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Greta would have been twenty today.
I can't get out of bed this morning.
I wish she was here.
Thank you everyone for your kind words... I know that all of you have walked down this horrible journey. Everynight I thank my son for giving me the strength to make it through one more day. I may never go back to work. I've worked for the past 35 years of my life. I'm only 57, but I'm tired. I'll just have to see how I feel, and if my job is still there when I feel strong enough...
Thank you Connie, I will read Proof of Heaven. I've been reading every night since Troy died. It keeps my sanity while I wait for my xanax to kick in!
Sharon my heart is with you. It took me 6 weeks to return to work. Honestly you need to give yourself time. but what helped me especially in those first weeks was walking, moving, reading and allowing myself the time to grieve. Be gentle with yourself. I recommend Proof of Heaven by Ethan Alexander and Healing from Loss by Martha Whitaker (I still read it everyday). Hugs to everyone.
Sharon, I am so sorry you have to go through this intense pain. What you are feeling right now, the exhaustion and the anxiety are normal.I used to think I was going crazy those first months, and just got through it minute by minute. When you loss is so sudden it is so hard to fathom and the shock stays with you for a long time. My daughter Kyra died in a car accident 16 months ago, and I still can't believe she is really gone physically. Just do what ever helps you get through the day. I still cry everyday and go through bouts of anxiety somedays, but that intense despair and loneliness does ease and you will be able to find hope and solace again. I had just retired from teaching the summer Kyra died, so I didn't have to go back to work, some people thought work would help me but it is what it is. You will survive this loss and gain a peace knowing your child is always with you. The signs that we get from their continued presence in our life will sustain us until we can see them again. Much love and hugs, we are here to listen and understand what you are going through. lynn
they say don't make any major changes for at least a year.. probably because most of us can't even begin to think coherently for at least that long... if ever again... I don't think like I used to..don't care about many things I used to wring my hands over.. just wish I had appreciated what I had more while I still had him with me... now I am trying hard to REALLY appreciate what's left of my life... what else can I do? Not that I'm very successful at it.. but I just can't always keep crying and feeling horrible... its not doing any good.. but I can't really control it all that well either even after nearly two years...
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