Losing Someone to Cancer

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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Linda Engberg on July 2, 2016 at 1:54pm

4th year without my beloved Husband to celebrate the 4th.

Comment by julia bobbitt on July 1, 2016 at 7:26pm

lost my sister to cancer in february.Miss her terribly. 31 years ago lost my mom to cancer.

Comment by JO B on June 22, 2016 at 2:38am

she can do su thngs its verbl abus nite day i get on/off bt bean tld its gona get wors wev bean tld its gona get wors soon it wil atckin us 

Comment by Donna Doucette on June 21, 2016 at 8:00pm

Is she able to do anything for herself?

Comment by JO B on June 21, 2016 at 5:40pm

sum days i feal lk i wish i cud run go on run ocz of ths devilss ilnes dnt no wish 1s wors demsaha or big c bth bad i no 

its geti t yelid at e day or dif tmoods moods wish i dnt no im wored 1 day ill end u; bean kied kiled i am bit coz of guvmt cut bks in uk it wil hapen 

my nercs so bad im shaky so msuh on off i am

i feal lk thm in prsin prison seam 2 hav mre fred thn we do or i do its lk 1 crul blow aftr NR CRUEL BLOW U CUD SAY

latly i need 2 rabl on hear i just wory in cas i upset or ofenf ofedd anyy 1 on hear do

jiuts juts feals lk iv bean put thru hell i do

dad dieds in 2012 thn so mush loss

lk 201 so mush loss

thn 2014 loss

2015 loss

2016 loss

its lk iv brok a bedin miror coz of all shttyyyyyyyyyyyyyy luckk iv had u cud say

its nit slf pity its nt its me bean psit off inlif off in lif u cud say coz of all shitt iv had tost it me

i get mad u sea  a peado smirkin coz yju hav go way not bean pusnd

u sea seril kiler grinin thy go do it agan

thn  wy us on hear we v gt lif sentse u cud say 1s its lozin pepel 2 big c or had a ls2 s 1 its had it we or thyv got lif senytse of musij thm or sean thm suffer u cud  say

or we feal so sad coz of loss we had misiin person we had evn sad wen  kids not had lif get bi c or siuffr suffer u cud say

Comment by JO B on June 21, 2016 at 3:54pm

yep it can be k lk livin in helllllllllll u cud say its yellin hribl thngs bean sead it gets 2 me 

pepel say dnt let it get 2 me 

but i do 

Comment by Donna Doucette on June 21, 2016 at 3:52pm

It was hard, I would want to throw something, I would cry.  People would look at me with such pity and after he passed there were several people who told me.. now it's your turn to live.  I still have anxiety and I always think I wish I could talk to him, tell me what he felt and if he is at peace and ok.  We lived thru it though.  I keep thinking if I get sick, I will I be like that?  I would hate to put that on my daughter

Comment by Susan on June 21, 2016 at 3:32pm

You are both wise to walk away from your loved one and cool down and collect yourself when they don't treat you right. I've had to do that, too. It's far better than getting angry and yelling back at them. I've made that mistake, too. My husband could push my hot buttons easily and I sometimes got upset at him instead of walking away. I also did a lot of holding my tongue and not saying anything at all. I wasn't free to speak in my own home for many hours of each day unless I wanted a confrontation that would go nowhere but downhill.

Comment by JO B on June 21, 2016 at 12:06pm

pity thy dint giv us a book on howw 2 handl thes ortbrtst wen thy kikck off it us

its lk we 1s its get pusnhd u cud say i fw feal lk iv bean pusnd enuf i do

Comment by Donna Doucette on June 21, 2016 at 11:16am

I always had to put into perspective the disease.   I remember friends came and brought food, at this point my husband was in a hospital bed unable to walk.   I was about to eat and he called me, I started to walk to him and his buddy said hey Dan what do you need, I'll get it, Donna is eating and he got angry and said no I want her now!  No, I would never verbalize to him how tired I was or anything.  He had been given a 3 week life sentence at that point, I would have to walk away or go outside and collect myself.  Hospice had told us to expect this. That they are angry and they will take it out on the one they are closest to.  Life is always changing and I take nothing for granted.

 

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