Losing Someone to Cancer


Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Anita Jeffery on November 7, 2015 at 7:13pm

I am just past the 10 month mark of losing my husband to Stage IV Pancreatic Cancer.  He was diagnosed in January of 2014, and died 6 hours before his 59th birthday on Dec. 28th of 2014.  I have lost a lot of people in my family over the last 8 years, and by far this is the hardest thing I've ever had to endure.  Sometimes I wish that I could go and be with him.  When people talk about theories about when the world might end, I think...yes, that would take care of it.  I could be with him again.  But, I have a 30 year old son that has some mental health problems, and I know he needs me.  He has ultimately been a great deal of support to me  I know it's wrong to want to simply feel like you would like to die....my therapist always asks me if I am suicidal.  Not exactly.  It's just that every single moment of every day this loss has been a part of me.  It's always there, and if it seems like now and then I feel happier for a little while, as soon as I am alone it's as though I've been physically punched in the stomach, the grief is so strong.  Most people think I am doing well, moving on with life, but every day since the day my husband was diagnosed has been incredibly painful.   22+ long months of grieving with no feeling that anything is going to get better.  Unfortunately I suffered from clinical depression and anxiety before any of this started, and had just gotten to what was almost two years since I lost my Mom.  At the time I couldn't imagine any greater pain.   Another Saturday night alone...

Comment by Fran on November 6, 2015 at 2:57pm

1 year ago today I lost my husband, Bill, to Stage IV lung cancer. In all the deaths that I've had in the family, none came close to the gaping hole and total feeling of being off-balanced when he died.

I just spent the past several hours watching a video of our wedding. I started out with tears and ended up with smiles. I watched the love we shared in his eyes and started remembering better times. I will always miss him, but, I know we had the real thing...and I'm hoping that time really does heal wounds. 

Wishing all happier memories!

Comment by Peggy on November 6, 2015 at 12:36pm

Hello everyone.  I'm new here and am glad to have found you all.  I think it'll be helpful for me to spend some time with folks who know what I'm going through.  My husband died suddenly on August 16 this year.  He'd been ill but this was very much unexpected.  Thank you so much for being here, I'm looking forward to reading your stories and sharing with you all.

Comment by Shirley on November 5, 2015 at 4:48pm

 Hello to all...Hoping your days are getting a bit easier to contend with.  We all move forward a little each day that passes. The loss and grief remains with us but as time moves slowly forward, we rely on our memories. Our loved ones have found Peace and one glad day we will all be re-united with them. I look forward to seeing my family members and dear friends. Thinking good thoughts today for all who post here. Blessings for you. 

Comment by Megan on November 5, 2015 at 2:28pm
Hi to everyone that is new. I am so sorry for your losses. Thinking of you all today. Xx
Comment by beth on November 5, 2015 at 1:43pm
I have lost a lot of loved ones to cancer :(and I miss them so much
Comment by Shirley on October 19, 2015 at 10:45am

Hello to all , Have been posting here at different intervals, as I lost my hubby on April 29 2014.  Has been almost 18 months now.  He  had five different areas of his body riddled with Cancer. The grief feelings still linger but it does get easier as time moves forward. With the pain, medicines, confusions, dementia issues, it was a Blessing to me that GOD took him home. Know he is a better place and free from all issues while here on Earth. He is missed by all who was around him and everyone  remembers him with care and love. Want to say I relate to your feelings  and I found some peace by attending Hospice of the Valley Grief Support Group  meetings. This might not help everyone, but if you care to try, it might be of support for you . GOD be with each of you and may your days  be filled with wonderful memories of your loved ones who have had to leave you behind.   Prayers for each and all.

Comment by Wendy Kwasniewski on October 19, 2015 at 9:02am

My beautiful Mom died Friday 10/16/15 at 6pm of lung cancer. God also called my Dad home 10/17/2008, he died of prostate cancer. Today is a hard day because I am going to her apt. to clean it out and let hospice get their equipment. I am not sure what to say just yet. I miss my Mom. She will be laid out this Wed. and buried this Thursday. I am sure I will have lots to say later. Please pray we can get through this without losing it. Thank you.

Comment by Cindy Akerley on September 28, 2015 at 1:52pm
It's been 10 months yesterday since I lost my sister (not under good circumstances)...it is not getting easier for me, time is not easing my pain, I just take it one day at a time....that's all I can do.....take all the time you need!!!
Comment by Anica H on September 28, 2015 at 1:43pm

Hi, I am new to this. Just lost my husband Izzy to cancer on 9/1/2015. Not sure how to deal with my emotions and continue with my life. I was told time will help, but I am not sure. I was reading some of your posts and it helped me knowing I am not alone. Thank you


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