Losing Someone to Cancer

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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Lisa Lisa on September 26, 2014 at 8:08am
Why can't you live with yourself?
I am dreading the future. Everyday. Mom's birthday...Oct 19. My birthday...Nov. 21. Then the holidays.
"Orphan" is such an ugly word.
Comment by Casey on September 26, 2014 at 12:25am

Thank you, Lisa. Its just beyond heartbreaking. I don't know how I can ever live with myself.

Comment by Lisa Lisa on September 24, 2014 at 5:57pm

  I'm sorry, Casey.

  My Dad died on August 20, 2014.

Comment by Casey on September 23, 2014 at 8:21pm

Lisa, my mom passed away from lung acner as well, she never smoked. she was only 56

Comment by louraniah on September 23, 2014 at 2:54pm

Lost my husband to Cancer this past April. Has almost been five months now and the days are going by somewhat faster. It takes a strong will and Love of God to get past all the hurdles when you lose a loved one. I will always love the man and am looking for the day to re-join all my loved ones in Heaven one day.

Comment by Lisa Lisa on September 23, 2014 at 11:54am
My Mom died September 16, 2014 from non small cell lung cancer with mets to the spine and hips. I took care of her the last month of her life.
Comment by anne on September 1, 2014 at 9:15pm

I really didn't think I'd be here in this group too, but today My best friend died of cancer. I hate cancer. There must be a cure out there somewhere. She was the nicest person I have ever known. She didn't judge anyone. She believed that even when you don't agree with someone you still should love them, and now she's gone. I have already buried both of my sons, and got through it because of what she taught me, and now I'm lost. Stupid cancer.

Comment by Linda K on August 27, 2014 at 7:08am

Hi ASKala,

I am equally sorry for your loss. I thought of my husband as my best friend, my heart feels like someone ran it over with something sharp. I talk to him and ask him to connect with me in a way I will know it is him, went away to NJ shore with kids who had never set foot on the beach at the ocean and came home to a single flower growing in my overgrown flower bed, not a variety already planted there, fully in bloom, want to believe it is him that made that happen. Having a hard time finding a support group in my town that works around the schedule of 4 kids who are all in activities outside of school. I will check out the facebook lead. Thanks.

Comment by ASKala on August 25, 2014 at 5:43pm
Hi Linda,
So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband to bladder cancer May 28, 2014. He was 59 years old. I wish I could share some magical, insightful words to help you "pick up the pieces." What I have found is that this is the most difficult and painful experience of my life. My husband was/is my soulmate. What's working for me is going to a support group to talk about my loss. I try to be kind to myself and not expect myself to be able to do too much. I'm learning that I'll never get over losing my husband. I am learning to take each day as it comes without him. I talk to him all the time so that I can get through each day. I found a support page on Facebook called Grief Speaks Out and her blog www.griefspeaksout.com which also has been tremendously helpful. Take care of yourself. Prayers and hugs.
Comment by JO B alexio on August 25, 2014 at 4:05pm

so sorry linda iv lost so mush faml 2 big c 

all i no 

i h a t e big c its evil its evil 

 

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