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This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.
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Comment by JeshlovesKatrina on January 29, 2010 at 4:39pm -
It's a tough thing. I still can't get over the passing of the love of my life. Everyday is, well worst than the next since she passed. All we can do is cheerish the memories, love the passed ones and remember one day we'll be together again.
It's so true what they say, the best ones get taken first. Why??? I don't know.
I love you my baby...love you always Katrina.
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Comment by Tammy Seymour on January 29, 2010 at 3:53pm
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Kirstine,
I am very sorry to hear about your mom. I cannot relate to the hurt you feel losing a parent as I still have both of my folks; and I am nearly the age of your mother, I am 52. My sons lost their dad just about a year ago to Melanoma, their dad was 50. I have had a hard time relating to their hurt as well. Your mom sounds like she was a very strong Christian woman. She is with the Lord and one day you will be with her too. Until then, keep her alive in your heart, talk about her, look at pictures of her, laugh about funny things she used to do or talk about; as long as you do that she will always remain a part of your life. Cry often because it's all right to cry. Always remember your mom! Take care.
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Comment by Kirstine Rushing on January 29, 2010 at 3:20pm - I just lost my mom, who was also my best friend to stage 4 lung cancer with mestasis to the bone last Friday. She was perfectly healthy and never smoked or drank. She got a bad back ache about 2 years ago and after several doc visits, it was confirmed to be cancer. Words can not describe the pain I have in my heart. I miss her so much and its only been a week. I saw her in so much pain and wanted her to pass on so she didn't have to suffer anymore...she was in diapers and could not talk or even more w/out being in pain, but now selfishly I want her back here so I can hold her just one last time. I can't imagine the rest of my life w/out her. She was only 55 years old and she wasn't ready to die. She cried to me saying she wanted to live to see her grandchildren grow up (my 2 small kids), its just so sad. But she was a very strong Christian and never wavered in her faith. I know exactly where she is now, but it doesn't take the pain in my heart away. I asked her to come to me in my dreams and tell me she is ok. I am really hoping she can figure out a way to do that. Ok, I will stop rambling! Thanks for listening!
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Comment by Katherine Ellis on November 23, 2009 at 6:00am - Can Thanksgiving be only days away? I have so much to be thankful for but I find myself saddened that our daughter won't be here again this year to share it with us. Holidays are the hardest for all of us. Everyone walks around all joyous when all I want is to get them over with. A part of me died the day our daughter died. There will always be that empty, lonely place inside me. I am praying for everyone, that you get the love, comfort and support you need as these holiday's pass by us.
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Comment by JeshlovesKatrina on November 15, 2009 at 11:25pm
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Diana, god knows I am trying. This is something I wish I could do but it hurts so much. I can't eat, can't sleep can't do anything Diana. We are each other's lives. It's like what would you get if you take water from the ocean? The Sun from our lives? That how it is now. It's that bad. We kept each other's life going, made each other complete. Now I really hate life as I know it. Without Katrina, its not worth it. I'm sorry.
I love you my baby, we will be together. I love you so much my wife. My everything, my world. My BABY!!!
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Comment by Diana on November 15, 2009 at 9:32pm - i UNDERSTAND. THE HURT WILL LESSEN. i JUST WENT TO BED WITH A PICUTRE OF MY HUSBAND AND HELD HIM ALL NIGHT. AND WOKE UP WITH HIM IN THE MORNING. i WAS ABLE TO FEEL HIM RIGHT THERE WITH ME. SHE IS THERE WITH YOU. lISTEN FOR HER. FEEL HER. SHE IS YOUR STRENGTH EVEN NOW.
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Comment by JeshlovesKatrina on November 15, 2009 at 4:57pm
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I'm trying Diana. God I'm trying but complete each other. I'm 30 & she is 25 our love will always be the strongest and though we will be together again and forever when the time comes. I cannot live w/o her. Every chance we got the words,"I love you baby" came out of each other's mouths. Her last words to me was,"I LOVE YOU HUSBAND" OMGGG I LOVE YOU. Then baby never woke up. Oh god. I'm dying right now. Why god somebody tell me why? I cannot stop crying and the hurting is so bad. I was going to be an M.D. but when I met her I fell so much in love w/ her I stopped because I want to spend every second w/ her. Now. I can't continue. I'm sorry.
I love you always my baby. My love, my sweetheart, my princess you will always be the love of my life and I will never love again. Until we are together again my baby. I love you Katrina, my wife my baby.
Ajesh love Katrina FOREVER.
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Comment by Diana on November 15, 2009 at 4:05pm
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My heart aches for you Jeshloves. I CANNOT TELL YOU WHY. AND I
i KNOW WE HAVE TO GET THROUGH THIS SOMEHOW. AND WE WILL. SOMEDAYS ARE EASIER AND SOME ONLY TEARS. OUR LOVES , OUR LIVES
OUR HAPPINESS. FORCED TO BE IN A PLACE WE DON'T WANT TO BE.
NOW YOU HAVE ME CRYING. BUT THATS OK.
EACH TEAR GETS ME STRONGER. EACH TEAR LETS ME KNOW HOW i TRULY LOVED MY SPOUSE. KEEP WRITING IT DOES HELP.
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Comment by JeshlovesKatrina on November 15, 2009 at 1:28pm
- Hi, I lost my baby to breast cancer also. CHF (congestive heart failure.) She died in her sleep. I just can't go on now. She is my everything and now she's gone. All the horrible people in the world and all our good love ones has to be taken. WHY???? Please tell me why? I wish I could die right now, so we can be together forever. I know it will come, the time will come again when we are together but I wish it was right now. OH GOD MY BABY IS GONE. I love you Katrina. I love you with all my heart my love. I love you Katrina, my love, my baby. MY WIFE. I LOVE YOU.
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Comment by Diana on November 14, 2009 at 9:30am
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Tania, Grieving is a strange and difficult time. and also very personal.
The one thing I have learned in my jouney with death of loved ones is that if they want you there to see then die you will be there. otherwise if they dont want you with them at tha time you wont be. This Was Moms choice.
I was not at my Moms side when she died but I was there the night before. I treasure those times with her. Very special .
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