Losing Someone to Cancer


Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Losing my love of my life husband to lung cancer 10 Replies

Started by Toyanne. Last reply by Shirley Stacy Wallick Jul 19.

Gene Testing.... Would love any input 2 Replies

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18 years old without my mom 1 Reply

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Comment by marilyn rumball on July 9, 2014 at 12:36am

Mom also had lung cancer and was on oxygen for many years and lived a lot longer then they thought she would. 


Comment by marilyn rumball on July 9, 2014 at 12:34am

My family has had a very bad year and a half.  My favorite uncle passed away from cancer of the kidney in2012.  My mom passed away at 86 in Feb. 2013.  My spouse was diagnosed with follicular lymphoma in May of 2013.  My brother passed away in Sept of 2013 and my spouse passed away on April 30th of this year.  I read somewhere that a human body can tolerate or stand one dealth a year.  I guess that explains why at times it is so overwhelming.


Comment by Joe H on July 8, 2014 at 6:54pm

I've lost 4 siblings to cancer and none of them had the same type. I'm new to this group and will check in again later. Just thought I'd introduce myself though.

Comment by Pat on April 25, 2014 at 2:52pm

It's been 18 month since my husband died of esophageal cancer that had spread to his liver.  He went to the doctor the first part of Sept 2012, was diagnosed the last of September and died October 16.  Hospice was a true God send.

Comment by VickyJ on April 14, 2014 at 11:58am

Thanks so much, Mary. I have one friend who has said it seems disrespectful, but I do not see it that way. I am simply asking her to honor Mark's wishes that he did not have a chance to put into writing. And she knows our history and all about our life together, so I am hoping she does the "right" thing.  :)  It's a real blessing to hear you say kind words and give me encouragement.  Thanks!

Comment by Mary M. on April 14, 2014 at 11:37am
Vicky1 I have to say I think it is brave of you to write to mark's mum and I applaud you. I sincerely hope that it works out for you. My husband actually had his will updated from his hospital bed so that there could be no misunderstandings. I pray that Marks mum will agree that giving you the money would be what Mark would have wanted. Hugs & blessings
Comment by Mary M. on April 14, 2014 at 11:26am
Toyanne I am so sorry for your very recent loss. My heart goes out to you. I know I was in shock for a long time and I am sure you feel that way too. This is an awesome group of people who have all list loved ones and can truly understand the emotions you are going through. They were my life line and many have become good friends. Hugs & prayers coming out to you.
Comment by VickyJ on April 14, 2014 at 10:36am

Group members, I took a bold stance this weekend when I mailed a letter to the mother of my fiance who died in January. to catch everyone up:  Mark had cancer, was doing much better, suddenly they found cancer again and he was gone from us within a week. Mark had a million dollar plus estate.  He had no children, etc.  He had made a simple will the day we learned he had "six months or less" and he named his mom (who is 80) executor and his only heir. At that time he told me he would be telling her what he wanted given to everyone etc...but he didn't live long enough to do that.   So, this weekend I mailed her a letter from my heart telling her what Mark and I had discussed that he would do for me and asking her to honor his wishes. Basically, it's a request for $80,000 to finish paying for my condo. I asked politely, and I reminded her of our plans to marry this very month, if he had lived.  I ask that all of you pray for her sense of fairness and what is right. Mark would not have wanted me to be left out.......he made that clear verbally.  Thank you! 

Comment by VickyJ on March 31, 2014 at 6:59am

Hi Toyanne, first, I am so very sorry for your recent loss, and second, I am so glad that you have decided to share with our group.  Like you, we have lost loved ones to cruel cancer and are going through much of the same emotions that you do. Please know that we care and we are here for you! 

Comment by Toyanne on March 29, 2014 at 11:07pm

I just lost my husband of 18 years to lung cancer yesterday I'm having such a hard time coping and handling his death


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