Losing Someone to Cancer


Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Losing my love of my life husband to lung cancer 11 Replies

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18 years old without my mom 1 Reply

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Comment by Linda K on Wednesday

Hi ASKala,

I am equally sorry for your loss. I thought of my husband as my best friend, my heart feels like someone ran it over with something sharp. I talk to him and ask him to connect with me in a way I will know it is him, went away to NJ shore with kids who had never set foot on the beach at the ocean and came home to a single flower growing in my overgrown flower bed, not a variety already planted there, fully in bloom, want to believe it is him that made that happen. Having a hard time finding a support group in my town that works around the schedule of 4 kids who are all in activities outside of school. I will check out the facebook lead. Thanks.

Comment by ASKala on Monday
Hi Linda,
So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband to bladder cancer May 28, 2014. He was 59 years old. I wish I could share some magical, insightful words to help you "pick up the pieces." What I have found is that this is the most difficult and painful experience of my life. My husband was/is my soulmate. What's working for me is going to a support group to talk about my loss. I try to be kind to myself and not expect myself to be able to do too much. I'm learning that I'll never get over losing my husband. I am learning to take each day as it comes without him. I talk to him all the time so that I can get through each day. I found a support page on Facebook called Grief Speaks Out and her blog www.griefspeaksout.com which also has been tremendously helpful. Take care of yourself. Prayers and hugs.
Comment by JO B alexio on Monday

so sorry linda iv lost so mush faml 2 big c 

all i no 

i h a t e big c its evil its evil 

Comment by Linda K on Monday

Hi I am new to this site and group. Lost my husband of 20 years whom I had been friends with since 18 to Acute Myleoid Leukemia, he was diagnosed 7/6/14 and died 7/26/14 and was only 53. I am wondering if anyone in this group lost a loved one to Leukemia can shed some light on how to begin to pick up the pieces.

Comment by marilyn rumball on July 9, 2014 at 12:36am

Mom also had lung cancer and was on oxygen for many years and lived a lot longer then they thought she would. 


Comment by marilyn rumball on July 9, 2014 at 12:34am

My family has had a very bad year and a half.  My favorite uncle passed away from cancer of the kidney in2012.  My mom passed away at 86 in Feb. 2013.  My spouse was diagnosed with follicular lymphoma in May of 2013.  My brother passed away in Sept of 2013 and my spouse passed away on April 30th of this year.  I read somewhere that a human body can tolerate or stand one dealth a year.  I guess that explains why at times it is so overwhelming.


Comment by Joe H on July 8, 2014 at 6:54pm

I've lost 4 siblings to cancer and none of them had the same type. I'm new to this group and will check in again later. Just thought I'd introduce myself though.

Comment by Pat on April 25, 2014 at 2:52pm

It's been 18 month since my husband died of esophageal cancer that had spread to his liver.  He went to the doctor the first part of Sept 2012, was diagnosed the last of September and died October 16.  Hospice was a true God send.

Comment by VickyJ on April 14, 2014 at 11:58am

Thanks so much, Mary. I have one friend who has said it seems disrespectful, but I do not see it that way. I am simply asking her to honor Mark's wishes that he did not have a chance to put into writing. And she knows our history and all about our life together, so I am hoping she does the "right" thing.  :)  It's a real blessing to hear you say kind words and give me encouragement.  Thanks!

Comment by Mary M. on April 14, 2014 at 11:37am
Vicky1 I have to say I think it is brave of you to write to mark's mum and I applaud you. I sincerely hope that it works out for you. My husband actually had his will updated from his hospital bed so that there could be no misunderstandings. I pray that Marks mum will agree that giving you the money would be what Mark would have wanted. Hugs & blessings

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