Losing Someone to Cancer


Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Stupid cancer commercials 6 Replies

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I Wish Someone Will Take Care of the Paperworks for Free 2 Replies

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Comment by Anonymity be my name on September 16, 2017 at 4:05pm
This is my blog. I am feeling angry and lost.

Comment by Linda Engberg on July 29, 2017 at 3:38pm

Hi Morgan,

Babe J has regained use of her paws, I prayed so hard and I think he answered my prayers. If anything happens to her it is the end of my life/

Comment by morgan on July 29, 2017 at 1:02am

Oh no, Linda, not Babie J?  I am so sorry.  It's like life just wants to  keep throwing things at us just to see our breaking point.  I am constantly watching my life just shrink down.  All I want to do is staying bed and sleep.  

Comment by Linda Engberg on July 28, 2017 at 12:58pm

Don't care if I die, I have nothing to live for since losing my Husband 5/5/13 and my dog having brain cancer. What purpose is there to life.

Comment by Donna Doucette on July 26, 2017 at 4:33pm

My daughter is in med school and is currently doing a clinical rotation in Oncology.  Cancer is a terrible disease. She said she sees all stages of cancer and how it is affecting people.  Most of the patients she sees are smokers or heavy drinkers or obese.    My husband passed from brain cancer.  He was diagnosed and passed within 20 days.  He had liver disease from alcohol, he was a very heavy smoker, but I don't care how badly someone treats their own body, no one deserves to die this way.  Since his death I have decided to take charge of my life.  I eat better, exercise and I feel I'm doing it for him.   I seem to have a different outlook on life and it helps me deal with the grief of losing him.  I find I sleep better.  There is no way to ever know if someone is going to get cancer, or just die suddenly but I know he would want me to embrace every day and that's what doing.....some of the time

Comment by Linda Engberg on July 26, 2017 at 7:58am

I agree with your Mom, cancer is the devil.

Comment by nouse on July 25, 2017 at 11:11pm

my mom said cancer was the devil... she died in 4 months.i send you all a lot of strength and more strength ive depression too so i dont see a point in living but most normal people say theres a point.

Comment by Esther on July 24, 2017 at 7:38pm
I hate seeing pictures of him... he's so thin like the people in the Holocaust pictures.
Comment by Linda Engberg on July 24, 2017 at 8:29am


You said it perfect, there is nothing worth living for without my Husband to share it with.

Comment by Esther on July 23, 2017 at 6:37pm

Today has been waves of numb detachment for me... I try to be positive and hopeful but sometimes we can't force it and must just tolerate the sadness


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A group for people who have lost loved ones with prolonged suffering. For those of us who have seen that the end is coming, and had to watch the ones we love creep toward it.
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Louise replied to Ashley Lounsbury's discussion I lost my daddy to suicide.
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Does Counselling Really Help?

I’ve not been on here for a while, it’s been so hard just trying to get through the days; keeping myself busy, trying desperately hard not to think about things and often failing miserably. I’m so tired of feeling so shitty all the time. I had my first session with a counsellor today, after feeling initially nervous and not wanting to say much everything came out and I cried like a baby. I feel absolutely drained now and very emotional. So my question is this, does counselling really help or…See More
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Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Morgan, I feel the same as you it has been 4 years 3 months my wonderful husband died. I wish God would just take me. All I am is a zombie walking around in this hell. Linda   "
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Trina Mamoon commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
""All I want, like most of the rest of you, is to reunite with my husband.  I want to know he is ok.  I want to hold him again.  I want his love.  The sooner the better." Morgan's words, simple yet so profound,…"
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
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Ashley Lounsbury posted a discussion

I lost my daddy to suicide.

My daddy was a us navy veteran who brutually killed himself on September 27, 2017 at the age of 51.My Daddy had become really emotionally sick in recent years. He was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. Which of course he didn't believe because he thought that was the Va trying to control him. He became really hard to be around as he has these crazy conspiracy theories and he heard and saw things that didn't exist that proved to him he was right. Then he started believing people were out to…See More
Nancy commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I'm the same way bluebird"
bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"And along with being incredibly sad all the time, I am also very angry, all the time.  Right now I want to jump out of my fucking skin, I want to punch everything, I want to yell and scream. I can't even contain this level of anger;…"
bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Absolutely, Paul.  We do not deserve to live in this hell."
Paul commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
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bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Same here; I feel just like morgan and everyone else. My husband died five years ago, and my "life" is no better -- in many ways, it is worse, both as a result of his death and due to other factors.  For me, the pain of his death, of…"
Paul commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"This seems to be an especially hard time for a lot of us lately. I feel exactly the same way as the previous 4 posters."
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Elderley Abuse Mum died

I lost my mum in September. She was subject to elderly abuse by my older sister. I dont know where to start from. The anger and rage I have for my elder sister, its not funny. I try to get the vision out of my head, and how she treated my mother. The pain is excruciating that i feel, I need to join my mother. I spent a week in the crises centre. I hope this grief and anger passes.Question: how do I accept or come to terms with the matter.I do have evidence supported by my other siblings. The…See More
Mel Royer posted a blog post

Letter to My Nancy #602 one of my daily letters to my lady

I began writing one of these each day, beginning December 2015 to ease my grief and start each day with some hope and joy. The hope and joy would last for awhile and then I would be back in the throes of deep, dark misery. I recommend these emails that are never sent as excellent therapy. I have written 602 of them in the 2 and  a half years since I lost my Nancy. Here is today's letter to Nancy. Letter to My Nancy  602   Sun., Oct 15th, 2017   without youGood Sun afternoon my other half. My…See More

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