"hey there sweet lady, stopping in to say happy happy heavenly birthday in heaven gary!!!!!!! rip.....hope u know u got one tough cookie for a mom! i love her dearly...she n i wear the same shoes..:"( we'll be ok ..one day. send her all the…"
"Fred, I am so sorry for your loss, and for Jessica's loss-it is a cruel twist when we lose a child. It doesn't matter how many children you have, to lose one changes your life forever. I lost my only child August 23, 2010, that's when…"
"Dee, I am sorry for your loss. I lost my Gary two months ago at age 38. He had different demons than your Jamie, demons that he was never quite able to overcome. He was found dead on the side of a mountain and had been gone about two months when…"
"Hi Cindy- I am so sorry that you are having this hurt added to the horrible pain you already have. I am going to offer something, not knowing the whole story or remembering he exact relation your husband was to your son (dad VS stepdad). Please…"
"Melissa, what a beautiful way to honor your daughter! I have written letters/notes to Gary and burnrd them so that the smoke carries the message to him. I am also glad to hear that Fawna's friends are keeping in touch. I think that means soooo…"
"Hi Denise-I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel about the upcoming holidays. Gary and I spent every spare moment together during this time of the year and, like you, I am feeling that same thought about how horrible this can be. I…"
"I'm with you ladies-the upcoming holidays are going to be a real struggle for me as well. Gary and I spent a lot of time together from today (which is my 57th birthday!!) until New years eve. I went out today to try to do some Christmas…"
"Thank-you Gyla. I am in pain and at times very angry with God for the way this turned out. I too, am a nurse, working in the field of psychiatry. My previous job was 11 years managing a detox unit in my hometown. I feel that I have helped hundreds…"
"Gyla, I am so sorry for your loss and the horrible experience your daughter had. There are no words that can make this better so please know that I will pray for you to find peace. I have been on this site for a short time myself but have found many…"
"Thank you Sharon..... I really thought I had reached my limit. Nobody referred this site, I was so desperate and started looking.... I knew I needed help of some kind and soon. There were so many comments and experiences on this site that I could…"
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I will be 57 years old in November. I have been married to Larry for 22 years, second marriage for both of us. We have no children together. I had a son. I am a Registered Nurse. May 2009 I was diagnosed with stage 3 metastatic ovarian cancer. Currently in remission. Thought I was a pretty tough nut until recently.
About my Loss:
My adult son, 38, was found dead in the woods near our home on August 23. Medical examiner said he had been dead about 2 months when they found him. I don't have a date of death or a cause of death. He did have addiction problems and there was evidence at the site that this may be the cause-they have ruled out murder and suicide, thank God. It will be either COD unknown or Accidental.
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I am an RN working with a psychiatrist. We treat adults with all manner of mental illness/substance addicitons.
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hey there sweet lady, stopping in to say happy happy heavenly birthday in heaven gary!!!!!!! rip.....hope u know u got one tough cookie for a mom! i love her dearly...she n i wear the same shoes..:"( we'll be ok ..one day. send her all the signs u can!!! i know ur right nxt to her she glows..n teared filled eyes bragging on how proud she IS of you!!!! find my son up there..n play forever!!!!! hugs!~kk!!
Thank you Sharon..... I really thought I had reached my limit. Nobody referred this site, I was so desperate and started looking.... I knew I needed help of some kind and soon. There were so many comments and experiences on this site that I could relate to from grieving moms about their feelings each day to how people react.... I knew then perhaps there was hope for me yet. Plus, I must stay at the top of my game, others in my family are still falling apart, I have to keep strong for them. Especially, my daughter.... her brother was her best friend.
Oops, didn't mean to blabber on, just a thanks to you for the acknowledgment.
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