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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Started by Lahiwe. Last reply by Bill Smith on Friday.

Losing my love of my life husband to lung cancer 6 Replies

Started by Toyanne. Last reply by VickyJ Mar 31.

How do you stop the guilt? 9 Replies

Started by TamLynn. Last reply by Barb Yenolp Mar 29.

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Comment by VickyJ on April 14, 2014 at 11:58am

Thanks so much, Mary. I have one friend who has said it seems disrespectful, but I do not see it that way. I am simply asking her to honor Mark's wishes that he did not have a chance to put into writing. And she knows our history and all about our life together, so I am hoping she does the "right" thing.  :)  It's a real blessing to hear you say kind words and give me encouragement.  Thanks!

Comment by Mary M. on April 14, 2014 at 11:37am
Vicky1 I have to say I think it is brave of you to write to mark's mum and I applaud you. I sincerely hope that it works out for you. My husband actually had his will updated from his hospital bed so that there could be no misunderstandings. I pray that Marks mum will agree that giving you the money would be what Mark would have wanted. Hugs & blessings
Comment by Mary M. on April 14, 2014 at 11:26am
Toyanne I am so sorry for your very recent loss. My heart goes out to you. I know I was in shock for a long time and I am sure you feel that way too. This is an awesome group of people who have all list loved ones and can truly understand the emotions you are going through. They were my life line and many have become good friends. Hugs & prayers coming out to you.
Comment by VickyJ on April 14, 2014 at 10:36am

Group members, I took a bold stance this weekend when I mailed a letter to the mother of my fiance who died in January. to catch everyone up:  Mark had cancer, was doing much better, suddenly they found cancer again and he was gone from us within a week. Mark had a million dollar plus estate.  He had no children, etc.  He had made a simple will the day we learned he had "six months or less" and he named his mom (who is 80) executor and his only heir. At that time he told me he would be telling her what he wanted given to everyone etc...but he didn't live long enough to do that.   So, this weekend I mailed her a letter from my heart telling her what Mark and I had discussed that he would do for me and asking her to honor his wishes. Basically, it's a request for $80,000 to finish paying for my condo. I asked politely, and I reminded her of our plans to marry this very month, if he had lived.  I ask that all of you pray for her sense of fairness and what is right. Mark would not have wanted me to be left out.......he made that clear verbally.  Thank you! 

Comment by VickyJ on March 31, 2014 at 6:59am

Hi Toyanne, first, I am so very sorry for your recent loss, and second, I am so glad that you have decided to share with our group.  Like you, we have lost loved ones to cruel cancer and are going through much of the same emotions that you do. Please know that we care and we are here for you! 

Comment by Toyanne on March 29, 2014 at 11:07pm

I just lost my husband of 18 years to lung cancer yesterday I'm having such a hard time coping and handling his death

Comment by VickyJ on March 28, 2014 at 7:01am

Thanks Barb and everyone else.  Today is the two month anniversary of Mark's passing.  I just can't believe that he is gone. But I know I am not alone and that all of you are feeling very similar things, and it helps to know that.  Blessings to all!

Comment by Barb Yenolp on March 27, 2014 at 8:15pm

Thank you Raven and Vicky, your words are very appreciated. It really helps to have people who know what you mean. Vicky I am so sorry about your wedding. I can't even imagine your pain. We will all support you and help you through,

 

Comment by Mary M. on March 27, 2014 at 10:28am
Vicky sending hugs to you.
Comment by VickyJ on March 27, 2014 at 9:00am

I got the refund today from the wedding planner in Florida; I can't believe that Mark has been gone two months!  I can't believe there will be no beach wedding.......I thank God for His comfort and pray for all of you who join me in this time of grief. 

 

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