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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Trina Mamoon 12 hours ago

Just reading these recent posts full of love and emotion for departed spouses brought tears to my eyes. Betsy and James, you were blessed to have such a love in your life. I, too, was blessed while it lasted for 19 years. I lost my wonderful husband to lung cancer this past August, and like so many spouses and partners on this forum, we shared a special love. When Joseph and I were together we didn't need anyone else. We had many friends and loving families, but honestly speaking, we fulfilled each other completely and we were deeply happy. And everyone else knew that and sometimes teased us about it.

Sometimes I think that if there is a God, then s/he is a jealous God. So often, it's those couples who loved each other more than their own life are robbed of their beloved spouse too soon. 

I have read stories of great love on this forum, and it makes me wonder why those of us who knew this kind of love had to lose our loved ones so cruelly and so soon. Is it because good things don't last for long? Must be. I console myself by saying that I should be thankful that I knew such a love that not everyone is fortunate enough to know. Small comfort, but nonetheless there is some truth in it. 

So while we await our turn--and I hope and pray that mine comes soon--let's find comfort in the thought that we had the great fortune of sharing our life with that wonderfully amazing person.   

Peace to all you bereaved friends.

Comment by James Quinn 16 hours ago

I lost my soul mate of twenty four years to bladder cancer on the 13/09 14 in all that time i told her everyday i loved her , we had friends and family but we were happiest when we just had eat others company.A lot of the time we knew what each other was going to say we would burst out in  laughter when it happened . And then from having abdominal pain until she died was only twelve weeks i would have changed places with her in a heartbeat i told her so all she would say was never.So know what seems forever i am on  sleeping pills all i want to do is join her  we had no children due to her epilepsy it would have been to much for her . Sometimes the subject of dying came we both agreed one of us being left behind without the other would be to much to handle so in a half joking way  we agreed to go together.So i feel trapped i could not do anything that would    give her and my family any pain and yet i feel all i am doing is waiting to join her. I told her i will find her no matter how or how long it would take ,I spent all the time she was in hospital by her side apart from two nights that family made me go home to get some rest so here i am i feel i died that night as well.

Comment by Betsy Arnold 20 hours ago

Hi Leesa, I am so sorry for your loss. My husband of 18 years died 5 years ago from Leukemia at the age of 43. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him and miss him so much. He died with us still very much in love with each other. We were unable to have children, and moving forward has been so hard. Our hopes, dreams, and plans died right along with him. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Comment by Betsy Arnold 20 hours ago

Lourianiah, you are in my thoughts and prayers as you go through today. I understand those very hard "Anniversaries" too. That is definitely a great plan to commemorate him.

Comment by Trina Mamoon 20 hours ago

Hello Leesa,

I am so sorry for your untimely loss. It all seems so cruel and utterly senseless. Why is also I often ask, why Joseph, so soon, and now. Unfortunately, there are no answers, only grief, restlessness, and pain. My deepest sympathy for you. Take one day at a time and think of the good times you spent together. Hope that over time the intensity of the pain lessens some and you find peace.

Comment by Leesa Lynch yesterday

Well my soul mate who I met when I was 12 he was13 we met on the school bus dated all through high school got married right out of high school we would have been married 28 yrs Dec 28 2014 died of lung cancer Dec 6 2014 we were happily married was looking forward to retirement so we could see the world together we had already raised our two children but for some reason God took him early and left me alone

Comment by Trina Mamoon yesterday

Dear Louraniah,

My thoughts and prayers are going your way as you face the 29th, nine months since your dear husband left this world. You have a good plan, planting roses and blooming flowers to honor his memory and to remember him by. Have courage, my fellow sufferer, and try to make it through the day as best as you can. Someday you will be reunited with him. 

Comment by louraniah yesterday
Thanks Roger & Trina for your most comforting messages to me. I get peace and comfort when I come on here and post to others that are grieving the same was as me.Today, the 29, will be nine months since my dear husband took his Journey to Heaven. Has been the longest nine months I have had to endure in my life. As we grow older,we do not have much time to plan for too many days , weeks or even hours,as our life seems to start to fade away slowly. and wonder how many lonely days and nights can we get through. Our partners have to leave us behind but part of our life goes away with them anyhow. Right now I feel as if I have been alone all my life and I know that is not true.I rely on GOD so much, to get me across the hurdles that jump up in front of me. Life really does continue to exist after the death, but who wants to live alone after you have had the best life possible with your loved one? Today will be difficult for me, but I am planning on planting some new Roses and a few other blooming flowers, keep singing our favorite song, ask God to keep the Devil away from me so I can enjoy my memories for a little while. Will send prayers for all of you, as your day slowly passes by for you also. Thanks for keeping this Comment Wall open for us to vend when we can not take another minute of the grief. My love and friendship go out to each of you. May GOD Bless every one of you too.
Comment by louraniah yesterday
Thanks Roger & Trina for your most comforting messages to me. I get peace and comfort when I come on here and post to others that are grieving the same was as me.Today, the 29, will be nine months since my dear husband took his Journey to Heaven. Has been the longest nine months I have had to endure in my life. As we grow older,we do not have much time to plan for too many days , weeks or even hours,as our life seems to start to fade away slowly. and wonder how many lonely days and nights can we get through. Our partners have to leave us behind but part of our life goes away with them anyhow. Right now I feel as if I have been alone all my life and I know that is not true.I rely on GOD so much, to get me across the hurdles that jump up in front of me. Life really does continue to exist after the death, but who wants to live alone after you have had the best life possible with your loved one? Today will be difficult for me, but I am planning on planting some new Roses and a few other blooming flowers, keep singing our favorite song, ask God to keep the Devil away from me so I can enjoy my memories for a little while. Will send prayers for all of you, as your day slowly passes by for you also. Thanks for keeping this Comment Wall open for us to vend when we can not take another minute of the grief. My love and friendship go out to each of you. May GOD Bless every one of you too.
Comment by louraniah yesterday
Thanks Roger & Trina for your most comforting messages to me. I get peace and comfort when I come on here and post to others that are grieving the same was as me.Today, the 29, will be nine months since my dear husband took his Journey to Heaven. Has been the longest nine months I have had to endure in my life. As we grow older,we do not have much time to plan for too many days , weeks or even hours,as our life seems to start to fade away slowly. and wonder how many lonely days and nights can we get through. Our partners have to leave us behind but part of our life goes away with them anyhow. Right now I feel as if I have been alone all my life and I know that is not true.I rely on GOD so much, to get me across the hurdles that jump up in front of me. Life really does continue to exist after the death, but who wants to live alone after you have had the best life possible with your loved one? Today will be difficult for me, but I am planning on planting some new Roses and a few other blooming flowers, keep singing our favorite song, ask God to keep the Devil away from me so I can enjoy my memories for a little while. Will send prayers for all of you, as your day slowly passes by for you also. Thanks for keeping this Comment Wall open for us to vend when we can not take another minute of the grief. My love and friendship go out to each of you. May GOD Bless every one of you too.
 

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