Losing Someone to Cancer

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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Linda Engberg on June 2, 2017 at 8:20am

Hi Irina,

I feel the same as you, don't care if I die, I'm 68 and hope God takes me Life i so hard, each day gets worse, not better. 

Comment by irina s on June 2, 2017 at 7:13am

I hate waiting too but for me whenever i think i cant wait to be bruial next to him its gets me happy.. i wish i would hurry up n get old faster n get extreme illness so i can be with him. I hate when ppl tell you to enjoy life its so pretty esp in summer i said nope not without my hubby i rather suffer and be miserable and depression to extreme that maybe just maybe i will suffer illness also i don't take care of my health either so maybe it will speed up  

Comment by Fran on June 1, 2017 at 10:55am

I almost feel like I'm sliding backwards. The longer I am without Bill, the less I'm able to deal with things. Things that really shouldn't bring anxiety,DO. I find that  am more fearful of what could happen instead of being more positive. I could always count on Bill to deal with any car, home or technical issues. Now I obsess over it and am never sure I've done right. My adult children live with me and my son is pretty good at fixing things but I don't trust him as much as I did my husband. It's not fair to them.

Comment by Linda Engberg on June 1, 2017 at 8:00am

Hi Michael,

I feel exactly as you do, I am nothing without my Husband Julian, it's been four years. I am sick of pretending to be happy and am dying on the inside. Nothing makes me happy anymore. I hate waking up each morning and know I have to go another day without him.  

Comment by Michael Thompson on June 1, 2017 at 4:03am

A message from Michael Thompson to all members of Losing Someone to Cancer on Online Grief Support - A Social Community!

In one way it seems like 5 minutes. In another way it seems like a hundred years. My days are filled with despair. My wife died from bowel cancer in 2014. 2 and a half years later I remain so terribly lost without her guidance, her love, and what we shared, my wife had a huge influence on me in so many areas. She was a class act, she was far too good for me, and I told her this because it was part of our rapport, her answer was that she knew, and then she laughed. Without my lady by my side I am nothing, worthless, this is how I feel. I know that dying is a part of life, but we never think about it until it happens. 

Since my wife's passing, I have lost interest in everything, nothing means anything anymore.

When im walking our little Yorkie, I meet women in my situation, and they all say that men find it harder.

I would like to throw this open for discussion.

Thank you for reading.

Michael in the UK

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 7, 2017 at 6:18am

It has been 4 years and I still miss my husband every hour of everyday.

Comment by Michael on April 16, 2017 at 11:35am

Katherine, your mom sounds just like mine.  I thought I was the only one who had a mom that loved you for who you are because the people I know never truly understood me but her.  You brought back memories as though mu mom was here with me right now.

Comment by loui gae on February 28, 2017 at 7:30pm

it is the worst for anyone has to go through fought a six year battle but it won out in the end my mate of fifty years is gone and there was nothing i could  to fix it 

Comment by JO B on January 28, 2017 at 11:49am

me 2 kevin it ruens livs it duz it kills us 2 2 sea loved 1s sufferr it can

Comment by Kevin Bailey on January 28, 2017 at 11:29am

I truly hate what cancer did to my beautiful wife, no one should ever have to go through that, cancer has stolen a precious gift from all of us. the pain I have isn't going anywhere, I really hate myself for not being able to do more, I tried my best but it was too strong, I remember trying to just get her to eat but she just couldn't, it would be a battle everyday to get her to eat or at least drink an Ensure. I didn't understand what she was going through, I just wanted her to eat and get stronger and come back to me. I just love and miss her so very much. I feel like I missed the flight she was on and got left behind. God knows I wanna get a flight to where she is right now but I gotta be here for our kids. My heart is broken never to be repaired again until I join my beautiful wife again.

 

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