I'm a wife, mother, and grandmother. I am also a therapist, but that isn't my reason for being here. Mostly, I'm a deeply grieving mother.
About my Loss:
My 41 year old son passed away suddenly while on a Caribbean cruise on March 21, 2013. He and his wife were celebrating their 9th wedding anniversary. Chris died in international waters and his body was taken to a funeral home in St. Maarten, where he was cremated before being flown back to the USA. I never got to see him one last time to say goodbye.
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Thank you Michelle. I am sorry for your loss as well. I appreciate the support from you and all who are here. I lost my son Tim on 9/5/17. He was 20 years old. I wake up each morning, not knowing how I am going to get through each day.
Thank you Michelle. I have had a really hard time of it.... I'm sure like all parents of deceased children. It's such a sad and lonely road to travel and I hate it! It's like so many country roads ROUGH!!!!
"Thank you very much Michelle H. I really appreciate and I am new on this site had lost my daughter this year on the 5th of January. I am also sorry for your loss.Needed to speak to grieving mothers cause it's really hard for to accept
dear Michelle, I hope you're well. I know the holidays are very hard to deal with. Everyone has their way of dealing with a loved ones passing. mine. Is talking to my son Scott as though he is here with me. I don't want to sound like a crazy lady but it helps me. I don't have long drawn out conversations but I do include him in some things I do from time to time. although it has only been eleven months since his passing I have come to realize he is gone and I must deal with it for my own sanity. I do believe in the hear after so I do think Scott can see and hear me. Of. Purse there are no guarantees but it helps me from falling apart all the time. Maybe you feel as I do. we have to hold ourselves together some how. Please take care of yourself.
A friend, Charlotte Finklea
Thank you, Michelle. I am preparing to have a meeting with the San Diego Lifeguards and the press. One channel was very kind and called me to ask me about my son, then reported what a great kid he was, that he was loved and cherished by his family, that he worked 2 jobs and went to school in a sincere effort to provide for his 7 month old daughter, and that he is survived by four little brothers. Every other local channel couldn't have cared less, and the San Diego Lifeguard spokesman is definitely on my radar. My best friend was at the beach when they found Brian, and she made it very clear to him that what he was doing was wrong and painful, but he is just so excited to have the cameras on him, he didn't care. I have every intention of having a meeting with him and his boss to let them know exactly how much they hurt my family with their lies and lack of compassion. I'm so sorry that any of us have to belong to this club -- I read elsewhere that the Bereaved Mother's Club is one that all women avoid because the dues are much too high. I'd give everything I have (that is not living), even give my own life, if I could bring him back. I'm old, I lived my life and had the opportunity to raise my children, while his life was just beginning. It is just so incredibly wrong.
"Abbie, I am so sorry. This is a good place to talk because everyone here knows what it's like to lose their mom. We know how much it hurts. Every circumstance is different. I don't know what it's like to have lost my mom at 16. I…"
"I started to compose a blow by blow sequence of events of my loves illness and passing but it became too painful and couldn't continue. Here we share how we are feeling grieving our lost Loves. In reality, most of my underlying…"
I totally understand; I detest being around happy families, and especially happy couples. It's not that I want anything bad to happen to them, I definitely do not. It's just that they have what my beloved and I should still have,…"
"usually I find your comments really clear, Linda, so I don’t think it’s not being good with words, more that it’s hard to express these things in words. Actually I couldn’t follow what Joe said either, but it’s…"
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Joe explained in his post of how I feel. I am not good with words on explaining things but Joe you said it perfectly. I just want to thank everyone here for sharing their thoughts, as we are all in the same boat together."
"Speaking for myself, I identify with Linda. My Love left our world and I know it, and accept that she crossed over into another realm of existence and can't come back. I want her back and I live in HELL every day without her. …"
"Linda, not sure what you mean here when you say you can accept the loss of your husband but not being able to change it is your whole problem — do you mean not being able to change the fact of the loss, or not being able to change the way it…"
Like you mentioned in your post, there is no normal in my life. I just take each day as it comes and just wait for death. I can accept that Julian is gone but not being able to change it is my whole problem."
"Hi Haven't been writing recently as have had so much to organize in my life I just haven't had a moment and when I do I am so tired. So grateful to everyone else who continues to write though. I look here daily to read.…"
"They told me that Mom had a heart attack. It happened on the weekend. I had made her breakfast & she seemed fine. I am thankful she was at home & that I was with her, but it hurts so much knowing she is gone. I just…"
"I was with my mom when she passed and it was not sudden. I may have thought I was prepared. I wasn't. I tried to say and do all of the right things. Still, after her last breath, it was as though I hadn't prepared at all. I knew what to…"