also sorry for your loss.Needed to speak to grieving mothers cause it's really hard for to accept
dear Michelle, I hope you're well. I know the holidays are very hard to deal with. Everyone has their way of dealing with a loved ones passing. mine. Is talking to my son Scott as though he is here with me. I don't want to sound like a crazy lady but it helps me. I don't have long drawn out conversations but I do include him in some things I do from time to time. although it has only been eleven months since his passing I have come to realize he is gone and I must deal with it for my own sanity. I do believe in the hear after so I do think Scott can see and hear me. Of. Purse there are no guarantees but it helps me from falling apart all the time. Maybe you feel as I do. we have to hold ourselves together some how. Please take care of yourself.
A friend, Charlotte Finklea
Thank you, Michelle. I am preparing to have a meeting with the San Diego Lifeguards and the press. One channel was very kind and called me to ask me about my son, then reported what a great kid he was, that he was loved and cherished by his family, that he worked 2 jobs and went to school in a sincere effort to provide for his 7 month old daughter, and that he is survived by four little brothers. Every other local channel couldn't have cared less, and the San Diego Lifeguard spokesman is definitely on my radar. My best friend was at the beach when they found Brian, and she made it very clear to him that what he was doing was wrong and painful, but he is just so excited to have the cameras on him, he didn't care. I have every intention of having a meeting with him and his boss to let them know exactly how much they hurt my family with their lies and lack of compassion. I'm so sorry that any of us have to belong to this club -- I read elsewhere that the Bereaved Mother's Club is one that all women avoid because the dues are much too high. I'd give everything I have (that is not living), even give my own life, if I could bring him back. I'm old, I lived my life and had the opportunity to raise my children, while his life was just beginning. It is just so incredibly wrong.
"I had a relationship with someone for 5 years. I am married, and wasn't ready to leave my husband. So this man and I met infrequently (every month or 2) and talked a lot through text, but I felt like we had a very close bond. He finally told me…"
This is for anyone who has lost their lover to death and you were the other woman/other man in their life. We have to grieve in silence. I can't find any support groups and feel like I'm the only one going through this situationSee More
Your wife, the love of your life, is BEAUTIFUL! And it does seem like it was destiny that brought the two of you together. Beautiful story of the two of you meeting for the first time.
Like Linda says, we have to be grateful that God sent us…"
Thanks for the cudos. I know every one of us is trying to cope with the loss of our Beloved Spouses. I too cannot do the things we shared and that's just about everything. Our likes were the same, so the only thing I did…"
Mary and Leane joined Online Grief Support - A Social Community
"I am so grateful that each of you share what you are doing and how you are dealing with your loss at whatever stage in months or years. In the past I never had to worry about looking for company for misery. I wasn't miserable.…"
What you say here about your day sounds like my miserable daily schedule:
"My schedule is pretty much go to the bedroom between 1 to 4am and most often I sleep until 11 or noon. And if I have to get up quickly I find I end up…"
I can relate to what you are saying: the activities that Joseph and I loved to do together are now very painful to do on my own. But it seems that you have started taking baby steps in the right direction by starting to run again.…"
That is quite an accomplishment! My husband was my running partner and we did a lot of charity runs together. My last run was 2 months after he died and dedicated the run to him. Since then I have tried running alone but it was too…"
"I am finding it so hard to keep motivated. I have tons I need to do to keep afloat and try to honor the legacy of my husband and yet all I seem able to do is push myself, force myself.......constantly. Its the putting on the mask and…"
"When your ‘life force’ is taken away from you there is no will to go on. It will be 5 years for me soon and many people think my grief has subsided as I seem to be functioning better, but as I said earlier we just become more adept…"
"do not no wen dad died i loss my way for long tim u cud say i did im f i am'thn loss folerd evn my cat i had for 16 yrs in 2016 wish she got me thru few dark tims she did
thn i gon to spirtaslt churchh fond upliftmtn i di did…"