Losing Someone to Cancer


Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Stupid cancer commercials 5 Replies

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I Wish Someone Will Take Care of the Paperworks for Free 2 Replies

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Losing another loved one to cancer 2 Replies

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Comment by Linda Engberg on July 29, 2017 at 3:38pm

Hi Morgan,

Babe J has regained use of her paws, I prayed so hard and I think he answered my prayers. If anything happens to her it is the end of my life/

Comment by morgan on July 29, 2017 at 1:02am

Oh no, Linda, not Babie J?  I am so sorry.  It's like life just wants to  keep throwing things at us just to see our breaking point.  I am constantly watching my life just shrink down.  All I want to do is staying bed and sleep.  

Comment by Linda Engberg on July 28, 2017 at 12:58pm

Don't care if I die, I have nothing to live for since losing my Husband 5/5/13 and my dog having brain cancer. What purpose is there to life.

Comment by Donna Doucette on July 26, 2017 at 4:33pm

My daughter is in med school and is currently doing a clinical rotation in Oncology.  Cancer is a terrible disease. She said she sees all stages of cancer and how it is affecting people.  Most of the patients she sees are smokers or heavy drinkers or obese.    My husband passed from brain cancer.  He was diagnosed and passed within 20 days.  He had liver disease from alcohol, he was a very heavy smoker, but I don't care how badly someone treats their own body, no one deserves to die this way.  Since his death I have decided to take charge of my life.  I eat better, exercise and I feel I'm doing it for him.   I seem to have a different outlook on life and it helps me deal with the grief of losing him.  I find I sleep better.  There is no way to ever know if someone is going to get cancer, or just die suddenly but I know he would want me to embrace every day and that's what doing.....some of the time

Comment by Linda Engberg on July 26, 2017 at 7:58am

I agree with your Mom, cancer is the devil.

Comment by nouse on July 25, 2017 at 11:11pm

my mom said cancer was the devil... she died in 4 months.i send you all a lot of strength and more strength ive depression too so i dont see a point in living but most normal people say theres a point.

Comment by Esther on July 24, 2017 at 7:38pm
I hate seeing pictures of him... he's so thin like the people in the Holocaust pictures.
Comment by Linda Engberg on July 24, 2017 at 8:29am


You said it perfect, there is nothing worth living for without my Husband to share it with.

Comment by Esther on July 23, 2017 at 6:37pm

Today has been waves of numb detachment for me... I try to be positive and hopeful but sometimes we can't force it and must just tolerate the sadness

Comment by JO B on July 23, 2017 at 4:09pm

sorry for evry 1 it goin thru hell i am 

i feal k im livin in hell coz of all bad shit wev had coz of loss


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Janie m Snitko commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I hope everybody has a loving good weekend and let's celebrate our Mom's for giving us life. I love you Mama!!"
2 hours ago
Linda Engberg replied to Jennifer's discussion They don't understand. in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Jennifer, It has been 4 years since I lost my Husband and soulmate to cancer. My family and friends tell me that time will things better. To tell you the truth the only way I keep my sanity, is adopting a dog and seeing my therapist and…"
8 hours ago
KIM Montgomery replied to Jennifer's discussion They don't understand. in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Jennifer, my husband passed May 2, 2017.  We had a wonderful marriage and we loved each other with all of our hearts.  Jack was an awesome person.  I am currently going through this with my own family.  I am away from my family…"
10 hours ago
KIM Montgomery commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hello, well I made it through my 1st anniversary without him.  It was a really hard day, Wednesday.  I miss him like crazy and love him so much. Today I just feel numb.  All these stages of grief are exhausting.  Working full…"
15 hours ago
Mike H. posted a blog post

Repost: Is It Wrong to Grieve?

Is It Wrong to Grieve?Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that. “There is no such thing as ‘getting over’ grief,” writes Dr. Alan Wolfelt in his book Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart. However, he adds: “Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften.”As an example, consider how the patriarch Abraham reacted when his wife died. The Bible says that “Abraham began…See More
17 hours ago
Angela commented on Angela's blog post I lost My Mom
"I think because my daughter is giving me my first grand child it has blocked out some of the hurt I feel. Even though I am not crying I do think about my mom all the time, everyday"
Alice Thompson commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Jennifer, I remember when the anger started burning inside me too. It was horrible and ugly and scary, and immensely powerful. I felt afraid to open my mouth in front of others in case I screamed and yelled and told them what I thought of them and…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"My mom loved Judge Judy. You couldn't convince her that was not a real courtroom. She also loved The Shark Tank and Everybody Loves Raymond. It all seems like just yesterday since we watched those shows together. I love those shows, too, but it…"
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hello AnneJ and everyone,  In a couple of weeks it will be 3 years since I lost all that mattered to me.  Six months ago I started unpacking and hung some pictures where I live now.  I did it out of embarrassment rather than a desire…"
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
Jennifer added a discussion to the group Lost My Spouse...

They don't understand.

How do you deal with well meaning family/friends who just don't understand what you're going through? 2 of my sisters-in-law still have their husbands.  One does not have a good marriage, she talks about her husband dying flippantly she says things like "I know if _____ died I would use the insurance money to go on that vacation he never wants to go on."  Then in the next breath "Are you still going on your cruise next year?  I could take (my husband's) place if you want so you're not alone."…See More
Janie m Snitko commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Today was a good day! I love you and thank you so very much Mama! I think of you everyday while cleaning up your home and getting it ready for sale. It is still hard for me to go there and not seeing you watching Dr.Phil and judge Judy! I have not…"
Beth Swansboro posted a status
"I am just learning this new place to talk. Not real sure how it works. I will stop in again. Thinking alot tonite of my husband. Sad."
Beth Swansboro posted a status
"I get sad when I see family together. My son who is an only child I feel pain for. He lost the person he loved so much and talked to alot."
Beth Swansboro posted a status
"Been reading the articles past few days. Lost my husband Nov. 2015. Not a day goes by I wish he were here. I will like being able to be here"
Jennifer commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Apparently, I have found the anger that my counselor and everyone else has been saying I was going to feel.  To this point, all I have felt is sad or numb.  Well, the last 2 days I have not been able to stand to see happy families.…"
Diane commented on Angela's blog post I lost My Mom
"My mom had renal failure , she passed away December 2015. I still miss her everyday of my breathing, during this time I had broken my right wrist on a Friday Dec. 11 2015 my mom died on the 17. The pain was in so many directions, leaving the…"
Diane posted a status
"It's been 2 years since my mom died, I still miss her , it will be 3 years really in December. I miss u mom. Love you so much,"
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AnneJ commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi, Linda. I feel the same way as you. I feel like you could walk right into my home, sit down, and we wouldn't have to say a word and be completely understood by one another. It's been 3 years and 10 months since my Beloved man died, the…"

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