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Comment by Teresa D. on May 16, 2016 at 5:39am

Lost one friend that I knew since the age of 1 and another that I knew since the age of 14 because they both thought they had this figured out for me and when I didn't go with their program one of them told me "ever since Michael died you think your royalty" ROYALTY was the word used.  If this is "royalty" I'd rather live as a pauper.

They have their sons, they can talk to them, hug them, listen to them, look at them and see their futures.  Me all I got is tears and memories.

Comment by toni m dicarlo on May 15, 2016 at 9:56pm

Comment by toni m dicarlo on May 15, 2016 at 9:55pm

Gabriels  21stb day on June 2 and 5 years gone on 5-26. The preparation and meditation and praying each year seem to go by the wayside every year as the dates approach. My sister and I are going on a trip during the hardest dates because when I am out of state the weight that feels so suffocating eases up.  When I am traveling I can BREATH. Gabes 2 dads will stay in town and work and I am grateful they understand. Every day is 1 day closer to seeing my LOLLY again. I am mentally and physically exhausted as I know all moms feel maybe forever

Comment by Jill E on May 15, 2016 at 4:28pm

Sandy-I am up here in AZ too. Derek is in San Antonio so hard. Horrible comments..."Fix you" and "Make you whole again". What? Not on a million years. And these comments come from "friends".

Going to Sacramento for the first time since we moved. I will not see my daughter-in-law. She has still not sent me any of Josh's things like she said she was going to do back in October. What did she want me to do? Send her money so she could send the stuff to me? I felt guilty about not doing that but everyone told me not to. She could have asked me for money help or given me somethings before we moved. I can't let myself drive by their house and the building we both worked at will be hard to see. Joshie will be with me in the car and the whole time. I don't know what to expect from my friends. Don't know if I want to even see some of them and some more than likely don't want to see me. Went on FB which I quit soon after I lost Josh but went on again to tell people I was coming. Interesting to see who answers you. Left it open saying what restaurant and day and time I would be there. And we will see. My definition of friend has changed drastically. I love you my Joshie WYWH

Comment by Sandy Hendrix on May 15, 2016 at 2:19pm

Connie im so sorry that is so stupid of her to say that. Im sure she wouldnt feel that way if she lost her child. Sorry I havent been on here. Been busy movilng to Az. I read about your court case and good for the judge. It feels so weird to have left long beach where Randy grew up. I always felt at home here in Az but now I feel lost. I cant relax I just feel anxious. His bday is the 21st and he wd be 20. Its consuming my every thought. I wish I cd relax for a minute and not feel so anxious. I think its getting harder its just padt 1 1/2 years. My daughter is still in Long Beach and thats hard too. I think of you all often and am so sorry we are all here. Much love and hugs.

Comment by Patty on May 15, 2016 at 1:57pm

Connie, I will never understand why people insist on saying stupid s**t like that.  They have to know it's not helpful.  I too understand what she was going for but how could she think that was helpful?  I promise you if the tables were turned she would NOT find that comforting in the least.  Clueless is the perfect word to describe people.

Comment by Jill E on May 15, 2016 at 1:53pm

I understand. Hug, big hug and a shoulder

Comment by Connie K on May 15, 2016 at 11:13am

Last night my best friend who has been very supportive seems to have decided that she knows EVERYTHING about life and grief and how we should handle it. When talking about "survivor's guilt" she said "Daniel doesn't need healing. He is just perfect. He is perfect in his form." Although I understand what she was trying to say about his spirit ans that he was okay, I wanted to slap her face! Would her daughters be perfect if they were dead? I just said "it's hard to explain." and turned to another person at the table. She didn't say anything else about it because she knew what I meant. SHUT the F up! YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW THIS FEELS!!!I feel horrible now. I just wanted to leave right then but the evening had just started. It hurts so bad to have my friends seem so clueless and judgemental while you are struggling to make sense of the rubble of my life....

Comment by Patty on May 14, 2016 at 11:30am

I get where Jill is coming from. I am not made that way either. My husband went to a couple of group meetings at a local hospital for people who lost children and I could tell from his description that it wasn't for me. I went to his grief counselor a few times but I felt she was trying to get me "past" it. Well, I don't want to be past it. I would like to feel better than now so I didn't dread holidays so much and didn't feel so anxious in crowds of people. But getting "past" it to me feels like putting my daughter in the past. And she is as present tense to me as she ever was. We saw another grief counsellor together and that was a nightmare. I hated it. All he would do is the Griefshare Program (which is fine but I don't think most people who have lost an only child would be helped by it-just my opinion). I was suicidal and he had us filling out a freaking workbook. One on one with my pastor/counsellor friend was much better. We talked about MY child and how I would see her again. That was what I needed to hear. Now I just live to see her again. It's a sucky existence.

Comment by Jill E on May 12, 2016 at 6:44pm

I so understand about this site. I feel safe her I don't feel so alone. But I find times when I just can't come here. It is so comforting to know you all are here for me. I live in a small town so there is not a Compassionate Friends meeting close by. The way am made I believe that would only magnify my grief, reliving my situation and hearing the pain of others. I would absorb their grief also and pile it on top of mine. I don't think I could handle it. But I have this place. Thank you for being here when I need you. Hugs to all WYWH My Joshie I love you

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